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When parents are afraid OF their adult daughter
Ade_Lw
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Recently became aware that with in a family I know the parents are afraid of their grown up daughter, she's late 20s and still lives at home when not staying with her boyfriend. Am shocked, saddened and wonder if this is happening to other parents.
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It really might be the best thing for everyone, including the child - who would have to grow up. They probably don't treat other people as terribly as they do their parents, or at least, out on their own they would soon learn that they can't get away with it.
What reason would there be for them to be in fear of their daughter..?
I just wondered, that's all.
We're getting a training course on it sometime, because it's becoming an increasing problem. I think family relationships become very strained when adults can't leave the family home because renting somewhere is so damn expensive.
Also, a bit of detail would be helpful - how do you know they are afraid of their daughter, what are the signs, what is happening, what do you know (or think you know)?
Certainly this is going to be a big problem in coming years.:(
On the upside the optimist in me thinks it may lead to some families being around to look after their failing parents, as sort of forced Japanese model.
The pessimist in me thinks it will lead to more elder abuse as we don't have the Japanese culture of elder respect to go with it.
A quick google seems to indicate that child abuse exists and is on the rise and has reached a record high in Japan http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2015/10/08/national/social-issues/poverty-isolation-push-japans-child-abuse-cases-record-high/, so one can only assume that there must also be cases of parental abuse. I think that, because we hear that respect between generations in Japan is the norm, it doesn't mean that the opposite doesn't also exist.
Because the perception is of stronger family values and greater respect, it doesn't mean that there are no problems beneath the surface, just as there are in any society.
Due to the lack of detail and general vagueness, I wonder if Ade was pissed when he/she started this thread?
Probably busy giving his parents their list of chores for the day