To be fair, it doesn't sound like she's telling the world that she is having an abortion, just a horrible time. It's only because the OP has specialist knowledge that they know what it refers to...
This is actually a time when '**hugs**' may be an appropriate response, rather than some snarky comment....
Yes but anyone on her Facebook who reads that and doesn't know what's going on, is surely going to go on there and ask 'why hun? x' which is what she wants, and she will surely end up being revealing on there anyway, or leave people speculating as to why it is she is having 'a horrible time'.
Yes but anyone on her Facebook who reads that and doesn't know what's going on, is surely going to go on there and ask 'why hun? x' which is what she wants, and she will surely end up being revealing on there anyway, or leave people speculating as to why it is she is having 'a horrible time'.
exactly.. its like she wants to say it but instead keeps leaving cryptic messages..
last week it was " don't judge me"
yesterday it was " cant wait til this week is over"
This is a girl who excitedly announced her pregnancy on facebook at 6 weeks... and was talking about her "baby bump" a week later.
Total attention seeker. Some people will talk about ANYTHING on Facebook just for attention, how sad! She sounds really annoying. How old is she?
about 28 I think.. I think she had mental problems.
I think it was yet another attempt to "accidentally" get pregnant too.. after already being told that her husband didn't want any more kids. Her other 2 were also "accidents"..
The most brainless one I have on my FB is a young relative - am sure if she ever had an abortion, or a miscarriage, we'd get minute by minute updates. As it is, nothing ever happens in her life so it's all about dyeing her hair, or the latest cheap tattoo, or how much she loves her boyfriend, etc. She is a singularly unattractive person - both to look at and in terms of her shallow, selfish, egocentric personality - so the fact it seems to revolve around her looks (she's about a size 30) is really, really odd. If we'd had FB when we were that age, we'd never have been on it - cos we were always out and about and doing things, and going places, and being with people.
My best friend had a brain tumour removed in February, all the previous year he used Facebook regularly to update his friends on what was going on - how he was feeling, his thoughts, etc.
Personally i wasn't comfortable with it and neither was his wife as we discussed it while sat in hospital on operation day.
In the end if that was his way of dealing with and it gave him a supportive crutch then that's his choice.
Personally i never ever put anything personal on Facebook - my level is "Urgh, look at the weather - what a horrible day"
I'm so very glad I am not on FB, and will never be on FB or anything of its ilk.
I know someone who had a stillbirth. She took pictures of the baby and posted them on her facebook with some RIP messages.
People reacted very badly to it, likely because it made them uncomfortable. It was a very uncomfortable picture to look at, her holding her dead child. She got a good deal of abuse.
I just thought, as much as I didn't feel comfortable looking at the picture, that it was her way of acknowledging her childs existence.
These days there are a whole slew of people that believe that if it hasn't been shared with the world then it didn't really happen. Maybe we should add this to the nature of existence thread.
You could say that there is a journalistic element to the people posting things which people find comfortable, about things of great sadness such as abortion and stillbirth, I certainly wouldn't give anyone abuse about it, do the people giving abuse to the woman who posted the picture of her stillborn child think they are being morally superior by doing so? It's a time of great anguish and they have made her feel even worse, if they don't approve they could have chosen to say or do nothing, a facebook profile is still someones personal site.
My "lovely" sister in law is currently updating her status whilst she is having an abortion...
" this is horrible...."
have you seen anything worse?
I am dying to comment......
To be fair, at least she isn't saying "this is fun" or anything.like that. I bet it's not even that unusual these days for people to post this kind of thing as a lot of youngsters seem to live their whole lives through facebook. It doesn't make it right but it's not that surprising.
I know someone who had a stillbirth. She took pictures of the baby and posted them on her facebook with some RIP messages.
People reacted very badly to it, likely because it made them uncomfortable. It was a very uncomfortable picture to look at, her holding her dead child. She got a good deal of abuse.
I just thought, as much as I didn't feel comfortable looking at the picture, that it was her way of acknowledging her childs existence.
These days there are a whole slew of people that believe that if it hasn't been shared with the world then it didn't really happen. Maybe we should add this to the nature of existence thread.
A friend had a stillbirth many years ago and she kept a photo of her baby on the sideboard - I didn't feel uncomfortable looking at it as it was her son. I think it's just the modern way of doing the same thing.
One of my (ex) friends is never off FB, constantly posting pics with her fed up looking boyfriend and she constantly has to tell the world that she argued with him 5 minutes ago.
"Hate taking my moods out on him" - Well don't then
Someone on my FB posted a picture of a huge 'jobbie' sitting in a toilet. I told him that if there were a dislike button I would certainly be using it for his pic.
On the day of the Indonesian earhquake / tsunami warning last week , someone on my FB posted a photo of the rain outside their window with the thoughtless caption "omg look at the sunami) . With customary bad spelling :rolleyes:
I have a contact who recently found out that her ex, the father of her kid was arrested on a murder charge. She posted lots of stuff until eventually she deleted it. Im guessing there was some sort of police involvement so now shes just pasting links to local news sites reporting of the crime.
Ever since she found out every status has been along the lines of hope my family dont think bad of me and my son now this news has come out.
Thing is, this bloke apparently was a one night stand so her family and friends dont know him.
If it was me id have just kept quiet. Some things dont need
blabbing over facebook.
Another friend put something slightly odd after the grand national. She wrote something like, poor horse that died was so pretty. Im so sad and dont care that my horse won, i dont want the money
Then exactly 2 minutes later she posted yay £107! Thank you horsey, cant wait to go shopping!
My brother in law started posting some fairly offensive racist comments on his profile, and then went on to post them on the wall of a mutual friend, when the six nations rugby was going on. I've removed him as a friend and am still waiting for the family to start to notice and comment.
I was also very angry earlier this year when I had some medical issues. Had to have an op and told various people what was going on but said that I wanted nothing on FB because my kids were already worried and I didn't want that ramping up. Cue one 'friend' posting 'OMG I'm so worried, I hope my dear best friend will be okay after tomorrow' the night before the op. I very politely messaged her and asked her to remove the status, she got the right hump and after arguing with me about it she removed my son and daughter from her friends list, and negated our 'sister/niece' relationships as well. I toyed with deleting her but decided not to be petty or over-react (we have known each other for 30 years and I figured she probably was quite worried and therefore over-reacting herself).
However, it's not been mentioned since; she also made no attempt to visit me after the op unlike other people who rallied round offering help who I've known for far less time. She recently tried to reinvoke the 'sister/niece' statuses... since my daughter is no longer her friend the niece thing won't work and I've 'ignored' the sister request.... it really is true that you find out who your friends are at times like this, but I haven't posted that on FB and won't. I've simply removed her from my newsfeed so I no longer have to put up with her attention seeking and she'll never be any the wiser - easier all round, as she wasn't being as offensive as the brother in law, just irritating.
It is quite scary the way the world now revolves around facebook statuses for the younger generation - I only joined to keep an eye on my kids when they were younger, and now find myself getting sucked in from time to time and having to remind myself to get a life - I do wonder if in the not so distant future people will ever interact face to face....
Agree with the above post that others can be an issue. When i was in he process of buying our current house only a few close friends and our parents knew. We didnt want people asking us loads of questions if the sale didnt go through. One of my friends made a comment about hows the house going before i had time to read and delete it i had a message from a cousin asking if i was moving house and could she tell my nan? I was thinking no you cant, ill tell her when im ready!
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i was very tempted.
I shouldn't laugh... but I did
exactly.. its like she wants to say it but instead keeps leaving cryptic messages..
last week it was " don't judge me"
yesterday it was " cant wait til this week is over"
This is a girl who excitedly announced her pregnancy on facebook at 6 weeks... and was talking about her "baby bump" a week later.
about 28 I think.. I think she had mental problems.
I think it was yet another attempt to "accidentally" get pregnant too.. after already being told that her husband didn't want any more kids. Her other 2 were also "accidents"..
Sub human? It's tacky and tasteless, but it doesn't sound like she's posting graphic details, and it hardly sounds like she's being gleeful about it.
Maybe she's really in need of help and support.
I'm so very glad I am not on FB, and will never be on FB or anything of its ilk.
You could say that there is a journalistic element to the people posting things which people find comfortable, about things of great sadness such as abortion and stillbirth, I certainly wouldn't give anyone abuse about it, do the people giving abuse to the woman who posted the picture of her stillborn child think they are being morally superior by doing so? It's a time of great anguish and they have made her feel even worse, if they don't approve they could have chosen to say or do nothing, a facebook profile is still someones personal site.
I can't believe she's still copy and pasting the same old drivel!
To be fair, at least she isn't saying "this is fun" or anything.like that. I bet it's not even that unusual these days for people to post this kind of thing as a lot of youngsters seem to live their whole lives through facebook. It doesn't make it right but it's not that surprising.
A friend had a stillbirth many years ago and she kept a photo of her baby on the sideboard - I didn't feel uncomfortable looking at it as it was her son. I think it's just the modern way of doing the same thing.
Let no Facebook thread appear without mention of the infamous Luke Lawton
"Hate taking my moods out on him" - Well don't then
"Grrr so horny gonna jump on ma man when he gets home lol"
Err yeah thanks for that lol :mad:
" its days like today when you find out who really cares and who doesn't"
ATTENTION ATTENTION ATTENTION ATTENTION
ME ME ME ME ME
Ever since she found out every status has been along the lines of hope my family dont think bad of me and my son now this news has come out.
Thing is, this bloke apparently was a one night stand so her family and friends dont know him.
If it was me id have just kept quiet. Some things dont need
blabbing over facebook.
Another friend put something slightly odd after the grand national. She wrote something like, poor horse that died was so pretty. Im so sad and dont care that my horse won, i dont want the money
Then exactly 2 minutes later she posted yay £107! Thank you horsey, cant wait to go shopping!
I was also very angry earlier this year when I had some medical issues. Had to have an op and told various people what was going on but said that I wanted nothing on FB because my kids were already worried and I didn't want that ramping up. Cue one 'friend' posting 'OMG I'm so worried, I hope my dear best friend will be okay after tomorrow' the night before the op. I very politely messaged her and asked her to remove the status, she got the right hump and after arguing with me about it she removed my son and daughter from her friends list, and negated our 'sister/niece' relationships as well. I toyed with deleting her but decided not to be petty or over-react (we have known each other for 30 years and I figured she probably was quite worried and therefore over-reacting herself).
However, it's not been mentioned since; she also made no attempt to visit me after the op unlike other people who rallied round offering help who I've known for far less time. She recently tried to reinvoke the 'sister/niece' statuses... since my daughter is no longer her friend the niece thing won't work and I've 'ignored' the sister request.... it really is true that you find out who your friends are at times like this, but I haven't posted that on FB and won't. I've simply removed her from my newsfeed so I no longer have to put up with her attention seeking and she'll never be any the wiser - easier all round, as she wasn't being as offensive as the brother in law, just irritating.
It is quite scary the way the world now revolves around facebook statuses for the younger generation - I only joined to keep an eye on my kids when they were younger, and now find myself getting sucked in from time to time and having to remind myself to get a life - I do wonder if in the not so distant future people will ever interact face to face....