School Reunion: A step too far?
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I need some advice. I'm going to a school reunion on Saturday and its making me very nervous. Its been nearly 20 years since I left school and I still have the mental scars to prove it. Without going into details I have some mental health issues and I'm trying to deal with them.
Has anyone got any advice?
Thanks in advance
I need some advice. I'm going to a school reunion on Saturday and its making me very nervous. Its been nearly 20 years since I left school and I still have the mental scars to prove it. Without going into details I have some mental health issues and I'm trying to deal with them.
Has anyone got any advice?
Thanks in advance
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why go? what will it do for your recovery?
Maybe to prove how far I've come in life.
I can't see how going to an event like this will aid your recovery. If you're prepared to listen to how brilliantly everyone else is doing (most of them really won't be, trust me) or how clever their kids are etc, then fine, it's your call and I hope you enjoy yourself. If you're a bit vulnerable and maybe lacking in self-confidence, I don't think it'll be great for you.
If you do end up going, then I hope I'm wrong.
I do see what you mean, in spite of my previous negative post. If Neil C is really proud of his achievements, he could go, hold his head up as you said and poke them in the eye (figuratively speaking). He'll definitely see that those kids or teachers who gave him a hard time aren't the monsters he thought they were, which in itself is a healing thing. He might even be able to put the whole horror of it behind him.
Damn, I'm so indecisive. Half of me says "don't risk it", and the other half says "go get 'em, tiger".
Enjoy the night. Its more fun after a few beers
I hated school but not my pals there.
I went to my first ever reunion of 50 years since we walked through the gates after a few Emails flew around.
First thought was "Stuff that" but I was offered a stopover for a game of golf and a night out the night after.
Eight of us on a table and I hadn't seen them in four decades.
During the speeches it was as if we were back in assembly - giggling and muttering asides and disapproving looks from the other tables. No one had changed a bit character wise and were all recognisable - but "aged with grace".
Glad I went.
Life is very brief.
It will probably be bearable, but given your issues I think you could be forgiven for opting to stay at home.
- The absolute bullying scumbag I detested the most is now a washed up druggie and appears to be going nowhere with his life.
- One weird kid who used to go around accusing me and others of being gay is now out of the closet and is about as gay as it's possible to be!
- One girl I never used to fancy is now an absolute stunner!
- The one girl pretty much all the boys used to fancy is now nothing special in my opinion.
- Some very unlikely people are now smokers.
- One person who should've done huge amounts with her life has underachieved because she let her hobby of music turn into an obsession. I also think she was/is into cannabis.
After 20 years people change a lot and every ones life is different so it doesn't really need to be compared. I personally think you should go.
Good luck!
However, with the other schools, I'd rather crawl over broken glass than see any of those ******* ever again.
Honestly, if you weren't horrendously bullied at school, you should consider going. Remember, all the immature people are now pushing forty and probably have families and jobs and have grown up a good deal. If anyone acts like an idiot, then they'll just be embarrassing themselves. Also, you're an adult, so you don't have to take their shit anymore.
If you didn't enjoy school or are worried that you'll look bad, then don't go. You really don't have to if you don't want to.,It would be wrong to put additional pressure on yourself to say it's part of your recovery if you don't want to go - does that mean you haven't recovered if you don't go? No.
If you go, I hope you enjoy yourself and rekindle old friendships. If you don't go, then it really doesn't matter. Either way, I hope you recover fully.
I'd say this is the best advice.
Look forward, not back.
However, they tried to organise another one five years later. I refused to attend this one; been there, done that got the T-shirt, I thought.
There a couple of people I still know from school and we've kept in touch all our adult lives. The rest, I'm not really all that bothered about, quite honestly.