Opinions - frilly top - is it just me being too self conscious?

IzzyS · 17/03/13 - 03:16

This might sound strange and im not sure how to word it but ill try. I bought this top in a sale this morning, see:- http://i48.tinypic.com/ekf4h.jpg

I quite liked it, mainly due to the colour and the fact it has long sleeves, since I was looking for long sleeved tops.

Anyway, I thought it looked pretty and it was cheap so I bought it and when I got home, I tried it on. It fits fine and I showed my parents - my mum thinks it looks really nice on me but I felt a bit silly with it on, like it makes me look like a school child or something. I know parents can be biased and I'm rather clueless about fashion, so I just wondered what peoples opinions are about wearing a top like that, given im 30? (its a size 12 and I wear dress size 12) am I being too self conscious? I only ask as I tend to do nothing but wear basic tshirts and plain tops - I have one with small frills on the sleeves but thats it. I have little confidence in wearing anything much fancy or show off-y, I just felt a bit like that top looks like something perhaps a kid would wear but it is in an adult size so I dont know lol.

Maybe its just me?. I honestly thought it looked nice in the shops. I'd like to feel I can wear things that are a little bit different, even if its only a little frill here and there - it makes me sad I feel a bit self conscious even wearing that(!). Maybe its just that top though? I dont want to wear it if people might laugh at me but my mum thought it looked really nice on me

and I liked it in the shop, it was more a psychological feeling that I felt a little silly wearing it, when I put it on (I hadn't even been to a mirror to check what it looked like, when I felt that way).

Any thoughts?.

[Deleted User] · 17/03/13 - 03:20

Oh Izzy, you are sweet

The top is fine, great colour! The frilly bit is a peplum, emphasises a curvy hourglassy waist/hip, very Kardashians but don't let that put you off

[Deleted User] · 17/03/13 - 03:21

I'd say you can wear it! Its a lovely colour and still quite plain, so only just out your comfort zone

From the post I expected something with frills like this! http://www.angels-face.co.uk/shop/images/products/ffc1.jpg

[Deleted User] · 17/03/13 - 03:27

jane-hen12 wrote: »

I'd say you can wear it! Its a lovely colour and still quite plain, so only just out your comfort zone

From the post I expected something with frills like this! http://www.angels-face.co.uk/shop/images/products/ffc1.jpg

That thing is going to give me nightmares :eek:

IzzyS · 17/03/13 - 03:36

Phyllis Stein wrote: »

Oh Izzy, you are sweet

The top is fine, great colour! The frilly bit is a peplum, emphasises a curvy hourglassy waist/hip, very Kardashians but don't let that put you off

Oh? I can't think of seeing anyone wear something like that but then I don't really read the celeb gossip magazines so I suppose I wouldn't necessarily know. I think my mum said its quite flattering but I just thought maybe it looks like something meant more for younger people? I don't know.

Thanks for replying

I guess it was a silly question.

lea_uk · 17/03/13 - 04:17

I was expecting a really frilly monstrosity, but that's a nice peplum. It's really nice. You're only 30, so hardly old.

IzzyS · 17/03/13 - 04:46

lea_uk wrote: »

I was expecting a really frilly monstrosity, but that's a nice peplum. It's really nice. You're only 30, so hardly old.

I guess not. Thanks

sweh · 18/03/13 - 01:02

lol you really must be clueless about fashion.

Like the others said, that's a peplum top and it's very trendy at the moment.

I have that exact top in a few colours. It's not silly at all! Are you saying I'm silly!? :mad:

IzzyS · 18/03/13 - 01:22

sweh wrote: »

lol you really must be clueless about fashion. Like the others said, that's a peplum top and it's very trendy at the moment.

I have that exact top in a few colours. It's not silly at all! Are you saying I'm silly!? :mad:

I don't really follow fashion as such. I don't know much about girly things like make up or beauty to be honest. I never had many friends at secondary school to help me out with that sort of thing. One time a supposed friend came over to my house and offered to give me a make over but that was a bit disastrous - too over the top, too many products, I thought I looked ridiculous

she was one of those people who would bully you one year then try and be your friend the next...a bit peculiar :-/ makeup tends to react to my skin anyway though. I try to look nice or certainly presentable but I dont really know much about fashion or beauty as such... I usually just wear long sleeve tops or tshirts and jeans or leggings and use tinted lip balms, maybe a bit of moisturising cream - thats about it.

I was meaning maybe I was silly posting this topic, obviously lol

[Deleted User] · 18/03/13 - 02:11

I wanna see the top

the page won't load for me. I feel left out!

Edited to add- peplums are brilliant! And I love long sleeved tops, which is why I'm so keen to see it as I may go on search for it in shop for myself

IzzyS · 18/03/13 - 02:33

boredof_lurking wrote: »

I wanna see the top the page won't load for me. I feel left out!

Edited to add- peplums are brilliant! And I love long sleeved tops, which is why I'm so keen to see it as I may go on search for it in shop for myself

Try this:- http://img268.imageshack.us/img268/6148/dottypstop.jpg

[Deleted User] · 18/03/13 - 02:49

Oo I like that! It will go with lots

I may have to get down to DP, I need some new tops to go with my jeggings and skinnies, that style top would go perfectly

And I'm confident that you will not look silly in it, I'm 30 also and would have no qualms wearing a top like that at all. Wear it with pride, you'll look fab

IzzyS · 18/03/13 - 02:50

boredof_lurking wrote: »

Oo I like that! It will go with lots

I may have to get down to DP, I need some new tops to go with my jeggings and skinnies, that style top would go perfectly

And I'm confident that you will not look silly in it, I'm 30 also and would have no qualms wearing a top like that at all. Wear it with pride, you'll look fab

Thanks

I got it in BHS, not Dorothy Perkins although its a DP item, if that helps. It was in the sale, £5 I think.

[Deleted User] · 19/03/13 - 08:25

It looks like a nice top and I bet you look great in it

IzzyS · 19/03/13 - 17:45

wombat18 wrote: »

It looks like a nice top and I bet you look great in it

Thanks

[Deleted User] · 20/03/13 - 01:03

They have the same one in red or black in the DP sale section

http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&storeId=12552&catalogId=33053&productId=8719081&categoryId=&parent_category_rn=

AnitaS · 21/03/13 - 13:04

Lovely top Izzy - your mum is right:)

Ella Nut · 21/03/13 - 19:15

Izzy, I am sure you don't need any more confirmation that the top is lovely, your mum is right and honestly, if I tried it on, didn't feel too girlish in it (or something similar) I might wear it at my age - 45.

NewExample · 22/03/13 - 09:41

How is 30 old?

btw the top's nice, some black skinny jeans and a nice longish black or silver necklace, perfect.

elliecat · 22/03/13 - 16:16

it's a nice top and 30 isn't old believe me.

IzzyS · 23/03/13 - 01:27

NewExample wrote: »

How is 30 old? btw the top's nice, some black skinny jeans and a nice longish black or silver necklace, perfect.

elliecat wrote: »

it's a nice top and 30 isn't old believe me.

Well ok, not really old but it feels old to me because I barely feel like I'm 18, let alone 30. Thats a whole other issue though lol.

Thanks for the replies everyone.

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