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Why do people say 'I forgive people, but I won't forget'
Gusto Brunt
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Surely forgiving IS forgetting.
To say you forgive someone, and then go on to say', but I'll never forget', means you're still harbouring negative thoughts or bitterness.
Wouldn't you agree?
Better say I do forgive you and I will not think about it ever again. If you cannot forget about it completely then you haven't forgiven.
To say you forgive someone, and then go on to say', but I'll never forget', means you're still harbouring negative thoughts or bitterness.
Wouldn't you agree?
Better say I do forgive you and I will not think about it ever again. If you cannot forget about it completely then you haven't forgiven.
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Although i don't think you necessarily have to say to the person 'i can forgive you but i won't forget' You could keep the fact you won't forget to yourself
The adding of the 'I won't forget it' doesn't sound like forgiveness to me, that's all. I'm not talking about you, just people in general.
Not everyone says 'i won't forget it' when they tell someone they have forgiven them
The implication is that you can forgive someone for a particular action, but if they do it again, you're not simply going to forget that they've already done it once, so you might not forgive them the second time.
* EDIT * Lightdragon's beaten me to it!
I've always thought the same as you about that.
Because they have an over-inflated view of themselves and their importance.
The reality is until old age kicks in we forget few events in life, good or bad.
Because you don't want to keep bitterness in your heart from the past, as it holds you prisoner from the future. At the same time a negative event in your life caused by another individual, will never be forgotten by you. Good or bad events in our lives will always be to the fore in our minds. Not possible to "forget", or erase a memory which has left a strong imprint on the consciousness.
You will forget what people did, you will forget what they said, but you will never forget how they made you feel.
as in, you cant make yourself forget things