Would you have an affair with someone in a relationship?

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 22:48

You are single and they are in a relationship. You know about it, would you still go ahead?

TomGrant · 22/12/10 - 22:50

_drak wrote: »

You are single and they are in a relationship. You know about it, would you still go ahead?

Been there, done that. It's shite. They normally end up going back to their orignal partner and you feel like crap.

parthy · 22/12/10 - 22:51

I have done. It was OK.

molybecks · 22/12/10 - 22:51

To be fair I don't think 'cheating' is as big of a deal as it has been. Of course it is a big deal to certain indivuals but in the decline of marriage, not many seem THAT distraught in the long term.

However I think it's different being in a marriage and being cheated on rather than courting etc. Just my opinion.

lisa02 · 22/12/10 - 22:53

_drak wrote: »

You are single and they are in a relationship. You know about it, would you still go ahead?

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

zx50 · 22/12/10 - 22:57

Anyone who's in a relationship that's not gutted when their partner cheats on them, they shouldn't have been in it.

TomGrant · 22/12/10 - 22:59

lisa02 wrote: »

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

Thank you.

parthy · 22/12/10 - 23:01

lisa02 wrote: »

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

The person who cheats while in a relationship is more scummy.

blueisthecolour · 22/12/10 - 23:02

lisa02 wrote: »

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

That's fine in theory but it's been my experience that that is how the majority of relationships start these days. People (I must say especially women) now tend to hang on in relationships their not interested in just waiting for someone else to come along.

Either that or the break up is a direct result of the person being persued by someone else.

In other words, not going after people in relationships seems to significantly reduce your opportunities to find someone.

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 23:07

My Dad cheated on my Mum with her best friend when I was 5. My Dad then married her and cheated on her 2 weeks after the wedding with his high school sweetheart. (He told me she was someone he was fixing a door for!

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Then my Mum remarried and cheated on her husband with the next door neighbour (he turned put to be a complete psycho and although I hate to even think it it does remind me of the word karma!)

I have seen the heartbreak that adultery has caused and think it should be made a criminal offence!

I have no other opinions except that if you cheat...you are scum!!!

(I'm not sorry if this is harsh)

Red+Blooded · 22/12/10 - 23:09

i would like to say no, but who knows what the future has in stall for me.

lisa02 · 22/12/10 - 23:09

blueisthecolour wrote: »

That's fine in theory but it's been my experience that that is how the majority of relationships start these days. People (I must say especially women) now tend to hang on in relationships their not interested in just waiting for someone else to come along.

Either that or the break up is a direct result of the person being persued by someone else.

In other words, not going after people in relationships seems to significantly reduce your opportunities to find someone.

Then we need a bit more honesty in the world.

I know. Be realistic, that's never going to happen. LoL.

Is it worth breaking up someone's marriage/partnership just to make your life better? I don't agree.

flakecake · 22/12/10 - 23:09

If someone is willing to cheat on a partner and mess about with someone else they are not very loyal or trustworthy are they. If they get away with it for a long time they are a very good liar and highly deceitful. I wouldn't want to be with someone capable of that.

blueisthecolour · 22/12/10 - 23:13

lisa02 wrote: »

Then we need a bit more honesty in the world.

I know. Be realistic, that's never going to happen. LoL.

Is it worth breaking up someone's marriage/partnership just to make your life better? I don't agree.

I didn't say it was right; just how things are.

#grotbags# · 22/12/10 - 23:13

lisa02 wrote: »

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

What if the person in the relationship is doing the pursuing, knowing how you feel about them , and you can't avoid them?

Moony · 22/12/10 - 23:14

lisa02 wrote: »

Is it worth breaking up someone's marriage/partnership just to make your life better? I don't agree.

If the person who is married has got to the stage of having an affair - i'd say the marriage/partnership has in most cases run its course anyway.

koantemplation · 22/12/10 - 23:15

It's a bit difficult to have an affair with someone who isn't in a relationship.

If they are offering it on a plate, it would be difficult to refuse.

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 23:21

lisa02 wrote: »

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

It takes two to tango, and I would say the guy or girl in the relationship who cheats is more "scum" than the single one.

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 23:22

If someone is in a relationship they are out of bounds.

As the single person, suely it must make you wonder if they can do it to their current partner they can do it to you.

As the married/in a relationship person you have no respect,decency, human compassion or anything positive.

Read my previous post and you will see why I feel so strongly about it.

ff999 · 22/12/10 - 23:28

lisa02 wrote: »

Anyone who pursues someone who is already in a relationship is scum.

It isn't always that way round. How about the person in the relationship is doing the pursuing for ages, even years, and the person being pursued has been on their own for even more years and could easily give up the fight?

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 23:33

ff999 wrote: »

It isn't always that way round. How about the person in the relationship is doing the pursuing for ages, even years, and the person being pursued has been on their own for even more years and could easily give up the fight?

By accepting that person, you are accepting adultery therefore you are not a good person. That is just my opinion though.

lisa02 · 22/12/10 - 23:35

I gave my opinion on single people going after someone who is married or in a relationship. That's what the thread was about.

A person should not go after someone who is already in a relationship.

lisa02 · 22/12/10 - 23:37

captainkremmen wrote: »

It takes two to tango, and I would say the guy or girl in the relationship who cheats is more "scum" than the single one.

I agree.

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 23:37

_drak wrote: »

You are single and they are in a relationship. You know about it, would you still go ahead?

Done it in the past, was warned by others not to get involved but I ignored them and paid the price.

Artymags · 22/12/10 - 23:39

I have done it - lots of times.
It's fine as long as you keep it light and don't want to get too emotionally involved.

[Deleted User] · 22/12/10 - 23:40

Adultery Is Wrong!!!!

Hey there!

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