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An ex lying about attending Uni - what would you do?
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Hi everyone
I have discovered that an ex of mine is lying about attending University. He is saying that he went to the same Uni that I went to when we were going out. i know that he did not go there obviously. He is the only ex that I do not trust, his niece told me that he had tried it on with her! He also cheated on me and stole from me. A dreadful person but I was young!
Anyway, any thoughts on whether I should do anything? and if so what can I do? I am uncomfortable that he is misrepresenting himself, presumably to gain some advantage. Should I report it to my alma mater? I have a screenshot of his facebook page stating he studied at the institution.
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I have discovered that an ex of mine is lying about attending University. He is saying that he went to the same Uni that I went to when we were going out. i know that he did not go there obviously. He is the only ex that I do not trust, his niece told me that he had tried it on with her! He also cheated on me and stole from me. A dreadful person but I was young!
Anyway, any thoughts on whether I should do anything? and if so what can I do? I am uncomfortable that he is misrepresenting himself, presumably to gain some advantage. Should I report it to my alma mater? I have a screenshot of his facebook page stating he studied at the institution.
Mods if this is in the wrong place feel free to move to another place.
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If you do say anything, you'll just end up looking petty & vindictive.
Seriously? Is this true?
Or did he try it on with your niece?
His niece - and it is all true - I reported him to the police for insurance fraud - but he had left the country. A very, very nasty man.
He's obviously doing it to impress, problem is to create such a lie, he's going to at some point have to carry it off, then he'll come unstuck. He clearly has issues relating to self esteem if he's having to pretend to be something that he's not. The fact that he 'tried it on' with his niece shows he looks to be reassured that he's got what it takes to keep the ladies interested ( was he coming on to her whilst with you? )
As an ex I don't really see what he's up to should really have anything to do with you, to be honest, and taking an interest in his Facebook probably isn't something you should concern yourself with.
I don't know what can be gained by reporting him to anybody, it's not as if he's commited a crime, he's just been economical with the truth, I'd just leave him to wander through life in his fantasy world, and just be thankful that he's not around to be lying and deceiving you anymore. That's just me though, you must do what you think is right for you.
If he is your ex why are you bothered? get on with your life, he is history.!
It sounds like you should avoid this man like the plague OP!!
Reporting him (even if you do feel he is taking advantage of people) is just bringing him back into your life..
I am intrigued as to how you found out what this man was up to? Were you checking him out online?
How does it affect you? He is mirepresenting himself, not you. Leave him to it, its not like he is telling lies about you, just about himself.
Thanks for that - yes he was with me when he tried it on - she was only 15. Her parents were getting divorced so it was a really bad time for her. When she told me, I told her to tell her mother which she did. I think they disowned him. Why have I looked him up?? Given that we didn't exactly part on good terms and it has been years, I suddenly get a linkedin invitation from him!! Needless to say I felt a bit stalked so looked him on fb as I would hate to ever see him again.
And yes he is to be pitied - he does seem to have a touch of the Mitty about him. I have decided to let karma take its course - he will be found out, thanks to the advice the posters here have given.
Thanks
Yeah it does seem a bit weird why anyone would check up on an ex on facebook? Now all that has happened is that the OP has got very upset. But as for reporting him, is the OP serious? Who the hell cares what anyone put on their FB status?
As I said earlier - we probably cross posted - it was years ago and suddenly I receive an invite from him on Linkedin. TBH I felt stalked given (once I got over the disbelief) what I know of him so looked him up to see where he is. - I would not want to see that man again. When it comes to protecting yourself I am sure most people would do the same.
If you want to protect yourself from him then take out a protection order.
If you were not, you wouldn't care - nor be checking up on him on Facebook.
Block him on FB - then he can't look you up and vice versa and get on with your life.
That is funny! Seriously though he is a very nasty person who contacted me via sending an invite on LinkedIn. I have not seen him for years. Given what I know of him and his behaviour I then looked him as I felt somewhat stalked. Is that so difficult to grasp? I don't know what age you are but when someone contacts you from the past who you know to be a vile person and who is capable of a lot of bad things you would maybe do the same - after all you wouldn't want to run into that person in the street - well at least I wouldn't. We are all different.
Yes we are. And apparently you are a nosey interfering busy-body. I'm glad I'm not.
OP forget it.
I think thats a bit harsh on the OP - very few of us could honestly say we've not done some FB stalking in our time....:o
Totally agree.