because they love male characteristics, male energy, and need that type of energy in their life to back up or compliment their own energy?
Because, why should they be deprived of a man who puts them first, and is devoted to them, just because of their anatomy? Why should only women be allowed to cherish men, or be cherished by men, ie have a male significant other?
because - more sleazily - they find the physical stuff fun?
diverting a little from the topic here, but above are my responses.
but thanks for the posts people and to PlatinumSteve and Elphie Lives, was it because on a non-physical, emotional level you preferred the opposite sex - or, was it for more social reasons, such as fear of homophobic abuse, fear of social rejections, not wanting to be not seen as normal, not wanting to disappoint parents or other social stuff?
I personally had been brought up to believe that you meet a boy (or a girl if you are male), marry (in a church) and then have lots of lovely babies. So I guess it was mostly a fear of my parents' reactions, I was convinced my dad would hate me. But you can't live your life in fear of what other people think.
That's the point of the original question though... there's no sane reason to want to change your sexuality to be gay.
Comes across a bit harsh IMO... kind of implies that there's something negative about being gay.
Regarding the original question... I go through phases where I believe that I would change my sexual orientation if i could, purely because I have spent many hours puzzling over my sexual orientation as it is.
When all is said and done though, I would probably leave it as it is... I'd probably regret choosing to be straight or a lesbian after being used to me being me for so long.
I'd rather be straight; bisexuality feels kinda pointless to me.
You'd probably just need to get lucky. Perfect, well off, young man who doesn't mind you having girlfriends and hot tub sessions. Sadly I'm way too old although the hot tub sessions would probably work wonders for my knees.
Comes across a bit harsh IMO... kind of implies that there's something negative about being gay.
Regarding the original question... I go through phases where I believe that I would change my sexual orientation if i could, purely because I have spent many hours puzzling over my sexual orientation as it is.
When all is said and done though, I would probably leave it as it is... I'd probably regret choosing to be straight or a lesbian after being used to me being me for so long.
I didn't mean to say it was negative, but wondered what benefits are there? Dolls answered I guess.
If blokes like a bit of rough and tumble
plus, you can leave the toilet seat up.
because they love male characteristics, male energy, and need that type of energy in their life to back up or compliment their own energy?
Because, why should they be deprived of a man who puts them first, and is devoted to them, just because of their anatomy? Why should only women be allowed to cherish men, or be cherished by men, ie have a male significant other?
because they love male characteristics, male energy, and need that type of energy in their life to back up or compliment their own energy?
Because, why should they be deprived of a man who puts them first, and is devoted to them, just because of their anatomy? Why should only women be allowed to cherish men, or be cherished by men, ie have a male significant other?
I'm gay and to be honest I'd happily take a pill to turn straight - life would be so much easier. I'm too square and middle of the road to be "different"....I'd prefer to be in the majority - and I'd LOVE to have kids
I'm gay and to be honest I'd happily take a pill to turn straight - life would be so much easier. I'm too square and middle of the road to be "different"....I'd prefer to be in the majority - and I'd LOVE to have kids
Not much on here affects me, I'm far too cynical for all that, but this really touched me. Choked up and not quite sure what to say
I didn't mean to say it was negative, but wondered what benefits are there? Dolls answered I guess.
If blokes like a bit of rough and tumble
plus, you can leave the toilet seat up.
Not for a second. It still annoys me today when I hear people say 'You think I'd choose to be gay?'
Well, why not?
I wouldn't choose not to like pizza. I don't have any great urge to prefer dark chocolate to milk chocolate. I'm satisfied with my preference for movies and books and sports interests.
I don't understand why I'd want to change any of that. They're all the same, surely?
Not for a second. It still annoys me today when I hear people say 'You think I'd choose to be gay?'
Well, why not?
I wouldn't choose not to like pizza. I don't have any great urge to prefer dark chocolate to milk chocolate. I'm satisfied with my preference for movies and books and sports interests.
I don't understand why I'd want to change any of that. They're all the same, surely?
I that that comment 'You think I'd choose to be gay?' is part community rhetoric, in response to bigotry, and also a confirmation that things are vastly better than they were, but still nowhere near good enough to allow people to live a healthy satisfied fully productive life in the face of bigotry. We should count our blessings that we live in one of the most progressive of societies, but never forget there is still a list of things which need to be sorted, and that hearts and minds change for the better, in all sorts of areas, only slowly and with incremental steps. Bullying still rife in schools, no marriage equality, benefits and pensions still wrong for Civil Partnerships, still a lot of crime (Stuart Walker et al), and daily abuse by religions and bigots. We must never stop challenging wrong behaviour or it will never change.
I'm gay and to be honest I'd happily take a pill to turn straight - life would be so much easier. I'm too square and middle of the road to be "different"....I'd prefer to be in the majority - and I'd LOVE to have kids
I feel for you but I can't feel like this at all - I despise the tendency of a lot of the bigots of society to just put love into heterosexual brackets - I think it has a tendency to block womens need for women and mens need for men in a non-sexual way, too - that it promotes same-gender competitiveness and hatefulness, that's just how I feel - i guess maybe cos I feel same-gender love is something which goes just a bit further than friendship but is otherwise the same as friendship - just how I feel ...
And I don't think that makes me different. I actually think homophobia is what is unnatural and some sort of unhealthy social trend of the moment. Go back a couple of hundred years and most societies didn't have these sorts of mind-sets, including western society. Just what I think.
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That's true, judging by the amount of whining they do, them gays
That's the point of the original question though... there's no sane reason to want to change your sexuality to be gay.
because they get the biggest crushes ever on men?
because they love male characteristics, male energy, and need that type of energy in their life to back up or compliment their own energy?
Because, why should they be deprived of a man who puts them first, and is devoted to them, just because of their anatomy? Why should only women be allowed to cherish men, or be cherished by men, ie have a male significant other?
because - more sleazily - they find the physical stuff fun?
diverting a little from the topic here, but above are my responses.
I personally had been brought up to believe that you meet a boy (or a girl if you are male), marry (in a church) and then have lots of lovely babies. So I guess it was mostly a fear of my parents' reactions, I was convinced my dad would hate me. But you can't live your life in fear of what other people think.
came out at 15 never looked back..48 now still happy.
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It has always amazed me. Just doesn't seem quiet right.
Comes across a bit harsh IMO... kind of implies that there's something negative about being gay.
Regarding the original question... I go through phases where I believe that I would change my sexual orientation if i could, purely because I have spent many hours puzzling over my sexual orientation as it is.
When all is said and done though, I would probably leave it as it is... I'd probably regret choosing to be straight or a lesbian after being used to me being me for so long.
You'd probably just need to get lucky. Perfect, well off, young man who doesn't mind you having girlfriends and hot tub sessions. Sadly I'm way too old although the hot tub sessions would probably work wonders for my knees.
Good Luck and all the best.
I didn't mean to say it was negative, but wondered what benefits are there? Dolls answered I guess.
If blokes like a bit of rough and tumble
plus, you can leave the toilet seat up.
I am proud of being gay, and while it doesn't define me as a person it's obviously a part of who I am, and I'm happy with who I am.
I just could not imagine what it would be like to be straight at all.
Exactly this.
What, including the lady gays?
Not much on here affects me, I'm far too cynical for all that, but this really touched me. Choked up and not quite sure what to say
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TntcARPp1OE#t=0m6s
Nuff said :sleep:
Well, why not?
I wouldn't choose not to like pizza. I don't have any great urge to prefer dark chocolate to milk chocolate. I'm satisfied with my preference for movies and books and sports interests.
I don't understand why I'd want to change any of that. They're all the same, surely?
No I was kind of thinking Glowbot meant just the guys because he didn't add lesbian to what he said.
I mean, I'm straight and have no wish to be gay. But if I wanted to be gay, then surely I already am for the fact that I want to like men?
I that that comment 'You think I'd choose to be gay?' is part community rhetoric, in response to bigotry, and also a confirmation that things are vastly better than they were, but still nowhere near good enough to allow people to live a healthy satisfied fully productive life in the face of bigotry. We should count our blessings that we live in one of the most progressive of societies, but never forget there is still a list of things which need to be sorted, and that hearts and minds change for the better, in all sorts of areas, only slowly and with incremental steps. Bullying still rife in schools, no marriage equality, benefits and pensions still wrong for Civil Partnerships, still a lot of crime (Stuart Walker et al), and daily abuse by religions and bigots. We must never stop challenging wrong behaviour or it will never change.
And I don't think that makes me different. I actually think homophobia is what is unnatural and some sort of unhealthy social trend of the moment. Go back a couple of hundred years and most societies didn't have these sorts of mind-sets, including western society. Just what I think.