Do you see your parents every weekend?

[Deleted User] · 31/01/15 - 13:14

For those who still have parents, do you see them every single weekend? I often do, but just fancied a weekend to myself to catch up on chores and TV I haven't been able to see during the week because of work. Is it bad if you don't see your parents every weekend?

Hollie_Louise · 31/01/15 - 13:17

God no. Once a month is more than enough to see my mum. I do remember going to see my nan every Sunday growing up though

CELT1987 · 31/01/15 - 13:20

Once a week. I have a meal there.

LostFool · 31/01/15 - 13:20

I live 250 miles away from mine so 2 or 3 times a year is enough for all of us.

epicurian · 31/01/15 - 13:21

No. I've spent very few weekends with my parents since I moved out when I was 18, and even fewer since I moved 5000 miles away eleven years ago. A bit of a pity I suppose, but the upside is when I do see them, we make the most of our time and get along great.

annette kurten · 31/01/15 - 13:21

i`ve not seen my father for a couple of years and i see my mother as little as possible though she recently had a stroke so i`ve been seeing her in hospital at family member`s where she`s staying just now, i don`t much like her so i do avoid it when i can.

[Deleted User] · 31/01/15 - 13:29

Hollie_Louise wrote: »

God no. Once a month is more than enough to see my mum. I do remember going to see my nan every Sunday growing up though

That made me laugh.

We used to go see my nan every Saturday, but I feel like my parents want to come here every Saturday too, but sometimes I need to do stuff and can't when they're around. I hate just sitting down in front of the TV all day when there's stuff to do.

Safi74 · 31/01/15 - 13:57

Sadly not. I see my mum most weeks as she helps in my class once a week, but dad less so. We talk everyday, just to catch up. I wish they still lived closer as I'd see them far more. They're only an hours drive either way, but at the end of a knackering week that is too far!

lemoncurd · 31/01/15 - 13:58

No. About 2-3 times a year. (They're in Bolton and I'm in Bristol!).

Pumping Iron · 31/01/15 - 14:00

Most days.

Safi74 · 31/01/15 - 14:04

Pumping Iron wrote: »

Most days.

You lucky thing!

Frankie_Little · 31/01/15 - 14:05

My mum lives too far away for me to see her every weekend, although I do try to see her about once a month, especially since my dad died. She's alright though, she's not a lonely woman, she has a lot of old lady mates that she knocks about with, going out for pub lunches and theatre matinees, and seeing how far they can get on their free bus passes.

I don't think anyone should feel obliged to visit their parents though, not every single weekend, that's a heck of a commitment, particularly if you work Monday to Friday and only get weekends off.

The Martian · 31/01/15 - 14:05

I go to parents to eat Sunday lunch and drop in maybe 2 or 3 times per week. My mom usually visits on Wednesday evenings just to make sure I'm keeping my place in order.

My dad visits once a month on average to smoke some weed and challenge me to games of FIFA. :cool:

kiviraat · 31/01/15 - 14:06

Not seen or spoken to my parents for almost 4 years. It's a beautiful thing. See my mother in law maybe once a year (would take at least 17 hours to get from my house to hers) and speak to her on the phone every month or so.

Pumping Iron · 31/01/15 - 16:50

Safi74 wrote: »

You lucky thing!

I live next door. They are both retired so will help out with childcare when we have a family and we will help look after them when they get old.

grumpyscot · 31/01/15 - 17:00

I see my Dad at least twice a week. Usually Tuesday or Wednesday we go out for lunch. Friday we collect grand-daughter (great grand-daughter in his case) from school the go for lunch together.

My sister takes him for lunch on Thursday and has him for Sunday dinner.

My son and daughter-in-law usually pop in to see him when they are out doing their 5k run

We also go on holiday with him for 3 weeks every year.

He's 90 going on 19 !

Having devoted so much time to raise us, it's the least we can do. I think people forget how lonely elderly people can get and contact - even just a 5 minute phone call - makes all the difference.

In my book, you should go out of your way to see / speak to your parents (unless they abused you of course). Life is too short to have regrets.

venusinflares · 31/01/15 - 17:09

I see my parents at least once per week, sometimes more often. We live quite close to them though.

muggins14 · 31/01/15 - 17:12

I speak to Mum every day and see her and Dad around 2-3 times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less, depending upon how they are feeling. I drive them when they need it/when I can and help out with shopping, etc. They moved down here when I was getting divorced, it's only 20 mins to their house.

He has severe dementia and doesn't really know who I am and she has just last week been told her cancer had returned, so I will also be babysitting Dad when Mum starts her chemo in a couple of weeks and helping out with him.

My younger brother lives in Holland and comes over 2-3 times a year and calls each week, older brother lives in Surrey, he seldom comes to see them.

Espresso · 31/01/15 - 17:23

We used to live in different countries, so I saw them maybe once a year.
Now we live in the same town, so I see them a few times a week.
Lovely folk, my parents.

Luckyyem · 31/01/15 - 18:13

I see my mum at least once a week. I speak to her daily. My dad lives in Canada and we did try and visit once a year, what with the expense and having two young children that hasn't been possible for the past couple of years. We are going over for Christmas this year though (stupidly excited, I can't wait!!) and it will be 3.5yrs since we have been together in person. We do text/email/whatsapp most days though and Skype once a week.

We see my mother in law about once a month but text/speak regularly.

Safi74 · 31/01/15 - 18:14

Pumping Iron wrote: »

I live next door. They are both retired so will help out with childcare when we have a family and we will help look after them when they get old.

Sounds ideal to me 😊.

[Deleted User] · 31/01/15 - 18:20

Don't speak to my Mum and haven't seen my Dad for years. See my MIL 3 or 4 times a year and speak to her most days but she's 350 miles away unfortunately.

LostFool · 31/01/15 - 19:01

Safi74 wrote: »

Sounds ideal to me 😊.

Sounds horrendous to me.

It's not that we don't get on but being over 200 miles apart is a comfortable distance.

[Deleted User] · 31/01/15 - 19:14

I tried to see my mum a couple of times a week but it was hard going...difficult woman. I drove her to supermarket and doctors etc, my brother and sister did nothing, due to distance, but when she died it was like I wasn't even her daughter !!
I used to phone my dad once a week but he always asked why I was phoning so I stopped and waited for him to call me................still waiting

Pumping Iron · 31/01/15 - 19:22

Safi74 wrote: »

Sounds ideal to me 😊.

It is for me

I think it tends to be more of an Asian thing though. I would have had an elderly parent move in with me if need be, but living so close, but under separate roofs is ideal. It's not such a common thing with modern British families though. The in-laws only live a few miles away in the next village, which is pretty handy too. Family is very important IMO.

cah · 31/01/15 - 20:07

I used to see my Mum and Dad (when he was alive) everyday as we lived just round the corner from from another ,Now i live 350 miles away so only get to see my Mum maybe 3-4 times a year sadly,but i make sure i phone her everyday to check she's ok as she's 85

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