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Weight Problem - Feel Like Killing Myself!!!
In 2 months time my niece is getting married and I ordered some various outfits from some outsize catalogues online which all got delivered today and this evening I was trying them on!! They are size 24, but I discovered that I am gonna have to order the next size up!! I have never been so fat in all my life!! I used to be so slim, so much so, that I was an amateur dancer in my teens and early 20s!!
My son was born by C-Section 25 years ago, then I had an ectopic pregnancy, suffered from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome(M.E)-even now, had severe depression, totally neglected myself to look after my disabled husband who sadly passed away 2 years ago, suffered a severe spiritual crisis 15 years ago, a couple of suicide attemps, live a virtually sedantry lifestyle due to spending virtually all day online with courses and a long distance editing job(I send my work over to the USA). For years I even resorted to comfort eating!!
Basically, I am a total disaster, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually!! I feel and look like a hot air balloon!!
After I tried those clothes on I just sat down on my bed and cried and cried!! I literally felt like ending it all!!
The thing is, I cant "get it together" mentally and emotionally to even go on a diet and exercise right now!!
I am at my lowest ebb!!!
My son was born by C-Section 25 years ago, then I had an ectopic pregnancy, suffered from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome(M.E)-even now, had severe depression, totally neglected myself to look after my disabled husband who sadly passed away 2 years ago, suffered a severe spiritual crisis 15 years ago, a couple of suicide attemps, live a virtually sedantry lifestyle due to spending virtually all day online with courses and a long distance editing job(I send my work over to the USA). For years I even resorted to comfort eating!!
Basically, I am a total disaster, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually!! I feel and look like a hot air balloon!!
After I tried those clothes on I just sat down on my bed and cried and cried!! I literally felt like ending it all!!
The thing is, I cant "get it together" mentally and emotionally to even go on a diet and exercise right now!!
I am at my lowest ebb!!!
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Then carry it on for a year and you'll lose 5 stone.
It all seems so useless & pointless, if motivation could be bottled and bought we'd have no problem
I suggest the Lipotrim diet, it's a shake diet no other foods consumed
It's hard but it really honestly works
In 8 weeks I lost 34lb
Try it
You've nothing but weight to lose
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Diet and exercise.... and if you don't like exercise then don't bother and just get an even better diet.
Secondly, get yourself out for a walk (even a very slow one) for around 30 minutes at least 3 or 4 times a week. It'll make you feel better (which is the most important thing) and in time help you to lose a bit of weight and become fitter.
I'm not proud of it as I'd love to do it the proper way without a pill to help but I am exercising loads and healthy eating also, all its done is suppressed my appetite and stopped cravings.
It's an extreme way of dieting I suppose,I had 3 stone to lose so not a huge amount of weight but I have no willpower and I comfort eat!
The side effects can be extreme (im lucky there hasn't been any) and it's far from cheap but it gave me the kick I needed to change my eating habits.
Even though it's worked for me it's not for everybody and if I'm honest I sort of wish I'd not taken them as I worry what damage I may have done to my body and also that I won't maintain the loss.
It's also not cheap!
As you are so large (and I'm honestly not being rude here) I would suggest that you start by going for a nice walk every evening and then gradually build up distance and/or speed. Once you've started you'll enjoy it.
Good luck.
In the area where I live we have an obesity clinic where you get a diet plan, free use of the gym and counseling to help you.
Something like this would help you so as others have said contact your dreams and ask for help.
This is the best advice OP. Take one thing at a time, you're looking at the big picture and getting in a panic. I have a number of illnesses and it's a constant battle to control my weight due to not being able to exercise as much and I'm a swine for comfort eating. I try to stay on the Slimming world diet as it doesn't feel like a diet. I don't like slimming groups so I just went for one day, got the books bought the shopping guide and anything else that interested me and then went it alone. Minimins.com is a great site, I just use it for reference without joining, but they appear to be a very supportive bunch of people who have lots of different circumstances and illnesses etc. There is also a weight loss thread here. You're welcome to PM me any time. Please go to your doctor first, then come back and we'll all help you with the next task on your list.
http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses_and_conditions/eating_distress
http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/mentalhealth/Pages/Helplines.aspx
http://www.b-eat.co.uk/
http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1418012&highlight=weight+loss
http://www.minimins.com/
http://www.slimmingworld.com/
I eat those Weight Watcher meals and they're yummy. The portions are small but you get used to them and you can always have a couple of apples to fill you up, if need be.
If I can do it, anyone can. Good luck.
There's a fairly simple rule to weight loss. You have a daily allowance of 2000 calories, and if you want to lose weight can go down to just 1500 or under. Some things contain a surprising amount of calories when you check them, and some things are so low in fat you could eat a full packet and still come under your treat budget (jaffa cakes, but only certain brands, are like 36 calories each). I find yoga is good exercise that doesn't leave me in agony, and I'm taking Devil's Claw root to reduce inflammation which also seems to be working as an appetite suppressant. You really need to talk to your GP before you do anything else, though.
I love the weightwatchers tomato and basil chicken
http://www.weighttogo.com/
The trick is not to rebound, but the discipline you gain when following the diet does help with that; after the initial stone 'shock' drop, I maintained a similar diet sourced from the supermarket, with increasing levels of exercise after I'd had my knee op, and dropped a further three stone over the next 4-5 months to reach my target weight of 12 stone. The more weight you lose, the easier it is to exercise as well, so slowly increasing exercise levels at the same time is a good way to recondition yourself - even just a 30 minute brisk walk every day early in the morning with that nice fresh air can work wonders.
It's doable, but you just need to find another distraction, which is what food was to me when I was essentially immobile. I replaced snacks with apples and tangerines and drank green tea instead of pop and have maintained that to this day some years later.
Good luck!
PS, what's your job? I like the sound of that.
All this information is brilliant!! In fact I have been to a doctor and really she never gave me anything like this in the way of information and advice!!! I have never even heard of half of the support groups and clinics that are on the NHS site!!!:eek::eek:
Thank You!!
1500 calories a day
Walk for 30 mins a day at a fast pace so that you're sweating. (if you don't sweat you aren't working hard enough) - see a doctor first though.
That's a start.
I eat four of those meals a day and I am still under the 1,000 calories. So I eat some extra fruit and veg to knock it up to 1,400 calories a day.:D
I'm never hungry.
I think it is the number of exclamation marks after each negative remark.
Makes it seem lighthearted and as if they are joking.
I might get some more in as I'm trying not to eat bread so they would be good to have at lunchtime at work.