Do you socialise much with people from work?
Swanandduck2
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When I worked in the city centre I was quite willing to go for the occasional drink after work or to farewell dos etc. Now that I work further out it's often too much trouble.
Just wondering if other posters enjoy socialising with colleagues or avoid it like the plague?
Just wondering if other posters enjoy socialising with colleagues or avoid it like the plague?
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There are 3 cliques: 1. The managers, 2. The people who work at the registers, 3. The people who provide customer service on the shop floor.
We have 3 big tables down in the lunch room. The cliques even sit together.
As a permanently skint mother I prefer the few nights out I do have to be with good friends, or my husband, not the people I'm forced to spend Monday to Friday with...
Another reason I don't bother!
I used to enjoy going down the pub on a Friday with colleagues, in my old job but only worked at one place where it was a 'tradition'. Otherwise, had nothing in common with colleagues and I had very young kids, so too busy to socialise.
Arrangements for the Xmas do have started already. I'm already working out which excuse to use for not attending, and trying to remember which excuses I've trotted out in past years and which ones I can still get away with.
Very much like my place of work, we have the crawlers who invade the managers tables doing their brown nosing.
Me I sit with the riff raff at the other end of the canteen, xmas party this year at work you must be joking, me and a few good work mates will make our own arrangements to do something.
As for outside of work, I don't really socialise with them because I rarely meet them. If I saw them though I'd have a quick chat.
I have one colleague who I work closely with and we get on really well but I don't think we'd ever really socialise outside of work.
Mind you, it is a pretty sociable work place - people move internally (between teams) fairly regularly, so you need to be able to get on with people
I have to be honest, I don't understand that attitude. Obviously you need a life away from work, but it's also nice to have a few friends in work that you can go for a drink with or out for a meal. I'm not talking about every week, but occasionally.
Deliberately holding yourself aloof from colleagues and making a point of never socialising with them seems a bit of a posture to me. Why not just take it as it comes and see what happens, as opposed to deciding in advance you're not going to socialise with any of them?
During summers, a couple would organise a game of rounders against employees from a rival company in a public park. It was fun. Apart from a time when my damn halter top fell down, baring my chest to the world. Mortifying.
But yeah, they are a good lot, really.
I have only been in my new job for a few weeks and I don't think I'll socialise with them out of work, even when I know them better.
It's also cliquey - it's in a school and in the staff room all the teachers sit together, all the T.A.s sit together and all the admin staff sit together.
When someone's new and they sit in the wrong part of the staff room, they soon learn they will be ignored until they sit with their own clique! :eek:
Some people are naturally not "Team players" as employers like to call it. I'm not much of a team player, or a joiner-in. Even as a child I was never overly sociable and didn't like to be part of a team so to speak.
I don't mind a bit of work socialising and will normally attend things like the Christmas party but I do have "proper" friends and family away from work so would rather spend my downtime with them.
I now work in a really small company. Apart from the two bosses I work with one part time lady. I have been to the cinema with her once and we have gone out for a pizza a couple of times at lunchtime .... but its rare.
That's fair enough. I find it hard enough to get time to meet up with long standing friends, so certainly wouldn't want to be going out with people from work every week. But I'm talking about people who make it an absolute rule that they won't socialise with anyone from work. I just find that attitude a bit odd.
However, I am very good friends with 3 girls I trained with over 30 years ago
No. There are some talk to more than others but I don't have their phone numbers, I don't speak them outside of work. I don't socialise with anyone at work.