Boyfriend went to gay bar on holiday

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  • mizhogmizhog Posts: 970
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    well we are both bi anyway...
  • Butterfly8588Butterfly8588 Posts: 701
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    I think people are being a bit harsh on the OP to be honest. Although the idea of my boyfriend going in to a gay bar has me more in fits of laughter then anger I think he has a valid point.
    If his boyfriend wanted to go into a bar, why pick a gay bar? Why not go in an ordinary bar and get a drink? I think thats what has piqued his interest more then anything.
    Personally OP I dont think its anything to worry about seeing as he freely told you about it but if you are worried why not ask him about it?

    Take care xx
  • cris182cris182 Posts: 9,595
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    I think people are being a bit harsh on the OP to be honest. Although the idea of my boyfriend going in to a gay bar has me more in fits of laughter then anger I think he has a valid point.
    If his boyfriend wanted to go into a bar, why pick a gay bar? Why not go in an ordinary bar and get a drink? I think thats what has piqued his interest more then anything.
    Personally OP I dont think its anything to worry about seeing as he freely told you about it but if you are worried why not ask him about it?

    Take care xx

    Surely instinct is to go where you feel most comfortable. You wouldn't say to a guy, Go to a gay bar for a drink in case your girlfriend feels jealous
  • Butterfly8588Butterfly8588 Posts: 701
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    cris182 wrote: »
    Surely instinct is to go where you feel most comfortable. You wouldn't say to a guy, Go to a gay bar for a drink in case your girlfriend feels jealous

    I take your point cris but the OP has stated in a later thread they are both bisexual so i shouldnt imagine it would make a difference to him if he was in a gay or straight bar?
  • chocoholic100chocoholic100 Posts: 6,411
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    If the man just wanted a drink,not to pull does it matter where the hell he went.
    Really ?
  • getzlsgetzls Posts: 4,007
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    I've went to a Guy bar in Belfast a few times with my Gay Transexual friend.
    Great bar.

    Also there used to be a bar where i went into where Gay people and Straight people went.in by different doors.
  • mizhogmizhog Posts: 970
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    hes gone to another gay bar alone tonight as his friends gone home now. so u dontthink i should be concerned?
  • Sick n SexifiedSick n Sexified Posts: 1,132
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    He'll deffo have gotten laid. But out of sight and all that...
  • cris182cris182 Posts: 9,595
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    mizhog wrote: »
    hes gone to another gay bar alone tonight as his friends gone home now. so u dontthink i should be concerned?

    So he is alone in a foreign country? And he isn't supposed to go out and have any fun?

    He could pull in a straight bar, Gay bar, the beach, Shopping queue

    Love the trust you have
  • LostFoolLostFool Posts: 90,623
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    mizhog wrote: »
    hes gone to another gay bar alone tonight as his friends gone home now. so u dontthink i should be concerned?

    You should be out yourself having a good time rather than sitting at home worrying about it online.
  • AvidianAvidian Posts: 6,043
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    mizhog wrote: »
    hes gone to another gay bar alone tonight as his friends gone home now. so u dontthink i should be concerned?
    But you're:

    * on Grindr stalking your boss:

    http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1962706

    * emailing rent boy porn stars:

    http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1944516

    * thinking about gay saunas:

    http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1945251

    * discussing dating other people:

    http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1945929

    :eek:
  • 3Sheets2TheWind3Sheets2TheWind Posts: 3,028
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    Was it a bar or a ram lounge?

    Please let it have been a ram lounge! :D

    When I saw the thread title I assumed it was a woman whose boyfriend went to a gay bar whilst on his hols.

    As it is, I am not sure what the issue is.
  • lozengerlozenger Posts: 4,881
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    Avidian wrote: »

    :D:D:D awww sorry OP - but this made me spit my wine out laughing
  • Lou KellyLou Kelly Posts: 2,778
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    Fantasist.
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 1,066
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    Personally, if I went on holiday by myself and there was a gay bar nearby, there's every chance I'd pop in for a drink to check out what 'the scene' was like in that country, purely out of curiosity - but certainly not to go on the pull.

    If my other half was in the same situation, I'd not bat an eyelid if they did likewise. It'd never cross my mind that anything untoward went on. He's never given me any reason to doubt him.

    I mean, it's not as if he has a Grindr account, emails porn stars or expresses an interest in dating other people and frequenting saunas.

    I think it'd be wrong to judge your boyfriend against your own (evidently) incredibly low (double) standards or moral integrity.

    Then again, perhaps you should and you're perfectly suited.
  • myssmyss Posts: 16,457
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    A gay man went to a gay bar and the OP is questioning whether he should be annoyed. Don't understand why.

    If I go to a straight bar my girlfriend doesn't get annoyed. Not really sure what the OP is asking.
    This OP. And looking at lozenger's post, I think you're just seeking attention.
  • dd68dd68 Posts: 17,833
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    Sounds like you don't trust him
  • mred2000mred2000 Posts: 10,050
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    Lou Kelly wrote: »
    Fantasist.

    I suspect the OP used to go by the username of londonite, too, so if you check out all their threads it paints a bizarre picture...
  • chocoholic100chocoholic100 Posts: 6,411
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    mred2000 wrote: »
    I suspect the OP used to go by the username of londonite, too, so if you check out all their threads it paints a bizarre picture...

    Ah I remember him.

    Very strange.
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