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Upset with myself - apology to friend needed
CloneClown
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My best friend and I went out last night for a meal and drinks which was lovely. I had a bit more to drink than them (no excuse in relation to below) and started to discuss our friendship and how nice it was that we could go out together without feeling the need for others to be there. I guess I was trying to be sentimental about it. I then stupidly said that "in some ways we both use each other".
Now they are good looking and generally gets attention on nights out and I have a physical disability. The point I was trying to make is that on perhaps some level it makes us both look good that we are in each others company (i.e. raises our profiles). I realise this could be taken offensively by them, insinuates prejudices that others may have and most importantly in no way is truly reflective of the basis of our friendship. I know that outlook wouldn't even occur for them and I feel completely stupid for discussing it from that perspective.
This created an awkward ending to the evening and one that they has/would never have put me in. I feel terrible that I did that to them and again gutted that I discussed it from such a selfish and shallow viewpoint. They are the type that will hopefully not dwell upon it and will want to move on and forget it. I feel like I should offer them a sober apology but without going into it again. I'm wondering that if I approach the apology in terms of how it's made me feel upset/disappointed with my own self and how it's made me actively want to apologise if that would be best?
Now they are good looking and generally gets attention on nights out and I have a physical disability. The point I was trying to make is that on perhaps some level it makes us both look good that we are in each others company (i.e. raises our profiles). I realise this could be taken offensively by them, insinuates prejudices that others may have and most importantly in no way is truly reflective of the basis of our friendship. I know that outlook wouldn't even occur for them and I feel completely stupid for discussing it from that perspective.
This created an awkward ending to the evening and one that they has/would never have put me in. I feel terrible that I did that to them and again gutted that I discussed it from such a selfish and shallow viewpoint. They are the type that will hopefully not dwell upon it and will want to move on and forget it. I feel like I should offer them a sober apology but without going into it again. I'm wondering that if I approach the apology in terms of how it's made me feel upset/disappointed with my own self and how it's made me actively want to apologise if that would be best?
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