No girlfriend, no friends, no social life, depressed
andersonsonson
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I'm self employed so don't have any work mates either. The only person I talk to regularly is my Mum.
I'm feeling depressed
I'm feeling depressed
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This is a surprise, you come over upbeat on here.
You have to get yourself out and about, do not sit there waiting for people to come to you.
Frankie has given you some tips.
There is so much out there but YOU have to make the first move to seek it out.
My main advice would be to get off the internet and go outside.
Walk even if alone, it beats sitting around dwelling on stuff and you get the exercise as well.
I hope you are just fed up and not depressed properly.
All the best.
I met my boyfriend out walking my dog, his dog and my dog got rather over-friendly.
As Frankie has rightly said, any social groups that involve things your interested in. If you've got like minded people around you for a specific reason, you'll always have something to talk about and you can go from there.
It's certainly a case of easier said than done though, but that's why you need to take it bit by bit and try and build up your confidence over time and the rest of it should follow.
My ex-husband met his second wife while walking his dogs!........... they didn't last (unfortunately) !.... but he now has another woman after him that he met!... while walking his dogs!............:D:D................ He says he is 'definately not marrying this one'... but we have yet to see!.... she seems to be pretty determined and hanging in there!......:D:D
Maybe the can't be bothered is the root of your problems.
Have a look in the mirror, see what you see and fix it
Put a add in the shop window asking if anyone needs a dog walker. My daughter pays £10 a hour for hers.
What happened to your girlfriend?
Pets are good at alleviating depression.
Join a club, society, gym. You could even go to church (:eek:).
Whatever you chose, make sure it is activity driven and that you like the activity.
Everyone's in the same boat and it's just a really good fun way to meet new people whilst learning something new or persuing a hobby.
Your local library will often also have groups or classes which is another good way of meeting local people.
I'm afraid it's all totally down to you though - you have to put the effort in and get off your bum. It won't come to you. But it's so worthwhile and really you can change your life very quickly by just biting the bullet and doing something a little bit out of your comfort zone.
Go and get your haircut and get your mother to take some good clear photos of you in a few manly poses - like hands on hips and with your head held high.
Your have no shortage of dates. If not write to single mothers or the less attractive women so you can use them to build up your conversational and social skills
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Happy-Plush-Dalmation-On-Lead/dp/B003IJULMC/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1414803996&sr=8-1&keywords=Invisible+dog+lead
Handy for dogging too. The OP's mum wouldn't suspect a thing.
Look at the OPs other threads, he posts some shite.
Zenton, that last bit is really awful advice!!!
It is totally unfair to use single mothers or "less attractive women" for practice. They are people with feelings too, who have joined these dating sites in good faith. How would you like it if someone found you unattractive but used you to practise on for when they contact better-looking candidates?!
OP, don't contact any women on dating sites unless they are women you would genuinely like to go out with.