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I'm not really expecting any advice I'm just really upset and angry.
Me and my hubby had an argument earlier and since then he's completey ignored me. apart from the odd insult here and there. So I thought I'd give him some space. I've just gone to talk to him and he's snoring his head off in the spare room.
I'm so upset cos I feel frustrated and alone. I just wanted to sort things out.
I'm sorry I don't usually sound off about thes things, just needed to let it out before I go mad!
Me and my hubby had an argument earlier and since then he's completey ignored me. apart from the odd insult here and there. So I thought I'd give him some space. I've just gone to talk to him and he's snoring his head off in the spare room.
I'm so upset cos I feel frustrated and alone. I just wanted to sort things out.
I'm sorry I don't usually sound off about thes things, just needed to let it out before I go mad!
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I was upset once and I went for a walk and I ended up 19 miles from my house and had to phone my cousin to drive me home.
Ps, milk it for all its worth
Leave him to sleep, waking him up and starting again won't help tonight. They say you shouldn't let the sun set on an argument, but bit late for that now.
You don't say what the argument was about, but in the morning, apologise for losing your temper, and say that you'd like to make up. If the matter is still unresolved, agree a time to discuss it reasonably and without resorting to shouting about it.
Arguments will happen in life, and you have to accept that. Some people thrive on them - personally I prefer peace and quiet! You just have to work out the best way of raising problems without starting WWIII every time.
Thanks for the advice. I did try and wake him but I got a very angry response back. I can't believe how pathetic the whole thing is. I even apologised but that wasn't good enough either. I don't get what more I can do?
Leave it for now. I totally understand that YOU want to resolve the situation tonight, but it ain't going to happen because he's not ready yet, so leave him alone. It may not be entirely your fault, but it's a good move to take the blame for the argument, it gives him a way out (nothing worse for a bloke than being backed into a corner!). Once the two of you are talking again, you can discuss the matter in a reasonable way - or if the argument was about who was supposed to make the coffee, forget it!
Got his family coming to visit us at the end at the month. They are staying in a hotel, no problem there. Then my hubby mentions his brother. I really don't like him and we having him around causes tension, so I said to my hubby that maybe he should stay in a hotel too and not with us. I just thought it be easy all round. He still gets to see his family and everyones happy.
Well he hit the roof at this suggestion and said that I don't get a say in it and if he wants him to stay he will. Since then I've been treated like I'm the worst person in the world for making this suggestion. Unbelievable!
You don't say what your row was about so difficult to advise really.
I suggest waiting til tomorrow when you are both calmer and bringing it up then.
My husband has been streesed recently, finances mostly, and we have bickered. Today he came home with a bunch of apricot roses. Didn't say sorry but the gesture was there........
Thanks for the advice. An argument about drink making seems a breeze in contrast to the one we're having!
My point excatly. I'm sure he thinks his brother is royality and must be treated as such. Trust me there is nothing special about him. Plus he never respects our home, hence my reason for not wanting him to stay.
Agreed. Also, if your OH is anything like me (i.e. stubborn), he might well have been thinking about the brother staying in the hotel, but as soon as you waded in and said that he definitely should, he'd automatically dig his heels in and take the opposite view just out of spite! Much better to be a bit more subtle in negotiations, so that you achieve the result you want, but OH thinks it was all his idea, and everyone is happy.