My dad jogged on when my mum told him she was pregnant. Not before telling her she was the other woman and he ready have a wife and daughter. Needless to say she was more then devastated. He was clearly a poor excuse for a human.
But not once in my life did she bad mouth him or slag him off. She didn't even tell me the truth of the situation until I was 30. She said she wanted me to form my own opinion of him. Not one based on her experiences with him. Fact is I've never met him. Have no opinion of him either way and generally never give him a thought.
She never moaned about being a single parent. Despite also being disabled herself. Never moaned that he didn't do this or that or the other. She just did did her best and brought me up to the best of her ability.
So I don't understand why these people can't just get on with it instead of slinging blame and claiming they've made all these sacrifices and done all sorts by themselves. You chose to have a child. Don't complain that you now have to be a parent.
i don;t understand all this best dad in the world, why are they saying this when i've got a mug which says i am, why would they lie and fool themselves when its clearly not true
:D:D you're fooling yourself too - my Dad had trophies and mugs and even a tee shirt proclaiming HIM best Dad in the world.
You shouldn't judge people. If someone had a shit father/mother they can rant if they want. Not everyone's parents loved them so get over yourself.
I agree with this.
I'm also amused at some posters slagging off mothers for slagging off fathers. Could we not accept that good parents and bad parents exist? And that sometimes emotions can blind their good intentions?
My parents didn't speak to each other for years after divorce, but they never allowed us to bad-mouth either parent. My dad once punished me for calling my mum, whom he couldn't stand at the time, 'bitch'. My mum cancelled my birthday party as punishment after she overheard me referring Dad as '********'. That still didn't stop them from slagging each other off in our hearing range, especially after they had to talk on phone or received a letter from each other's solicitor.
As parents, they were pretty decent, but as a divorced couple, they brought out the worst in each other. Such is life.
I have to agree with the OP. I don't mind people expressing the fact they have shit fathers/mothers and that Father's Day may upset them or whatever, but this year on Facebook Father's Day was literally taken over (well my newsfeed was) by putting all the attention on to single mums and it wasn't needed. There is Mother's Day for celebrating your mother and Father's Day is for dads. I haven't had a good relationship with my mum for a long time now and haven't seen her in years, but when it comes to round to Mother's Day I don't use it every year to turn the attention round to how brilliant my dad is, I save that for Father's Day.
To be honest why would you put that on Facebook it just makes the poster look a tit and an attention seeker and takes them to the Jeremy Kyle level of intellect.
On a side note I gave my Dad a card and a bottle of Single Malt (my brother also gave him a bottle of Single Malt he's going to enjoy drinking that:D), he wasn't expecting anything bless him.
Some of the statuses and tweets from, I'm sorry, majority of women there are making out that Father's Day is Happy Hitler Day, or something equally as heinous.
My feed was the opposite, It looked like there was a mass outbreak of Daddy's Girlishness.
My Facebook was littered with moms sharing a card saying happy Father's Day to all the single moms out there doing both jobs , I actually thought it was quite despicable and left a bad taste in the mouth , can't they just let all the decent dads out there have some recognition without hijacking it for themselves, as if men would ever do that on Mother's Day
I avoided social media yesterday because I don't have the best Dad in the world (*coughcoughunderstatementoftheyearcough*). I agree let those who lucked out Dad-wise have their day, it's only fair.
By all means speak out if you had a rubbish father (or mother, for that matter). Just don't rant about how men are useless and you don't need them. It just makes you look like a sad, bitter, pathetic person who is too stupid to realise that some men are not suited to fatherhood and some men make fantastic fathers.
I only had one instance of this, by someone who I went to school with. Fair to say she was un-friended because of it.
She's got a 3 year old kid with this guy (who I don't really know, but know of him) and she was calling him a bad dad amongst other things because he cheated on her.
Best thing is their 'relationship' started by him cheating on his then girlfriend with her.
Karma's a bitch aint it. If a guy is going to cheat on someone with you, he will probably do the same to you! (These guys give the rest of us a bad name).
He is apparently a great dad to the little boy though.
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My dad is definitely the best dad in the world, he doesn't ever want presents.
Although I am paying for the new brakes for his car, he has no choice in the matter.
I only had one instance of this, by someone who I went to school with. Fair to say she was un-friended because of it.
She's got a 3 year old kid with this guy (who I don't really know, but know of him) and she was calling him a bad dad amongst other things because he cheated on her.
Best thing is their 'relationship' started by him cheating on his then girlfriend with her.
Karma's a bitch aint it. If a guy is going to cheat on someone with you, he will probably do the same to you! (These guys give the rest of us a bad name).
He is apparently a great dad to the little boy though.
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My dad is definitely the best dad in the world, he doesn't ever want presents.
Although I am paying for the new brakes for his car, he has no choice in the matter.
I hate that shite. Being a bad partner != being a bad dad. She sounds like another sad, bitter person with a massive chip on their shoulder.
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My dad jogged on when my mum told him she was pregnant. Not before telling her she was the other woman and he ready have a wife and daughter. Needless to say she was more then devastated. He was clearly a poor excuse for a human.
But not once in my life did she bad mouth him or slag him off. She didn't even tell me the truth of the situation until I was 30. She said she wanted me to form my own opinion of him. Not one based on her experiences with him. Fact is I've never met him. Have no opinion of him either way and generally never give him a thought.
She never moaned about being a single parent. Despite also being disabled herself. Never moaned that he didn't do this or that or the other. She just did did her best and brought me up to the best of her ability.
So I don't understand why these people can't just get on with it instead of slinging blame and claiming they've made all these sacrifices and done all sorts by themselves. You chose to have a child. Don't complain that you now have to be a parent.
Still missing you, Dad/
I agree with this.
I'm also amused at some posters slagging off mothers for slagging off fathers. Could we not accept that good parents and bad parents exist? And that sometimes emotions can blind their good intentions?
My parents didn't speak to each other for years after divorce, but they never allowed us to bad-mouth either parent. My dad once punished me for calling my mum, whom he couldn't stand at the time, 'bitch'. My mum cancelled my birthday party as punishment after she overheard me referring Dad as '********'. That still didn't stop them from slagging each other off in our hearing range, especially after they had to talk on phone or received a letter from each other's solicitor.
As parents, they were pretty decent, but as a divorced couple, they brought out the worst in each other. Such is life.
My thoughts exactly. What is the point? My dad will get facebook when hell freezes over so I phoned him and sent him a card!
And in which part of that did she denigrate the whole male population?
Perhaps it's the "men are useless" hashtag?
Subtle, I know, not surprised you missed it... ;-)
That's bizarre. It's like those nutters who think that gay marriage affects their vows. How?
On a side note I gave my Dad a card and a bottle of Single Malt (my brother also gave him a bottle of Single Malt he's going to enjoy drinking that:D), he wasn't expecting anything bless him.
My feed was the opposite, It looked like there was a mass outbreak of Daddy's Girlishness.
#SomeMenAreUseless and #SomeWomenAreUseless
She's got a 3 year old kid with this guy (who I don't really know, but know of him) and she was calling him a bad dad amongst other things because he cheated on her.
Best thing is their 'relationship' started by him cheating on his then girlfriend with her.
Karma's a bitch aint it. If a guy is going to cheat on someone with you, he will probably do the same to you! (These guys give the rest of us a bad name).
He is apparently a great dad to the little boy though.
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My dad is definitely the best dad in the world, he doesn't ever want presents.
Although I am paying for the new brakes for his car, he has no choice in the matter.
I hate that shite. Being a bad partner != being a bad dad. She sounds like another sad, bitter person with a massive chip on their shoulder.