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Any ladies here ever go into a fight at school, college wherever?
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I personally never have but have seen 1 or 2.
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Her name was Pauline and she had been bullying me for months. One day she slapped me round the face and called me a white s**g. I lost the plot and hit back. The next thing I remember is another two girls pulling me off her while I was sat asride her bouncing her head off the playground.
I'm not proud of losing my temper, but I never got bullied after that.
Wouldn't have been a big deal if I hadn't been batting at the time (cricket)
I had several fights at school, and it was all to do with finally standing up to the bullies. I have to say that although I'm not that great on confrontation, and the minutes leading up to the fight were always quite nervewracking, the minutes after, I remembering feeling euphoric! Because you knew that the next day, there'd be no more bullying, and you got your self respect back....
Once a fellow female classmate in the final year of primary school, hit me round the back of the head with a cricket bat after PE, it was all because she had some crazy hate for me bacause I am Scottish, we lived in Devon at the time, she was always picking on me. Worked out in the end, a teacher saw her, she got expelled and I never needed to see her again! Karma.
I had been sitting on a grassy hill at lunchtime with my group of friends, talking amongst ourselves, when she came up behind me and, completely unprovoked by myself or my friends (none of us noticed her, or cared), dragged me down the hill by my bag. I turned round and fought her then and there. It was the first and only time I ever retaliated, and I wasn't proud of it. But she stopped bullying me from that point onwards.
The alternative would have been a lot worse if you hadn't stood up for yourself.
Don't get me wrong, I don't believe in kids (male or female) just starting fights, but it is totally different when you're actually only defending yourself....
I've had so many experiences of that at school....
You put that physical violence is a poor way to resolve any conflicts etc, but is it actually "physical violence" when you're defending yourself from a physical attack?
I do wonder sometimes when I read about another poor girl or boy ending their life because of bullies, I think, could that have been avoided, if they'd stood up to the bullies in the beginning?
Edit: I mean I wish I could go back in time and give them a pasting, I have a great life now so I've not let it affect my happiness!
There was one bully I never got my own back on and I regret that as well and with hindsight I know that she was only "strong" simply because she knew I wouldn't fight back and if I had done, I imagine she would have thought twice, even though she was still physically bigger than me.
Although I think that in some ways bullying in schools now is even worse than it used to be....
And I hate the fact that so much sympathy is sometimes given to the bullies now as if they're "victims" too, and it makes me sick!
Nah I think it is a poor way in relation to adults ie college like the OP mentioned, I think it's a stupid way to act as an adult, obviously if someone is assualting you, you need to defend yourself and be safe.
School and bullying that's a whole different thing, not one I'd get into myself, I had one experience, and I spoke to my parents and they were dealing with it too, it just came to ahead as I mentioned previously. I suppose the problem lies when kids, for whatever reasons, can't confide in their parents and deal with things alone, or they aren't taking seriously be the school. But like I say things are a lot different these days, procedurally with schools, I don't imagine it's as easy to get away with this stuff now than it was years ago.