I gave up on POF yonks ago, and opted for a Wantaquickie membership instead which has been generally ok re the dates, and also, i really like their daily e'mail of mugshots "look who's joined wantaquickie today", there's always something in that list of photo's that makes me either chuckle, go "yeah nice one", or just yell "ehhh, no way hosay" !!
I like the sound of that Denzl, :rolleyes: is that what get's you up of a morning
I got a date with some bird on pof. Spent the first half laying down some incredibly forward and cheeky one-liners interspersed with the odd double-entendre, and the second with my tail between my legs trying to explain myself away at her indignance:o
Ive used that site before, the trouble with men on there was that some of them are really desperate or some just drop you a copy and paste message which doesnt really make you want to reply to the person, if i saw a person had made an effort id make an effort back. Also sometimes even when theyve given you a good first message they dont try to make any further conversation so your stuck with a message of two or three words going back and forth which turns out to be pointless.
I did meet someone off that site though, it started off great and lasted about 8 month, in my experience Pof is an idiotic site and most people on there will tell you anything you want to hear.
Plenty of Fish and other dating sites only work for males if they are handsome, sexy hunks. Normal males dont get a look in, any male who is overweight bald and just generally unattractive will get ZERO responses.
WOmen get a slightly better response regardless of what they look like as all the ugly men will try to at least get a response out of them but the ugly women are still driven by what media industry deems acceptable, so even then there is no reply.
I carried out an experiement a couple of times, set up another account, found a picture of a sexy looking male escort and used that as profile pic, I made the profile identical to mine. Needless to say I struggled with getting any reply, but my fake profile , well I did not even bother, before the picture was even approved I got a message from one of the admins who said she shouldnt be really contacting me, but she was very attracted and hoped to "see more" etc.
I had countless offers of sex and many women waxing lyrical about single dad looking after kids and they would love to be part of that process of helping with raising the kids.
I thought "excellent" so waited about a week then contacted the women who said this to my fake account, but they just fobbed me off with things like "sorry I do not want to have anything o do with other peopes kids" !!!!
Forums were the same, said same things on one dating site forum, MR handsome got loads of "you are right" "how true" "you are aamzing" type responses, yet when I made same comments a month later, the same people would make lengthy replies basically making out that i would say those things as I am just saying them because no one really likes how I look etc.. Very nasty , shallow and hypercritical.
We live in a very sad cruel world , the internet has made it even more difficult to just have a relationship with anyone as most people seem to be looking for thier soul mate and all potential partners have to compete with rest of world.
SO If you are not getting many responses on dating sites, then dont worry, its just the world doing what they have bene told to do by the media and fashion industry.
That's an interesting story, but I think most people have the potential to be "attractive" - look at wayne rooney for instance. Some people just need to work at it a bit more, Using the internet to demonstrate your point is a bit like giving up before you've started.
I've had a fair bit of 'success' of POF and i'm nothing special to look at. Met some nice people and made some good friends. Not found 'the one' yet but I'm only 21, so plenty of time.
I'm quite shy so find it easier than meeting people in bars. I think generally if you don't have any expectations then you can't go far wrong.
That's an interesting story, but I think most people have the potential to be "attractive" - look at wayne rooney for instance. Some people just need to work at it a bit more, Using the internet to demonstrate your point is a bit like giving up before you've started.
Do I really have to? . Lol seriously though he has the advantage of money.
How I see it is if you get a date out of it thats something and if no one replies its their loss at the end of the day. I think too many people are hung up on how someone should look and that they should aspire to look like a celeb to gain dates. Personally dating sites are a waste of time but that was only my experiences.
Do I really have to? . Lol seriously though he has the advantage of money.
Wayne and Colleen got together long before he was famous.
Its not about money all the time some ugly guys can get hot girlfriends without that. Only a select few of them though so don't give me all this rubbish about money being the main attraction!
Has anyone tried the freedating.co.uk site? I haven't bothered with the dating side but the forums are hysterical. Imagine DS GD but with people's pictures on full view to be slated.
I was on there for a short while. Some very strange people on there. I did find one lady on there and when I asked if she wanted to meet for a date she went quiet and never returned the messages I sent! I did find that there were lots on there for purely for attention seeking reasons. Some very damaged people on there there I spoke too sadly.
A lot of those women do have very high expectations on there.
I don't, I just wanted to meet someone with the right chemistry, who I could talk to, laugh with and enjoy some activities together but all I got were men wanting a quickie.
I don't, I just wanted to meet someone with the right chemistry, who I could talk to, laugh with and enjoy some activities together but all I got were men wanting a quickie.
Fair enough but I got the impression that a large number of women on there wanted:
- A man no shorter than 5'10, preferably at least 6ft+ (even though only about 25% of the male population is above 6ft).
- A man earning at least 40k, anything less than that is unacceptable.
- A man with a good dating track record and has lots of experiance. Inexperianced men and dare say virgins above the age of 25 are NOT TOLERATED.
I've never registered with the site but reading it seems quite funny sometimes. And some of the blokes are equally idiots on there.
That's an interesting story, but I think most people have the potential to be "attractive" - look at wayne rooney for instance.
Wayne Rooney is repellent in every way. If he wasn't a footballer he would be struggling for a date. He did not even manage, with all his money to marry a good looking woman.
I can understand why not so good looking guys won't get a response. I do not think women in there are superficial and just want to date hunks. When you meet someone face to face, you may be instantly attracted to a persons demeanour, the voice, the way that person talks, moves, regardless of looks. It's a certain chemistry that is difficult to explain. But that is impossible to transmit by a photo and a profile. If someone is conventionally good looking in a profile photograph there is always an instant connection. A starting point that people feel they can work with.
Fair enough but I got the impression that a large number of women on there wanted:
- A man no shorter than 5'10, preferably at least 6ft+ (even though only about 25% of the male population is above 6ft).
- A man earning at least 40k, anything less than that is unacceptable.
- A man with a good dating track record and has lots of experiance. Inexperianced men and dare say virgins above the age of 25 are NOT TOLERATED.
I've never registered with the site but reading it seems quite funny sometimes. And some of the blokes are equally idiots on there.
There are women like that as there are men who will only consider someone who fits a certain stereotype. Those were the sort of men I was attracting and I found them the least attractive.
A lot of women are not interested in a man's bank balance, we can deal with our own quite well, we want someone to have a lovely time with, to enjoy and be enjoyed, friendship too is never over rated.
I've never had an issue with virgins either LOL Do women really say that?
I was on POF for a little while to see if I'd have any better luck with women (as a bisexual woman) than I have done IRL so far. I got chatting to this one girl who seemed really cool, but I'm pretty certain she was actually a bloke in fairly convincing disguise. 'She' has since vanished, but before she went she managed in a roundabout way to introduce me to the amazing boyfriend I've got now. So, swings and roundabouts really.
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I like the sound of that Denzl, :rolleyes: is that what get's you up of a morning
Not the morning, i have plenty to keep me interested AM, i save that treat for much later in the day
So was there a second date?
I did meet someone off that site though, it started off great and lasted about 8 month, in my experience Pof is an idiotic site and most people on there will tell you anything you want to hear.
That's an interesting story, but I think most people have the potential to be "attractive" - look at wayne rooney for instance. Some people just need to work at it a bit more, Using the internet to demonstrate your point is a bit like giving up before you've started.
I'm quite shy so find it easier than meeting people in bars. I think generally if you don't have any expectations then you can't go far wrong.
Wayne and Colleen got together long before he was famous.
Its not about money all the time some ugly guys can get hot girlfriends without that. Only a select few of them though so don't give me all this rubbish about money being the main attraction!
they add you then dont talk to you again lol
I use POF but there aren't too many people that I like/shown interest to me that live very close...
Ditto the 'quality' of men. Like going on a poundstretcher website to buy stuff, that's the quality.
I don't, I just wanted to meet someone with the right chemistry, who I could talk to, laugh with and enjoy some activities together but all I got were men wanting a quickie.
Fair enough but I got the impression that a large number of women on there wanted:
- A man no shorter than 5'10, preferably at least 6ft+ (even though only about 25% of the male population is above 6ft).
- A man earning at least 40k, anything less than that is unacceptable.
- A man with a good dating track record and has lots of experiance. Inexperianced men and dare say virgins above the age of 25 are NOT TOLERATED.
I've never registered with the site but reading it seems quite funny sometimes. And some of the blokes are equally idiots on there.
Wayne Rooney is repellent in every way. If he wasn't a footballer he would be struggling for a date. He did not even manage, with all his money to marry a good looking woman.
I can understand why not so good looking guys won't get a response. I do not think women in there are superficial and just want to date hunks. When you meet someone face to face, you may be instantly attracted to a persons demeanour, the voice, the way that person talks, moves, regardless of looks. It's a certain chemistry that is difficult to explain. But that is impossible to transmit by a photo and a profile. If someone is conventionally good looking in a profile photograph there is always an instant connection. A starting point that people feel they can work with.
There are women like that as there are men who will only consider someone who fits a certain stereotype. Those were the sort of men I was attracting and I found them the least attractive.
A lot of women are not interested in a man's bank balance, we can deal with our own quite well, we want someone to have a lovely time with, to enjoy and be enjoyed, friendship too is never over rated.
I've never had an issue with virgins either LOL Do women really say that?