I'm so sorry to see this, QG. You may find this strange as I've never spoken to you but I always notice your posts and when I saw this thread title I actually felt a jolt of horror through my body. It was always very obvious how in love you were. I don't know what to say, other than I am so sorry, and I will be thinking of you. I think it's obvious how much everyone here is here for you, even those of us who don't really know you. Please find someone to stay with you - your daughter, or a friend, you shouldn't be alone right now. I'm so sorry again, QG. We're all here for you xxxx
I'm very sorry to hear this. Mind yourself, Same thing happened to my mum in August and it was only in the last few weeks I realised she was gone. My heart goes out to you.
I never thought we would part this way. But......he tweaked my nipple this morning just before he went to his GP, so I know in my heart-of-hearts he still 'wanted fun'. He spoke to his sister last night about Christmas and the things he was going to make (kofta curry and rice for Boxing Day). I just spoke to my neighbours who were with me this morning. I feel so numb, my eyes are red stinging from crying and the shock. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think this would happen.
Always hug the ones you love because you never know when it'll be the last. Mr Qs' heart packed while he was in my arms. His eyes were horrible. I tried so hard. Our daughter was screaming. I just pounded his chest, sorted his head for me to breath into him and begged and prayed.
Thank you all XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
I've never spoken to you before but have noticed your posts around here. There's a lump in my throat because I honestly can't even begin to imagine what you must be feeling. I can only imagine how I would feel if I lost someone I love, but my imagination probably doesn't even come close to what must go through your mind when it actually happens. All I can suggest is if you feel like just lying in bed and crying, then you do that. Don't think you have to put a brave face on for everyone. They'll understand that you need to grieve.
I'm so sorry for your loss and you and your family will be in my thoughts x
One comfort I have is that he passed away to be with his mum who died 15 years ago today. There has to be a reason. He didn't pass away yesterday or tomorrow, but today of all days. He didn't suffer or die alone. I don't think I could live with myself if he just said to me he didn't feel well and that I did some shopping come back and find him there, alone and not knowing how long he was there for. I hope he knows I really, really tried.
QwertyGirl words cannot express my sadness for you at this dreadfull time i know of you throughout the forum and am shocked at your loss. Try and be strong and you will get through this, i know you do not know me but my heart goes out to you and your family at this sad time:( god bless) xxxxxx and
oh QG sending you the biggest hugs, will someone be at home with you tonight? xxx as a previous poster said before we are all here for you tonight and whenever you need us xxx
Aww thats awful its so tragic !! 69 is too young too and just looking over your previous posts i see you loved him alot. Condolonces for your loss !
ALso it really puts other issues into perspective...i mean lets be honest all i'm worrying about at the moment is how to tell a girl i'm a virgin and about a house party...yet seeing threads like this makes me realise how trivial my (and other peoples) situations are in the whole scheme of things.
But yeah i'm sure he lived a very happy life with you and we're all here to support you!
One comfort I have is that he passed away to be with his mum who died 15 years ago today. There has to be a reason. He didn't pass away yesterday or tomorrow, but today of all days. He didn't suffer or die alone. I don't think I could live with myself if he just said to me he didn't feel well and that I did some shopping come back and find him there, alone and not knowing how long he was there for. I hope he knows I really, really tried.
He knows.
Things do happen for reasons, painful, difficult and impossible to understand as they can sometimes seem when they knock the wind from us. I'm glad you're taking comfort from the thought that Mr Q's gone to be with his mum; they'll be looking after you and your family together
Please don't start to blame yourself for not being able to keep him here. From what you've said, I doubt there's anything more anyone could have done. Remember that his last moments were in your arms, and I bet he wouldn't have wanted it any different.
One comfort I have is that he passed away to be with his mum who died 15 years ago today. There has to be a reason. He didn't pass away yesterday or tomorrow, but today of all days. He didn't suffer or die alone. I don't think I could live with myself if he just said to me he didn't feel well and that I did some shopping come back and find him there, alone and not knowing how long he was there for. I hope he knows I really, really tried.
He will know Qwerty,Im certain of that and Im sure his mum was waiting for him so please dont think he will be alone.
He was by your side for the past 19 years,do you really think he has left you forever?,he will still be by your side and soon you will feel him around you.I hope you will feel comforted by the thought of us all praying for you and just being around for when you need someone to listen to you.
((Qwerty))) So sorry to hear of you loss.
My OH is also a lot older than me and has suffered from poor health so I can really relate to what you are going through, it must be your worst nightmare.
I can understand why you would want to come here and tell people as you are not able to be with people at the moment. I hope you can get someone to come round and stay with you though.x
I'm so sorry to hear this, my deepest condolences. Try to take comfort in those around you and talk about things as much as you need. Whatever you want or need to do, do it. Stay strong xxx
What a nightmare for you. There is not a lot we can do or say and I won't even insult you with the usual cliches. Just to let you know though, that there are people thinking about you, and although you might be physically alone, you are in others' thoughts, even though you don't know who we are.
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Always hug the ones you love because you never know when it'll be the last. Mr Qs' heart packed while he was in my arms. His eyes were horrible. I tried so hard. Our daughter was screaming. I just pounded his chest, sorted his head for me to breath into him and begged and prayed.
Thank you all XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
I'm so sorry for your loss and you and your family will be in my thoughts x
(((((HUGS:)))))))) XXXXXX
ALso it really puts other issues into perspective...i mean lets be honest all i'm worrying about at the moment is how to tell a girl i'm a virgin and about a house party...yet seeing threads like this makes me realise how trivial my (and other peoples) situations are in the whole scheme of things.
But yeah i'm sure he lived a very happy life with you and we're all here to support you!
He knows.
Things do happen for reasons, painful, difficult and impossible to understand as they can sometimes seem when they knock the wind from us. I'm glad you're taking comfort from the thought that Mr Q's gone to be with his mum; they'll be looking after you and your family together
Please don't start to blame yourself for not being able to keep him here. From what you've said, I doubt there's anything more anyone could have done. Remember that his last moments were in your arms, and I bet he wouldn't have wanted it any different.
Take care of yourself xxx
He will know Qwerty,Im certain of that and Im sure his mum was waiting for him so please dont think he will be alone.
He was by your side for the past 19 years,do you really think he has left you forever?,he will still be by your side and soon you will feel him around you.I hope you will feel comforted by the thought of us all praying for you and just being around for when you need someone to listen to you.
Rest In Forever Peace Mr Qwertyxx
My OH is also a lot older than me and has suffered from poor health so I can really relate to what you are going through, it must be your worst nightmare.
I can understand why you would want to come here and tell people as you are not able to be with people at the moment. I hope you can get someone to come round and stay with you though.x
However hard it might seem now, your daughter needs you. Spend time with her now.
Take care of yourself - and good luck.
Take care.