My 5 year old daughter (6 next month) goes to bed at 7pm on a school night. Although some nights she may read in bed for a bit if she's not overly tired.
Weekends I don't mind what time she goes to bed, so I let her decide when she's ready. Sometimes that's 7pm and sometimes it's 11pm!
I have friends who still put their little ones to sleep for afternoon naps aswell. I'm sure it's more for their benefit really for a bit of peace.
Er no, some kids need a lot of sleep, if a kid doesn't need sleep, they won't sleep. Short of drugging a child you can't make them sleep unless they are tired. My son had an afternoon nap right up until he was 4, if he didn't have an hour or so nap after his dinner, he'd be a right arsey ltlle boy by teatime, there would be tears and snot and everything. Horrible if he missed his nap, he liked his kip and still does.
I didn't put him to bed, he'd eat his dinner and go flake out on the sofa and snore and fart for an hour.
Er no, some kids need a lot of sleep, if a kid doesn't need sleep, they won't sleep. Short of drugging a child you can't make them sleep unless they are tired. My son had an afternoon nap right up until he was 4, if he didn't have an hour or so nap after his dinner, he'd be a right arsey ltlle boy by teatime, there would be tears and snot and everything. Horrible if he missed his nap, he liked his kip and still does.
I didn't put him to bed, he'd eat his dinner and go flake out on the sofa and snore and fart for an hour.
Don't get me wrong in the past my kids have tried getting a sneaky kip in the middle of the day. I don't let them. They soon grew out of it.
Jesus :eek: reading this thread i now realise what an awful child i was regarding bedtime. As soon as i hit 13 i was in bed no earlier than 10:30pm. Usually i'd be in bed between 11:30 and 12:30 but i remember the days when i went to bed at 11:00 but stayed awake on my laptop til 3:00am. Although im guessing all those late nights are the cause of my never ending sleep now. The majority of the time i'll sleep in til 1:00/2:00pm now Although that could also be to too many parties as well.
My 4 month old is in bed at 7pm, my 2 year old 6:30pm and my 8 year old 8pm unless she has an activity like drama etc then its normally half hour after she gets home.
I do let my 8 year old stay up later at weekend, normally about ten but she is like a zombie the next day!!
When I was just 12 I'd probably start lagging out at that time. I was in year 7 the last season Forest were in Europe (95-6) and it wasn't until the morning I knew we had won the first round UEFA cup game - I was in bed way before the end, probably between 9 and 9.30 (I was about 11 3/4 then). Enough times at that age I'd listen to the end of football games on the clock radio then turn off the sleep timer at full time in the dark. So I'd at least be going to bed before 9.30 and otherwise able to sleep before then (because I was keeping myself up listening to the match) so actually, I could probably have gone to bed at 8.30 at 12.
Though I was a small kid for my age then, so most kids my age probably were going later. But it is when you are tired which matters. That varies in adults, let alone kids.
As a general point I don't see the point in attempting to sleep when you are not tired. It is futile.
My one is 13 in a couple of months and I am have started to let her stay up until 9. Before it was 8 O'clock bed. She is having real difficulty in getting up though. If she is left to sleep, she is a proper 14 hour sleeper and is also a very deep sleeper too. Nothing can wake her up. She has not got up once for her alarm since going to bed later because she just can't hear it and I end up having to get her up and I am thinking of putting her time back to eight again. Or buying a trumpet
My daughter is 14 and she goes to bed at 10pm. But as soon as she puts her head on the pillows, she's fast asleep. And she's up like a shot at 7am. Some of her school friends on FB are also friends of mine and even I'm shcoked to see how late they stay up too.
my 5 year old goes between 8-8.30pm (can stay up till 9 at weekends if not too noisy!), my 8 year old 9-9.30pm (can stay up till 10 at weekends), they have to be staggered an hour between as they share a bedroom and i have to make sure youngest asleep before middle son goes to bed or it would be bedlam. My 14 yr old goes at 11pm.
My daughter is 14 and she goes to bed at 10pm. But as soon as she puts her head on the pillows, she's fast asleep. And she's up like a shot at 7am. Some of her school friends on FB are also friends of mine and even I'm shcoked to see how late they stay up too.
She's doing it right. She'll just go to bed when she crashes out and gets enough sleep.
I never had arguments about bedtimes all the while I was in school. Even at 17/18 i'd go to bed about 11pm. I couldn't have stayed up much later.
I'd have said so when I was 12 but some families are different. I was an only child so I guess it didn't matter as much about bed times. However, I was definitely staying up past 9 when I was 6/7. When I was about 8, I was definitely going to bed around 10:30pm because I can remember my teacher at the time being horrified that I was allowed to stay up until that time. This probably had a lot to do with the fact we normally didn't eat dinner until 8pm because that was the time my parents had always eaten dinner.
My two are 15 and 18 when they were younger maybe 10 or so they were in bed for 9 and lights out at half past, they got so used to this routine that even now at the ages they are they still go up around the same time, though I dont go in to turn oldest ones light out at 9.30 anymore
That said they both still have paper rounds with early morning starts so and luckily for me they both tend to get off to sleep by about 9.30- 10pm.
apart from the weekends when oldest usually goes out and rolls in usually when I am already asleep.
My 13 year old goes to bed whenever she wants, I haven't felt the need to enforce a bedtime for a couple of years. The main reason for this is because she voluntarily takes herself to bed by 9:00 practically every night anyway. I don't see the point in having a rule for the sake of it.
I take my 6 year old up at 7:30 and then we have a story etc. He is not a great sleeper and doesn't need a lot, although he does generally sleep until at least 5:30am these days. He used to wake up before 4:00am every morning until he was 4 :eek:
My 3 year is off up the wooden hills to bedfordshire at about 6.15pm , by the time shes had a bath, got her jim jams on, been read some stories then its about 7.00-7.30 when shes out for the count. She has a busy day & needs her sleep as she's up at 7 in the morning & on the bus to nursery at 8am.
I feel a bit old here....but in the 1970's when I was but a lad - 12 years old and upwards, I used to go to bed at 9pm....but I had the LUXURY of a TV in my bedroom! So in effect, I didn't go to sleep until around midnight! Or whenever the national anthem was playing!
If I fell asleep beforehand, that annoying BLEEEEEEP would wake me up to turn it off.:o:sleep:
My 8 year old goes between 8 and 9 pm depending on his behaviour.
My 13 year old goes at 10pm.
They both get a bit of time for reading or whatever before they settle down and they get let off a bit when they are not at school.
My (soon to be) 3 year old gets put in bed when he falls asleep.
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Weekends I don't mind what time she goes to bed, so I let her decide when she's ready. Sometimes that's 7pm and sometimes it's 11pm!
Er no, some kids need a lot of sleep, if a kid doesn't need sleep, they won't sleep. Short of drugging a child you can't make them sleep unless they are tired. My son had an afternoon nap right up until he was 4, if he didn't have an hour or so nap after his dinner, he'd be a right arsey ltlle boy by teatime, there would be tears and snot and everything. Horrible if he missed his nap, he liked his kip and still does.
I didn't put him to bed, he'd eat his dinner and go flake out on the sofa and snore and fart for an hour.
Don't get me wrong in the past my kids have tried getting a sneaky kip in the middle of the day. I don't let them. They soon grew out of it.
Jeez. glad I didn't procreate with you. What a meanie. It's cruel to deprive small children of sleep when they need it
Kids will become lazy only if you let them.
I do let my 8 year old stay up later at weekend, normally about ten but she is like a zombie the next day!!
Depends.
When I was just 12 I'd probably start lagging out at that time. I was in year 7 the last season Forest were in Europe (95-6) and it wasn't until the morning I knew we had won the first round UEFA cup game - I was in bed way before the end, probably between 9 and 9.30 (I was about 11 3/4 then). Enough times at that age I'd listen to the end of football games on the clock radio then turn off the sleep timer at full time in the dark. So I'd at least be going to bed before 9.30 and otherwise able to sleep before then (because I was keeping myself up listening to the match) so actually, I could probably have gone to bed at 8.30 at 12.
Though I was a small kid for my age then, so most kids my age probably were going later. But it is when you are tired which matters. That varies in adults, let alone kids.
As a general point I don't see the point in attempting to sleep when you are not tired. It is futile.
She's doing it right. She'll just go to bed when she crashes out and gets enough sleep.
I never had arguments about bedtimes all the while I was in school. Even at 17/18 i'd go to bed about 11pm. I couldn't have stayed up much later.
I'd have said so when I was 12 but some families are different. I was an only child so I guess it didn't matter as much about bed times. However, I was definitely staying up past 9 when I was 6/7. When I was about 8, I was definitely going to bed around 10:30pm because I can remember my teacher at the time being horrified that I was allowed to stay up until that time. This probably had a lot to do with the fact we normally didn't eat dinner until 8pm because that was the time my parents had always eaten dinner.
That said they both still have paper rounds with early morning starts so and luckily for me they both tend to get off to sleep by about 9.30- 10pm.
apart from the weekends when oldest usually goes out and rolls in usually when I am already asleep.
I take my 6 year old up at 7:30 and then we have a story etc. He is not a great sleeper and doesn't need a lot, although he does generally sleep until at least 5:30am these days. He used to wake up before 4:00am every morning until he was 4 :eek:
If I fell asleep beforehand, that annoying BLEEEEEEP would wake me up to turn it off.:o:sleep:
I wouldn't worry. They are just growing up.
My 13 year old goes at 10pm.
They both get a bit of time for reading or whatever before they settle down and they get let off a bit when they are not at school.
My (soon to be) 3 year old gets put in bed when he falls asleep.
How kids today manage school and go to bed at ridiculous times is a mystery to me.