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Broken up, and the pain is unbearable.
I've been dating this guy for around 2 months, and things really took off quickly. We seemed to be madly in to each other, and most days he wanted to hang out and go for long walks. Before this we'd been chatting for nearly a year.
Things were going well until around the last few weeks. He seemed off with me and kept dropping me signals like "I'm sure you have lots of guys on the go" - "I loved your last selfie. You should use that as your Grindr pic". He seemed to be offline several days last week, which I thought was strange as well.
Last Friday night was a major point. We met up as usual, but he didn't kiss me in the car. For much of the evening he sat on the far end of the sofa and chatted to someone on his phone. He was distant to me all evening and ordered a taxi for me to go home around 3am, after we'd talked about his exes (one of which he says he misses terribly, yet doesn't ever want a relationship with again). He text me later in the night to say he just wanted a nice life with me. What the heck?
He text me last night to say he doesn't feel relationship chemistry between us, but keeps talking about being friends. Why does he want to be friends? I'm suspicious of this.
I'm really upset, as I liked this guy so much. I'm also annoyed at myself for falling so quickly and being taken in by his charm. I've just blocked him on WhatsApp, and cut off all communication with him.
Things were going well until around the last few weeks. He seemed off with me and kept dropping me signals like "I'm sure you have lots of guys on the go" - "I loved your last selfie. You should use that as your Grindr pic". He seemed to be offline several days last week, which I thought was strange as well.
Last Friday night was a major point. We met up as usual, but he didn't kiss me in the car. For much of the evening he sat on the far end of the sofa and chatted to someone on his phone. He was distant to me all evening and ordered a taxi for me to go home around 3am, after we'd talked about his exes (one of which he says he misses terribly, yet doesn't ever want a relationship with again). He text me later in the night to say he just wanted a nice life with me. What the heck?
He text me last night to say he doesn't feel relationship chemistry between us, but keeps talking about being friends. Why does he want to be friends? I'm suspicious of this.
I'm really upset, as I liked this guy so much. I'm also annoyed at myself for falling so quickly and being taken in by his charm. I've just blocked him on WhatsApp, and cut off all communication with him.
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I'm 31 and this is my second serious relationship I guess. I've only dated before now, but it's never come to anything.
Certainly easier to say than gmphmac.
But I think perhaps this is symptomatic of how we build up people into illusions and ignore the reality. I know only too well how hard it can be, but see if you can separate what you thought about this person, what you hoped for, and what was actually there in real life. I wish you well.
Sorry for what happened to you.
It sounds as though he isn't over his ex.
Really one of my pet hates is people who date others when they are still hung up on their ex, it's not fair on anyone.
If you're not over the ex then stay single, don't mess others about.
Definitely avoid him. He has treated you badly and I hope you feel better soon.
It is horrible and I do hope you'll be okay.
It's such a rubbish thing to do to anyone.
I don't get why people who are still hung up on their ex can't just stay single.
Why do they have to date others and mess them about.