how to deal with best friends boyfriend?
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Me and my best friend get on really well, we met at college a couple of years ago and have become really close over the past year.
The problem is her boyfriend, i was at college with him a few years ago as well and we used to hang about as part of a big group but over the last few months he seems to have turned against me.
I went out with one of his friends for a few months and since we've split up he's treated me differently. He's always been a bit annoying (extremely vulgar and self publicising) and he called me a **** last week because i'd started talking to another bloke. I would have understood a bit better if i had dumped his pal and hurt him, but it was a mutual split and we were both happy.
Im also starting to get a bit annoyed with my friend, she reports everything i tell her back to the boyfriend. This means that he knows what we talk about on nights out, he knows if i've met a new bloke, he knows when we meet up and where.
I don't want to lose my friend but her boyfriend is unbearable and i don't know how to be friends with her whilst avoiding the boyfriend (especially now that she seems to tell him everything)
The problem is her boyfriend, i was at college with him a few years ago as well and we used to hang about as part of a big group but over the last few months he seems to have turned against me.
I went out with one of his friends for a few months and since we've split up he's treated me differently. He's always been a bit annoying (extremely vulgar and self publicising) and he called me a **** last week because i'd started talking to another bloke. I would have understood a bit better if i had dumped his pal and hurt him, but it was a mutual split and we were both happy.
Im also starting to get a bit annoyed with my friend, she reports everything i tell her back to the boyfriend. This means that he knows what we talk about on nights out, he knows if i've met a new bloke, he knows when we meet up and where.
I don't want to lose my friend but her boyfriend is unbearable and i don't know how to be friends with her whilst avoiding the boyfriend (especially now that she seems to tell him everything)
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When I did speak to her (earlier on) it seemed like his bitchiness had rubbed off on her and she could never be happy for me when a good opportunity came my way. She messed up her education and dropped out of college while I got my qualifications and went to uni so I think she was a bit jealous tbh.
The last straw was when her and I were supposed to meet up (after months apart) I'd travelled to meet her and she blew me off. Probably was hanging out with him. So I cut the strings - she was a lousy friend anyway (before meeting him) so I can't say I'm saddened. People like that just suck the life outta ya - I never looked back.
There's more to it as he was pretty insufferable tbh. Apologies if that was a bit of a ramble - just saying my experience of it. I just thought 'ya only have one life and it's too short to spend with people like that' ^.