Indeed. Some people get quite judgemental about the excessive use of the 'alert' button. Most of us have probably used it half a dozen times in the years that we have been members.
Thats the whole point, in public I would think less of someone for not holding it in. Privacy of your own space, totally fine, everyone needs to grieve but not out on the street in front of everyone, it just makes everyone feel awkward
No it doesn't. Don't tar everybody else with your own brush. It doesn't make me feel awkward.
Yes, that's right. If by 'grief culture' you mean the increasing ability of all people - both sexes, all ages - express their emotions without fearing the snivelling scorn and witless derogation we've seen exhibited on this thread (knowing, as we do, how repressing such emotions is injurious to mental and even physical health) then it's one of the better developments of recent times for those of us who aren't afraid of emotion.
Actually Mambo, I was/am referring to the mass 'grief culture' that started with the death of Diana.
Nothing wrong with a man showing his emotions .. nothing wrong with it at all.
I cry at weddings, funerals, my daughters' prizegivings, sad films, happy-endings ...
Doesn't make me any less (or more) of a man than the guy sitting across the way from me
Jansen, all things are not equal. I cant regard you or me or any bloke crying over a film or a football match or a sitcom ending as as worthy of crying over a death or a very serious problem. Random emotion surely devalues real heartfelt emotion.
Unlike the OP to an extent, my bete noir with crying/emotion these days is the above rather than public emotion.
Jansen, all things are not equal. I cant regard you or me or any bloke crying over a film or a football match or a sitcom ending as as worthy of crying over a death or a very serious problem. Random emotion surely devalues real heartfelt emotion.
No, not really. If it's sufficiently strong to provoke some sort of reaction, it's a genuine emotion to that individual. That somebody else sniffily dismisses it as not "real" or "heartfelt" is an irrelevance.
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Crying in public vs 'crying' to the people in charge ... know which one I prefer to see!
Indeed. I'd take a man (ooo-er) crying in public over a man running to people in charge, and snitching, any day....
it's just an expression. Don't take things so literal. I don't mean literally everyone.
There, fixed it for you.
Better be careful though I guess .. I don't want any more enforced holidays
You just mean 'some people' then. Quite different to 'literally everyone'.
I think that men who feel awkward around those who are in distress are weak.
Have you seen a lot of particularly bad things in the few weeks that you've been here?
firstly, please don't edit my quotes.
Secondly, everything I say is in my opinion, why do I have to put that sentence after everything I write? It goes without saying?
^ This.
I'm sure if I looked back through some of your posts I would find a time where you overexagerated or wrote something that wasn't literally correct.
cut me some slack, I have explained what I meant.
makes me feel awkward and makes them look weak is what happens ---- IN MY OPINION (better add that incase I get lynched)
not really, why?
No reason.
what a random post then!
how odd
That's me!
Actually Mambo, I was/am referring to the mass 'grief culture' that started with the death of Diana.
Jansen, all things are not equal. I cant regard you or me or any bloke crying over a film or a football match or a sitcom ending as as worthy of crying over a death or a very serious problem. Random emotion surely devalues real heartfelt emotion.
Unlike the OP to an extent, my bete noir with crying/emotion these days is the above rather than public emotion.