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....to hope it fails.......then you can make a move?
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Not particularly - unless one of them is a friend or relation.
Well I suppose that's better than knowing they're in a relationship and acting on your feelings anyway...
Been in that position before and it isn't easy. The girl was going out with one of my best mates and to make matters worse he would sometimes ask me for advice, stuff like what should I get her for her birthday, should I treat her to this et cetera. Sadly I got the massive urge to be a complete dick and ruin this for him, give advice that I knew would backfire but ultimately I did the right thing. I believe if things are meant to be then they will be. And as it turns out that wasn't meant to be.
If it's someone you care about you should hope for their happyness even if that means they are never with you.
Yeah I totally agree. Acting on it would be wrong. Thinking about it? Totally fine.
We can have whatever thoughts we like in our own brains and nobody can do a damn thing about it.
And if they feel the same way as you.
If you really care for this person, try being happy for them.
Having said that... Don't get me started on Faith... or Charity for that matter. (god-damn those chuggers..!).
Agree with these. If you keep the secret wish that they'd split a casual, lighthearted notion there's no harm.
If it's an intense obsession which makes you involuntarily growl at them, and crush whatever is in your hand, it's a little odd.
I mean, I hope Jason Segal should decide that N. Irish weather suits his complexion more than LA sunshine, happens upon me in the bread aisle in the petrol station, becomes besotted and vows to spend the rest of his days doing all manner of filthy things to me.
And I hope my husband understands and accepts that it is OK to love one but have a desire to ride the other like a rodeo.
Hoping can be fun!
I have never really spoken toi her, its a girl at work that is really nice, I asked someone about her, and she is in a relationship,
Her hair, looks, her clothes, smell, just the way she is, she is just perfect, ....but someone elkse gets to wake up with her.........
Die you [email]basty@rd...............lol[/email] :cool:
Trust me , she is.
......really?
That's a bit creepy tbh.
I'm a bit concerned about how you know she smells nice - do you sneak up behind her and sniff her hair?
Anyway, office romances aren't the best idea - and some companies frown on inter-office relationships.
Are you hers though?
Try not to worry about it! I worked with someone who I was quietly in love with for a while...was one of those moments when it hits you that you could actually spend the rest of your life talking to, being with, living with this person and things would be blummin awesome. Alas 'hoping' for anything was kind of futile seeing as I soon discovered she preferred women! :kitty: I'm not saying if she wasn't gay that would have happened but it would have been slightly more possible right?
The main thing is to get on with your life and try and make friends with this person, if it doesn't hurt too much. At least they will be in your life then!
I think it's quite sweet actually...as long as there's no actual sniffing...
It's a shame you rarely meet people you're interested in, Paul. Don't give up. There'll be someone else at some point I'm sure. Fingers crossed that one won't be taken.
If you work together just enjoy getting to know her as a friend. You never know, one day it *might* lead to more. Just don't be the creepy guy who hangs everything on that hope. If she finds herself single in the future, Nice Paul From Work Who I Get On With could be an option; Crazy Staring Paul Who Smells My Hair will not be an option. ;-)