I'm 17, never been to a club or anything.
yeah, I drink at parties etc, but don't go out to bars, I don't have (or want) a fake ID - although my friend who's 18 is trying to persuade me to get one so she can take me clubbing!
I've been to clubs a few times, I find that I enjoy it more when drunk. I'm personally waiting until I'm 18 to do it properly, some of my peers find this unusual, but like other people in this thread I'd rather sit in the warm and wake up normally rather than be sick or wake up in a strange place hungover.
When I do turn 18, I will be sensible and always make sure I know my limits so that I can still drink and have a good time!
I've been to clubs a few times, I find that I enjoy it more when drunk. I'm personally waiting until I'm 18 to do it properly, some of my peers find this unusual, but like other people in this thread I'd rather sit in the warm and wake up normally rather than be sick or wake up in a strange place hungover.
When I do turn 18, I will be sensible and always make sure I know my limits so that I can still drink and have a good time!
When I was young I didn't go out much/socialise, I went to discos when I was a kid but after a while my hearing started to go "funny" (I had tinnitus) so I stopped going, when I was older I didn't go out as I lived a mile outside of town and didn't fancy the idea of walking to and from a pub at night.
Yes I was made to feel like a weirdo, and was mocked on several occasions for knowing what was on the telly any evening of the week...
I go clubbing on the odd occasion when I feel in the mood for it, now i'm a mother the luxury of picking and choosing when I go out isn't the same as when I was, young, free and single. I now have to plan. I don't really drink and I when I go out I never drink because I'm the driver...may I add i've never been drunk in my life...alcohol does taste vile to me.
I used to feel some what weird that I wasn't out every weekend...missing out on my good ole sleep.
However when I do go out the people look so hideous, the orange girls who wear next to nothing...who the men give a lot of attention, because the look easy and all the men want is a one night stand.
The crazy fools who can't handle alcohol so are rocking side to side and can hardly walk.
The people who cannot dance to save their lives and think they look good trying to dirty dance and whine.
The people who don't have an ounce of spacial awareness and bump into you and don't say sorry...this is the thing I hate the most...I just want to get down and boogie to some good music and I always get bumped into and disturbed.
The other things I posted I like to observe and have a little chuckle at...but seriously they are the reasons why I don't enjoy clubbing that much.
So don't feel weird if you idea of fun are not those things I moaned about.
I've never liked large crowds, or felt the need to socialise with a lot of people. When I was young, the only place to meet blokes was the disco, so I'd go along until I "pulled", then insist that our dates were either dinner or movies! I remember once I really didn't want to go to the disco with my mates, so I pretended I'd forgotten my money so I'd have to go back home. Didn't work, they all clubbed together and paid for me!
I still don't socialise much, I'm happier with a small number of people with whom I can chat or enjoy a meal. My daughter's a real social animal, she can't understand it at all, but I'm perfectly happy - I'm not a recluse, I just don't need masses of friends to prove to myself how wonderful I am!
When I was young I didn't go out much/socialise, I went to discos when I was a kid but after a while my hearing started to go "funny" (I had tinnitus) so I stopped going, when I was older I didn't go out as I lived a mile outside of town and didn't fancy the idea of walking to and from a pub at night.
Yes I was made to feel like a weirdo, and was mocked on several occasions for knowing what was on the telly any evening of the week...
You know those people who mocked you are going to be the people who get old and will go crazy, because of loneliness, they have not learnt to enjoy their own company.
They don't realise that once a person reaches a certain age, their friends either start to die or are not so reachable...and families are increasingly becoming more selfish so they don't value the older generation enough to visit them once a week.
I don't go out much. Me and my friends prefer staying in.
When I started working at the place I'm at now people thought I was weird. Not in a nasty way, but most of the people I work with are 30+ and a lot of them tend to go to the pub after work most days and its not unusual for everyone but me to have a hangover on Saturday. So when it came to the first Christmas night out with them they were all amazed that I'd never been inside a pub, didn't have an ID and didn't really want to drink or make myself looks stupid by attempting to dance all night.
It was alright this year though, they left me with the guy who drank himself stupid just to prove a point to his girlfriend. The 21 year old looking after the 29 year old who hasn't a clue where he lived and kept slipping up on ice. My few nights out with my work mates has scarred me for life :P . I'll still go out with them next Christmas just because I'm the only one who really remembers what happens so its always funny reminding them, but it doesn't make me feel weird anymore and I don't think they think its weird they've just learnt that I don't like that kind of thing.
When I was younger I went out but I also did a mix of things. I wouldn't say going out was my main going out. I did many other things to meet people and clubs and pubs were just another of those things I did.
These days though, these days, LOL, it's an absolute joke, hilarity, ridiculous, maddening, sickening, freak-show what occurs these days in city centres and pubs. It's like drug dens out there where people get high on anything available (usually alcohol) and then run around like headless chickens unaware of how they appear. Unfortunately the repercussions of these night outs are horrendous at times and you can hear about these from doormen, ambulance and police workers or taxi drivers.
So I think, yes it could be weird if you don't do this these days, unfortunately due to it being the norm but there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
When I was younger I did, but I hated not going out much and always being in however since I turned 18 I go out lots and in big groups and I love it. It's really fun and nice having so many friends and just raving.
My clubbing days finished when I was 18. Got it all out my system between 16 and 18. I haven't been clubbing in nearly 10 years. Got married at age 20 others are now getting married too I just matured earlier than they did.
I never liked getting drunk. The feeling of not being in control is not fun. I do love a good wine but not to excess.
I'm 20 and a student and have been asked by several people if I've started drinking since starting university, I just tell them no as I don't like the taste of alcohol. Some people have looked at me strange but others think it's good that I don't drink. As for clubs I don't really bother as I like to be able to spend the following day going about my daily business rather than spending the whole day nursing a hangover. I do go to some student parties though, just not the clubs.
I am 27 and I don't go out to pubs and nightclubs, it's not my thing. I don't drink either.
When I was a teenager and into young adulthood, a decade or so of bullying contributed to me having social anxiety, so the idea of me mixing in a situation with 100's of people filled me with absolute dread. So I stayed in. Watched TV, played games, had people round mine and vice versa. Still affects me now, but nowhere near the level it used to thanks to cognitive behavioural therapy.
People do judge those whose idea of an ideal weekend doesn't involve getting hammered and sleeping off a hangover the next day in a negative manner. Some people assume you are boring because you don't go clubbing and they also tell you that you'll never find a partner (more on that in a bit). Happily, people I know have grown up so I don't questioned or judged so often.
It's also a stumbling block when it comes to dating. The majority of people I know met one another and formed relationships from meeting at a pub or a nightclub. Many people do see those two places as the pinnacle for meeting someone. I have found meeting people of the opposite sex very limited, places I go are places where people are cautious about hooking up, ie. at work where if it goes wrong, you still have to work with them or on a bus where you'll be seen as a weirdo because no-one talks to anyone they don't know on a bus. And even if you do meet someone online, the majority of profiles explicitly state that they like pubs and nightclubs as their main interest. Not many female geeks, that's for sure.
Having said that, I prefer to stay in, enjoy my own company, do what I like and if you have a problem with it, jog on.
I do feel a bit 'weird' that I'm 19 and have never gone out drinking! I think I'd enjoy drinking in moderation with my old school friends at a meal or whatever, but when my peers refer to drinking they seem to mean getting absolutely hammered, going by the pictures that appear on Facebook the next day and their statuses about being hungover.
I'm quiet and shy anyway, so typical teenage 'going out' behaviours don't really appeal to me.
My son, who's 18, is just the same as you. He has never gone out drinking, in fact he has never touched a drop of alcohol. He won't go out with his college friends, like you say, the photo's on Facebook next day say it all. It just doesn't appeal to him. My lad is not your average teenager. He's quiet and shy but has a great sense of humour- we have lots of fun every day. He can't stand rowdy places, doesn't like music (he doesn't even own any and I get told off if mines on a little too loud!) I have never heard him swear, or even curse, not once. He says he's happy though, and that's what's important.I wish I had been more like him when I was his age.To be honest, I'm dead lucky to have him, he really is every mothers dream son.
Do all social-misfits justify their lonely, miserable existence by criticising those who have the audacity to go out get drunk, have a good time and get a hangover?
You only get one shot at life and it'll be over before you know it. Enjoy it while you can.
I first got drunk at 16, then when I went to College and Uni I used to also go out on student nights and get wasted.
I'm 26 now and don't really go out that much as I find the scene is a bit too young for me, you also save alot of money by spending nights in watching documentaries on youtube until the early hours.
I find it cringeworthy seeing 30 year olds going out on student nights, what must be going through their heads?
I'm glad I'm not going through my teenage years now. When I was around that age in the eighties, it didn't matter what my friends were up to, my parents' word was law & they'd never liked being around drunk people. You didn't really see teens out getting drunk in public back then anyway, but it didn't matter how drunk friends might have got e.g. at a party, I was usually too scared to get in that state & show my face at home, so I'd make an alcoholic drink last as long as possible or simply stick to soft drinks.
Looking back, I'm glad I grew up behaving the way I did because decades on I've never felt the need to go OTT on drinking - I've rarely been drunk, & can easily do without alcohol on a night out. I've also learned to pick my company carefully - my friends don't usually get legless, are way past the age where they want to bare their boobs or backside at passing strangers, & are more interested in actually enjoying the music they've paid to hear.
I've never felt the need to go along with something to fit in or just because other people are doing it or it's seen as cool, & I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't feel able to withstand that. One of my friends has a 19-year old son who drinks lager but doesn't particularly like the taste. When his mum asked him why he drank it then, he said because if he drank spirits he'd come off like an old man, & no way was he not going to have any alcohol at all. So he'd prefer to waste money on drink he doesn't like instead of sticking to soft drinks or even an alcoholic drink that he might like more, which seems totally ridiculous to me.
With the rise of the booze/going out and get piss culture in this country. I was wondering do young people or some young people feel weird if they do no go out by themselves or by their peers? Also could this be the reason why some young people go oy because they feel that they are strange if they don't just wondering.
And let's face it, it's pretty difficult to get drunk in clubs because the alcohol is so watered down most of the time! :yawn:
There are some interesting replies in this thread and I can relate. I must admit I don't go out drinking with my friends that often because I need to be in a certain sort of mood to do it and more often than not, I just don't feel up for it. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy it but if I was given the choice, I'd usually rather stay in and do some cooking, catch up on something on the TV or read a book.
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I've been to clubs a few times, I find that I enjoy it more when drunk. I'm personally waiting until I'm 18 to do it properly, some of my peers find this unusual, but like other people in this thread I'd rather sit in the warm and wake up normally rather than be sick or wake up in a strange place hungover.
When I do turn 18, I will be sensible and always make sure I know my limits so that I can still drink and have a good time!
Lol yeah, clubs are TERRIBLE if you aren't drunk!
Yes I was made to feel like a weirdo, and was mocked on several occasions for knowing what was on the telly any evening of the week...
I used to feel some what weird that I wasn't out every weekend...missing out on my good ole sleep.
However when I do go out the people look so hideous, the orange girls who wear next to nothing...who the men give a lot of attention, because the look easy and all the men want is a one night stand.
The crazy fools who can't handle alcohol so are rocking side to side and can hardly walk.
The people who cannot dance to save their lives and think they look good trying to dirty dance and whine.
The people who don't have an ounce of spacial awareness and bump into you and don't say sorry...this is the thing I hate the most...I just want to get down and boogie to some good music and I always get bumped into and disturbed.
The other things I posted I like to observe and have a little chuckle at...but seriously they are the reasons why I don't enjoy clubbing that much.
So don't feel weird if you idea of fun are not those things I moaned about.
I still don't socialise much, I'm happier with a small number of people with whom I can chat or enjoy a meal. My daughter's a real social animal, she can't understand it at all, but I'm perfectly happy - I'm not a recluse, I just don't need masses of friends to prove to myself how wonderful I am!
You know those people who mocked you are going to be the people who get old and will go crazy, because of loneliness, they have not learnt to enjoy their own company.
They don't realise that once a person reaches a certain age, their friends either start to die or are not so reachable...and families are increasingly becoming more selfish so they don't value the older generation enough to visit them once a week.
Just a thought!!!
When I started working at the place I'm at now people thought I was weird. Not in a nasty way, but most of the people I work with are 30+ and a lot of them tend to go to the pub after work most days and its not unusual for everyone but me to have a hangover on Saturday. So when it came to the first Christmas night out with them they were all amazed that I'd never been inside a pub, didn't have an ID and didn't really want to drink or make myself looks stupid by attempting to dance all night.
It was alright this year though, they left me with the guy who drank himself stupid just to prove a point to his girlfriend. The 21 year old looking after the 29 year old who hasn't a clue where he lived and kept slipping up on ice. My few nights out with my work mates has scarred me for life :P
These days though, these days, LOL, it's an absolute joke, hilarity, ridiculous, maddening, sickening, freak-show what occurs these days in city centres and pubs. It's like drug dens out there where people get high on anything available (usually alcohol) and then run around like headless chickens unaware of how they appear. Unfortunately the repercussions of these night outs are horrendous at times and you can hear about these from doormen, ambulance and police workers or taxi drivers.
So I think, yes it could be weird if you don't do this these days, unfortunately due to it being the norm but there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
I never liked getting drunk. The feeling of not being in control is not fun. I do love a good wine but not to excess.
When I was a teenager and into young adulthood, a decade or so of bullying contributed to me having social anxiety, so the idea of me mixing in a situation with 100's of people filled me with absolute dread. So I stayed in. Watched TV, played games, had people round mine and vice versa. Still affects me now, but nowhere near the level it used to thanks to cognitive behavioural therapy.
People do judge those whose idea of an ideal weekend doesn't involve getting hammered and sleeping off a hangover the next day in a negative manner. Some people assume you are boring because you don't go clubbing and they also tell you that you'll never find a partner (more on that in a bit). Happily, people I know have grown up so I don't questioned or judged so often.
It's also a stumbling block when it comes to dating. The majority of people I know met one another and formed relationships from meeting at a pub or a nightclub. Many people do see those two places as the pinnacle for meeting someone. I have found meeting people of the opposite sex very limited, places I go are places where people are cautious about hooking up, ie. at work where if it goes wrong, you still have to work with them or on a bus where you'll be seen as a weirdo because no-one talks to anyone they don't know on a bus. And even if you do meet someone online, the majority of profiles explicitly state that they like pubs and nightclubs as their main interest. Not many female geeks, that's for sure.
Having said that, I prefer to stay in, enjoy my own company, do what I like and if you have a problem with it, jog on.
My son, who's 18, is just the same as you. He has never gone out drinking, in fact he has never touched a drop of alcohol. He won't go out with his college friends, like you say, the photo's on Facebook next day say it all. It just doesn't appeal to him. My lad is not your average teenager. He's quiet and shy but has a great sense of humour- we have lots of fun every day. He can't stand rowdy places, doesn't like music (he doesn't even own any and I get told off if mines on a little too loud!) I have never heard him swear, or even curse, not once. He says he's happy though, and that's what's important.I wish I had been more like him when I was his age.To be honest, I'm dead lucky to have him, he really is every mothers dream son.
My wife and I are going to do what we do every year. Sit on our back patio and watch the fireworks.
You only get one shot at life and it'll be over before you know it. Enjoy it while you can.
I'm 26 now and don't really go out that much as I find the scene is a bit too young for me, you also save alot of money by spending nights in watching documentaries on youtube until the early hours.
I find it cringeworthy seeing 30 year olds going out on student nights, what must be going through their heads?
I'd prefer to remember most of it.... and not have my liver fail at 40.
Then again, it seems to be a uniquely british thing to equate having a good time with being drunk.
I'm sure that doesn't apply to you, though.
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Looking back, I'm glad I grew up behaving the way I did because decades on I've never felt the need to go OTT on drinking - I've rarely been drunk, & can easily do without alcohol on a night out. I've also learned to pick my company carefully - my friends don't usually get legless, are way past the age where they want to bare their boobs or backside at passing strangers, & are more interested in actually enjoying the music they've paid to hear.
I've never felt the need to go along with something to fit in or just because other people are doing it or it's seen as cool, & I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't feel able to withstand that. One of my friends has a 19-year old son who drinks lager but doesn't particularly like the taste. When his mum asked him why he drank it then, he said because if he drank spirits he'd come off like an old man, & no way was he not going to have any alcohol at all. So he'd prefer to waste money on drink he doesn't like instead of sticking to soft drinks or even an alcoholic drink that he might like more, which seems totally ridiculous to me.
Undoubtedly.
And let's face it, it's pretty difficult to get drunk in clubs because the alcohol is so watered down most of the time! :yawn:
There are some interesting replies in this thread and I can relate. I must admit I don't go out drinking with my friends that often because I need to be in a certain sort of mood to do it and more often than not, I just don't feel up for it. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy it but if I was given the choice, I'd usually rather stay in and do some cooking, catch up on something on the TV or read a book.