It may seem like no consolation right now, but later on you'll be able to take comfort from the fact it was so quick, he didn't really have any time to suffer.
I'm so sorry to hear this QwertyGirl. I don't normally post on threads like this but I remember how I felt when my father had a heart attack a few years ago and remember how I found comfort on an online forum as no friends/family were available. Thankfully he survived but I can totally understand why you are on here today.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Having read your previous posts about him it's clear you loved him deeply. Treasure the memories, you had a better relationship than many ever do. Don't let anybody make you feel bad about posting. When my dad died I posted a lot on a pregnancy/parenting forum I was a member of. I found it easier to type than talk and it helped to read supportive replies. Thinking of you and yours Q.
People may think 'why am I posting this', but I cannot cope without him. 19 years almost. We always said he had another 30+ years and that I would be a pensioner with him. He was 69. Too young.
Oh Qwerty, I'm so sorry to hear this.... I don't even know you and I was a little shocked by this, so I cannot imagine how you, your daughter and the rest of the family are feeling.
I have unfortunately been through bereavement and the shock of it all, and this may be the wrong time to say this while you're trying to adapt to this new awful circumstance, but you will cope without him because you have to.
You sound in shock at the moment, I wonder if you've even had a cry yet. When it happens, just do it, just cry, just get it out, it might take some time, or that you cry, feel better, then need to cry some days later, just do it, don't feel embarrassed or feel that you have to clam it up.
I can clearly see why you're posting on here, you post away - as you can see - there's lots of people who are willing to give comfort as well as advice if need be. xXx.
I can't think of anything to say other than the usual platitudes, QwertyGirl, but you have my sympathy. A very bad business, and shocking when it happens so quickly.
Oh my goodness QwertyGirl, how terrible! I'm so sorry for your loss. I remember you posting ages ago in a thread about age gap relationships, and it was obvious how happy and in love you both were, and what a good relationship you have. I'm so sorry. I know it doesn't help, but I hope you take some comfort from the fact that it was so quick, definitely better than a long drawn-out illness of some kind.
I hope by now you have someone with you, and I'm sure your neighbours wouldn't see you giving them a call at work as disturbing them at all; I'm sure they'd want to do anything they could to help.
Will be thinking of you and your family - big ((((hugs)))) to you all.
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It may seem like no consolation right now, but later on you'll be able to take comfort from the fact it was so quick, he didn't really have any time to suffer.
Take care.
look after yourself xx
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I have unfortunately been through bereavement and the shock of it all, and this may be the wrong time to say this while you're trying to adapt to this new awful circumstance, but you will cope without him because you have to.
You sound in shock at the moment, I wonder if you've even had a cry yet. When it happens, just do it, just cry, just get it out, it might take some time, or that you cry, feel better, then need to cry some days later, just do it, don't feel embarrassed or feel that you have to clam it up.
I can clearly see why you're posting on here, you post away - as you can see - there's lots of people who are willing to give comfort as well as advice if need be. xXx.
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sending you my deepest condolences at this very sad time though I know words are no consolation
I hope by now you have someone with you, and I'm sure your neighbours wouldn't see you giving them a call at work as disturbing them at all; I'm sure they'd want to do anything they could to help.
Will be thinking of you and your family - big ((((hugs)))) to you all.
I guess it's much too soon to be able to even begin to make sense of it all, in as much as one ever can in these sort of circumstances.
Look after yourself, and let others around you look after you too x