Daughter is coping so much better than me. How, I can't explain. We just had something to eat, but can't as Mr Q isn't here. The last place he sat was at the chair at the dining table. I smell of him. I saw his body and he looked so peaceful, sleeping without the snoring. I kissed and kissed and hoped there might just be a little sign. But nothing. Daughter is supposed to be back at school next week, and she wants to go as that is what her Dad would have wanted, she says. I never want to hear her scream like the way she did this morning. So far family and friends have been so wonderfully supportive. His daughters are arranging the funeral. I have mentioned that I would like it to be a celebration of his life. He was the sort of person who would do anything for anyone. A big heart and strong shoulders. A sharp mind and a wicked sense of humour. 19 years have gone by too quickly
Everyones' posts here have been so comforting. Thank you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.
Oh Querty, I agree with your daughter. She should go back to school next week. Although she will be heartbroken and shocked, she is absolutely right - her dad would want her life to continue as normal. To be back in the thick of things with her friends around her giving her support is no bad thing. It is such a shock when things like this happen you have to do what your gut instinct tells you is right.
As someone who has been a child on the end of this I think she is doing the right thing. It is such a long haul and the shock and grief keeps hitting you when you least expect it. Just keep talking and giving each other all the support and understanding in the world.
I'm pleased that his other daughters are being so supportive. Much love xx
Well done QG, you've got through today, you made your phonecalls and the formalities are being dealt with.
You will be so glad that you were there and saw him at peace.
Remember there are so many of us with you tonight and we all care even though we haven't met. How odd is that, but it's true:)
May you see God's light on the path ahead
When the road you walk is dark.
May you always hear,
Even in your hour of sorrow,
The gentle singing of the lark.
When times are hard may hardness
Never turn your heart to stone,
May you always remember
when the shadows fall—
You do not walk alone.
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Remember you have friends here who will pass the night woth you xxx
Remember there are so many of us with you tonight and we all care even though we haven't met. How odd is that, but it's true:)[/QUOTE
This is so true, we are all affected by this at some point in our life and as much as we are strangers we are here in the small way we can be. PM if you need to.x
I will never forget the look on his face though. Daughter never, ever thought she would be father-less at her age. She is devestated. She has gone upstairs to see one of our neighbours who was with us this morning. Never, ever thought that one day I would have to bring her up by myself.
It was so quick. He had a massive heart attack this morning and tried my best with the CPR until the ambulance arrived. Our 14 year old daughter saw this. He had already been to see his GP early this morning and she said go home and she would call and ambulance for him. he came and sorted out what medication he was to bring with him to the hospital. he sat in the living room and his eyes rolled. I went with him to the hospital where he soon passed away. I am alone in the house. Daughter is being comforted by her 2-half-sisters while I'm here thinking of what to do. Heartbroken doesn't even cover how I feel. Also, it's the 15th anniversary of his mothers death. I'm devestated.
QwertyGirl, I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and your daughter - and dont think you are imposing on friends and neighbours at such a time. Take comfort from their help and support.
I never thought we would part this way. But......he tweaked my nipple this morning just before he went to his GP, so I know in my heart-of-hearts he still 'wanted fun'. He spoke to his sister last night about Christmas and the things he was going to make (kofta curry and rice for Boxing Day). I just spoke to my neighbours who were with me this morning. I feel so numb, my eyes are red stinging from crying and the shock. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think this would happen.
Always hug the ones you love because you never know when it'll be the last. Mr Qs' heart packed while he was in my arms. His eyes were horrible. I tried so hard. Our daughter was screaming. I just pounded his chest, sorted his head for me to breath into him and begged and prayed.
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Oh Qwerty so saddened by your news, This happened to a family friend a few years ago, big strong man just dropped dead awful no-one could take it in
But please try & take some comfort in that he was up for some fun. He must have passed away happy try & keep that as your last memory not the awful things
Stay strong Qwerty xx (())
Feel very sad and tearful for you QG. We are all here for you for as long as you need. Sometimes DS gets is wrong, but at times like this people are so kind and thoughtful. The kindness of strangers can sometimes be a real comfort. Take care xx
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I feel for you. It will get easier.
Think of the good times. He'll be up in the sky dancing with the angels and having a right ball.
He's at peace.
Lots of people here for you. xxx
Everyones' posts here have been so comforting. Thank you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.
As someone who has been a child on the end of this I think she is doing the right thing. It is such a long haul and the shock and grief keeps hitting you when you least expect it. Just keep talking and giving each other all the support and understanding in the world.
I'm pleased that his other daughters are being so supportive. Much love xx
You will be so glad that you were there and saw him at peace.
Remember there are so many of us with you tonight and we all care even though we haven't met. How odd is that, but it's true:)
May you see God's light on the path ahead
When the road you walk is dark.
May you always hear,
Even in your hour of sorrow,
The gentle singing of the lark.
When times are hard may hardness
Never turn your heart to stone,
May you always remember
when the shadows fall—
You do not walk alone.
====================================
Remember you have friends here who will pass the night woth you xxx
my deep heartfelt sympathy xx
There is always someone here on DS if you need a chat, day or night. Look after yourself and your family xx
RIP Mr Q
Sending you big hugs and prayers.
I will say a prayer for you.
I will pray for you too.
Oh Qwerty so saddened by your news, This happened to a family friend a few years ago, big strong man just dropped dead awful no-one could take it in
But please try & take some comfort in that he was up for some fun. He must have passed away happy try & keep that as your last memory not the awful things
Stay strong Qwerty xx (())
I know that I, and I'm sure many others, will be thinking of you tonight.
Much love, Jess xx