Should I Run Away

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 18:00

I'm so fed up with my life, I keep having fantasies about packing a bag emptying my bank account and running away without telling anyone. I have no kids or partner but I know it would worry my friends and family. Should I just do it?

artnada · 06/09/12 - 18:02

I SHOT BAMBI wrote: »

I'm so fed up with my life, I keep having fantasies about packing a bag emptying my bank account and running away without telling anyone. I have no kids or partner but I know it would worry my friends and family. Should I just do it?

I see a flaw in your plan!

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 18:04

I think you should talk to a professional about your feelings as it could be part of an underlying problem.

Although, everybody wants to run away and hide sometimes. Is there something specific in your life that's making you feel this way, if so try and change that specific thing.

I wouldn't do it. You said yourself, it would worry your friends and family and isn't a very nice thing to do. Maybe go on holiday for a change of scenery or something, but don't run away.

InkyPinky · 06/09/12 - 18:07

No.Change things where you are. I ran away once but discovered I was still there, and the problem wasn't where I was but how I dealt with it

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 18:09

artnada wrote: »

I see a flaw in your plan!

Haha I mean not telling anyone who kows me in person. Thanks though that did snap me out of my mood a bit.

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 18:19

Rosaliee wrote: »

I think you should talk to a professional about your feelings as it could be part of an underlying problem.

Although, everybody wants to run away and hide sometimes. Is there something specific in your life that's making you feel this way, if so try and change that specific thing.

I wouldn't do it. You said yourself, it would worry your friends and family and isn't a very nice thing to do. Maybe go on holiday for a change of scenery or something, but don't run away.

I have thought about speaking to someone. I just feel so silly talking to people about it in a formal environment. Its easy on here, I don't mind looking silly to people I don't know face to face.

InkyPinky wrote: »

No.Change things where you are. I ran away once but discovered I was still there, and the problem wasn't where I was but how I dealt with it

I kinda know deep down that you are right. I just don't know how to change things and feel as though I am not in control of my own life even though I try so hard to stay in control.

Hobbit Feet · 06/09/12 - 18:21

The decision is totally yours

However if you do, make sure that you inform the salvation army that you don't wish to be found. They will ensure that anyone wishing to find you can't but will know that you are ok. Anything else is beyond cruel.

Akane Tendo · 06/09/12 - 18:23

How could you shoot Bambi! :mad::mad:

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 18:28

If you think you can do it, then do it. Most people on here will advise you not to, because it's the 'done' thing to advise for someone in your situation. Maybe running away will give you some control. I hitch-hiked across Italy 2 years ago, and it was one of the best times of my life. I'd gone through some messed up shit a few months before that.

Hobbit Feet · 06/09/12 - 18:28

Akane Tendo wrote: »

How could you shoot Bambi! :mad::mad:

Or even worse Bambi's mother

'Bambi - your mother can't be with you anymore'

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 18:28

I know it's not really any of my business, but I do think you should tell close friends and family that you are moving away for a while. Don't run. It's not very fair on them.

[Deleted User] · 06/09/12 - 20:47

Well tell them before you go, otherwise you will waste police time. Go if you wish, but be aware of the consequences.

Jason · 06/09/12 - 20:55

Maybe the middle ground is to go travelling for an extended period of time ?

Tell the people you care about that you're going and just go. Obviously make sure you keep in contact to let them know you're ok, but it could certainly achieve your 'goal' of getting away from it all for a while.

Hugh Jboobs · 06/09/12 - 21:34

I SHOT BAMBI wrote: »

I'm so fed up with my life, I keep having fantasies about packing a bag emptying my bank account and running away without telling anyone. I have no kids or partner but I know it would worry my friends and family. Should I just do it?

I don't have any advice for you. But I bloody LOVE your username!

TWS · 06/09/12 - 22:02

EternalFlame wrote: »

If you think you can do it, then do it. Most people on here will advise you not to, because it's the 'done' thing to advise for someone in your situation. Maybe running away will give you some control. I hitch-hiked across Italy 2 years ago, and it was one of the best times of my life. I'd gone through some messed up shit a few months before that.

No most people would advise her to at the very least leave a note or phone after x hours so the police and various other people don't have to waste their time looking for someone who has gone on a jaunt

paralax · 06/09/12 - 22:10

Well you know the saying, you can run but your can't hide. The problem whatever it is might just travel with you. I would say nothing wrong with a change of scenery, and to go and travel, but to be safe you should let people know where you are all the time. Don't be shy about talking to professionals, there is nothing they havn't already heard. Good luck luv.

[Deleted User] · 07/09/12 - 01:39

I would take a short break alone to get time to think things through. Distance from demands can help put things into perspective.

What exactly do you want to run away from?

Toggler · 07/09/12 - 09:46

Wherever you go your problems will be with you; there is no escape. Stay where you are, write down all the issues and then take the long slow journey to where you want to be.

I think we all feel like running away sometimes, but just get our heads down and carry on. You're not alone. I'm supposed to be preparing my VAT for the accountant, but what am I doing ..... putting it off by thinking 'just 5 mins on DS'.

[Deleted User] · 07/09/12 - 10:57

Are you working? Could you go to the doctor's tell them how you feel and get some sick leave off work? Then perhaps you could take a break and clear your head, but don't keep all this hidden. There's no need to run away in secret. You need to work out what part of your life you are fed up with before you can start to improve it.

[Deleted User] · 07/09/12 - 12:38

Please dont just disappear off without telling your family, can you imagine the pain they will go through not knowing what has happened to you, wondering if there was something they could have said or done to help you? I've seen families torn apart from the disappearance of a family member.

Maybe travelling will help but you can do that with your families knowledge

[Deleted User] · 07/09/12 - 13:11

Sadly you can't run away from yourself. A new life won't sort your problems, it may distract you for a time but you'll follow yourself around like a lost puppy.

scousesiren · 07/09/12 - 14:47

I'd suggest to go on a holiday to get a way from it all for a while. I'd discourage you from running away. Imagine the worry you would cause for your friends and family. Go away, clear your head and hopefully you'll return with a whole new perspective on life.

MarzBar85 · 07/09/12 - 14:52

EternalFlame wrote: »

If you think you can do it, then do it. Most people on here will advise you not to, because it's the 'done' thing to advise for someone in your situation. Maybe running away will give you some control. I hitch-hiked across Italy 2 years ago, and it was one of the best times of my life. I'd gone through some messed up shit a few months before that.

Sometimes just disappearing, taking time out is the only thing that will return things to normality! It sorted my head out when I did it.

I'm thinking of doing it again, permanently this, to escape the horrible job situation here. :mad:

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