2003 was the last actual relationship. He was a bit of a dick, and we had a brief reunion in I think 2004 or 2005 but it turned out he was still a bit of dick so that didn't go anywhere. I wasn't really that bothered; I'd only got back in touch with him because I wanted a shag
There are very few gay people in my area and even fewer attractive ones, which limits the options somewhat and I don't plan on moving any time soon, so it is what it is. One thing I have noticed is that on the rare occasion I venture into London, I get a lot more interest now I'm not looking than I did when I was, which is rather ironic.
You shouldn't feel weird about it, not at all. I think stuff like peer pressure could make it seem that way, but we're all different people and this is who we are, it's the way it is, there's nothing odd about it.
Just think, the right person could come along at any moment. Good people are waiting for, I think, rather than ending up with someone you don't particularly like or see a future with.
Yes, I think I'd rather be single for this long than go through a few relationships and have my heart smashed to bits by now. It does get lonely sometimes though and of course physical needs makes it frustrating.
No, unfortunately. It's the sort of thing I'd like.
i was doing okay for that until a few years ago but since turning 40 it's harder to find a woman willing to just fool around at the weekend. Seems like they are mostly divorcees hoping to snare a new husband or else they've given up on the whole thing.
I almost want the reason to be social anxiety, at least that makes sense. Honestly, I'm extremely selfish. I can't imagine sharing, or having to consider someone else's needs first.
No-one says you have to. All relationships work differently. I hate the notion of some kind of set idea of a relationship everyone has to adhere to. Keep it random and interesting!
sweh you are so funny on here, you'd make a great partner for someone cause laughter and fun keep it all going.
I've been widowed for nearly three years now, after a 49 year marriage (not altogether a good one) and I can honestly say I have never been happier. There is no way I would ever have another man in my life, but then, I am nearly 71 so it's a bit of a moot point really ;-)
i was doing okay for that until a few years ago but since turning 40 it's harder to find a woman willing to just fool around at the weekend. Seems like they are mostly divorcees hoping to snare a new husband or else they've given up on the whole thing.
Doesn't bother me much but it's a bit of a shame
It's not just the women, I think we're in the minority is all
I have the same problem. I'm happy with my life at the moment, I'm content, I like the way things are. It would be 'nice' to have someone to be someone other than mom with on occasions but that's all. I don't want to go changing things that don't need changing. I know we're not 'young' anymore, but what's the rush?
One bloke, after about 4 dates started worrying about being 'dad' to my kids. I don't want a 'dad' for them, they have a dad! Another one wanted me to move in after one date, I was still deciding whether to have a second date (I didn't)!
One bloke, after about 4 dates started worrying about being 'dad' to my kids. I don't want a 'dad' for them, they have a dad! Another one wanted me to move in after one date, I was still deciding whether to have a second date (I didn't)!
Since July 2011.....That's 3 years. The first year of the break up was spent going back and forth with the ex, and rebound flings. The second year was spent clubbing, socialising, truly enjoying freedom.
The last year has been all about self improvement and personal goals - got a few more things left on the list, and will be ready to enter a new relationship in the new year.
Luckily, I work with lots of hot women, so get all my flirting needs in the office on a daily basis. Still enjoying be single, and just so used to do my own thing. It really will take someone special to tie me down to a relationship again....
I've been single since 2012 but it was only a two month relationship. before that i had been single since 2007. I am 24 and people always ask why too, it's very frustrating.
Just over 3 months, still upset about it all and taking it one day at a time.
Same for me but mine is 5 1/2 months. My six year relationship (engaged for four) was ended by a phone call. I'm getting there slowly but my self confidence and self belief went with that phone call.
Same for me but mine is 5 1/2 months. My six year relationship (engaged for four) was ended by a phone call. I'm getting there slowly but my self confidence and self belief went with that phone call.
I got a text first while I was at work, then a phone call to end it a few hours later...after six years....gutless, spineless fool. I never saw him, even when he came to move out of the house. Took me a long time to feel anger but it happened eventually after being a total mess for a couple of months!
I've been pretty much single all my life. I'm 26. I have been in love and had a very brief relationship, but it couldn't carry on for a number of reasons and ended badly. I haven't wanted a relationship since. In fact, I'm not bothered about ever being in a relationship. It worries me that I think that way, but I can't help it. I love having my own money, lots if friends, being able to do my own thing and not have to always consider someone else. I'm aware that obviously that could change if I meet someone special, however I have met a number of people where a relationship was on the cards, but I put a stop to it. The thought of meeting someone and spending my whole life with that one person fills me with dread. Even if I got into a relationship at say 40...that's still potentially 30 or 40 years that I would spend with that person and I hate the thought of that!! I can't think of anything worse than getting a mortgage with someone either. I like being independent. I probably sound like such a selfish person, but I'm not at all. I'm just comfortable in myself and don't need anyone.
I've been pretty much single all my life. I'm 26. I have been in love and had a very brief relationship, but it couldn't carry on for a number of reasons and ended badly. I haven't wanted a relationship since. In fact, I'm not bothered about ever being in a relationship. It worries me that I think that way, but I can't help it. I love having my own money, lots if friends, being able to do my own thing and not have to always consider someone else. I'm aware that obviously that could change if I meet someone special, however I have met a number of people where a relationship was on the cards, but I put a stop to it. The thought of meeting someone and spending my whole life with that one person fills me with dread. Even if I got into a relationship at say 40...that's still potentially 30 or 40 years that I would spend with that person and I hate the thought of that!! I can't think of anything worse than getting a mortgage with someone either. I like being independent. I probably sound like such a selfish person, but I'm not at all. I'm just comfortable in myself and don't need anyone.
I got a text first while I was at work, then a phone call to end it a few hours later...after six years....gutless, spineless fool. I never saw him, even when he came to move out of the house. Took me a long time to feel anger but it happened eventually after being a total mess for a couple of months!
That's so awful. What a piece of work that guy was...!
i was doing okay for that until a few years ago but since turning 40 it's harder to find a woman willing to just fool around at the weekend. Seems like they are mostly divorcees hoping to snare a new husband or else they've given up on the whole thing.
Doesn't bother me much but it's a bit of a shame
Same issue in reverse. Most of the men I talk to are looking for a serious LTR.
It's not just the women, I think we're in the minority is all*I have the same problem. I'm happy with my life at the moment, I'm content, I like the way things are. It would be 'nice' to have someone to be someone other than mom with on occasions but that's all. I don't want to go changing things that don't need changing. I know we're not 'young' anymore, but what's the rush?One bloke, after about 4 dates started worrying about being 'dad' to my kids. I don't want a 'dad' for them, they have a dad! Another one wanted me to move in after one date, I was still deciding whether to have a second date (I didn't)![\QUOTE]
2003 was the last actual relationship. He was a bit of a dick, and we had a brief reunion in I think 2004 or 2005 but it turned out he was still a bit of dick so that didn't go anywhere. I wasn't really that bothered; I'd only got back in touch with him because I wanted a shag
There are very few gay people in my area and even fewer attractive ones, which limits the options somewhat and I don't plan on moving any time soon, so it is what it is. One thing I have noticed is that on the rare occasion I venture into London, I get a lot more interest now I'm not looking than I did when I was, which is rather ironic.
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There are very few gay people in my area and even fewer attractive ones, which limits the options somewhat and I don't plan on moving any time soon, so it is what it is. One thing I have noticed is that on the rare occasion I venture into London, I get a lot more interest now I'm not looking than I did when I was, which is rather ironic.
Yes, I think I'd rather be single for this long than go through a few relationships and have my heart smashed to bits by now. It does get lonely sometimes though and of course physical needs makes it frustrating.
Yes, there's a lot more long time singletons than I thought!
Doesn't bother me much but it's a bit of a shame
No-one says you have to. All relationships work differently. I hate the notion of some kind of set idea of a relationship everyone has to adhere to. Keep it random and interesting!
sweh you are so funny on here, you'd make a great partner for someone cause laughter and fun keep it all going.
Where do you live?
It's not just the women, I think we're in the minority is all
I have the same problem. I'm happy with my life at the moment, I'm content, I like the way things are. It would be 'nice' to have someone to be someone other than mom with on occasions but that's all. I don't want to go changing things that don't need changing. I know we're not 'young' anymore, but what's the rush?
One bloke, after about 4 dates started worrying about being 'dad' to my kids. I don't want a 'dad' for them, they have a dad! Another one wanted me to move in after one date, I was still deciding whether to have a second date (I didn't)!
Laughed out loud!
S'not even funny
The last year has been all about self improvement and personal goals - got a few more things left on the list, and will be ready to enter a new relationship in the new year.
Luckily, I work with lots of hot women, so get all my flirting needs in the office on a daily basis. Still enjoying be single, and just so used to do my own thing. It really will take someone special to tie me down to a relationship again....
Same for me but mine is 5 1/2 months. My six year relationship (engaged for four) was ended by a phone call. I'm getting there slowly but my self confidence and self belief went with that phone call.
My last bf ended it with a text >:(
I got a text first while I was at work, then a phone call to end it a few hours later...after six years....gutless, spineless fool. I never saw him, even when he came to move out of the house. Took me a long time to feel anger but it happened eventually after being a total mess for a couple of months!
You're only 26!
That's so awful. What a piece of work that guy was...!
Same issue in reverse. Most of the men I talk to are looking for a serious LTR.
People always want what they can't have
So did mine. What a cowardly way to end things >:(
Yeah! I would at least give her the courtesy of a voicemail...:p