[Flossychick]

What I find very sad is that now your husband has turned into an angry aggressive man, where as previously he was kind, gentle and very patient. It does seem as though you spending time at your parents convalescing, has given him time out to live in a quiet peaceful environment. As soon as you returned he has has enough and is on the defence all the time as he can't deal with your anger issues. As much as you feel you might have suddenly seen the light, he has had years of abuse from you and this has changed him for the worse. You need to see this and take responsibility for changing him.

I think you are both better off apart for now, no one has to put up with abuse and he must love you very much to stay for this long. Now though, he seems at the end and the best thing you can do is set him free. You can then focus on your issues and be a better person for the next relationship you find.

[AwesomeGeorge]

You have to make the decision to end the marriage for your husband's sake, let him go, hopefully he'll find someone who will cherish him.

Then you have to seek professional help for your issues, get rid of the emotional baggage, and free yourself to have a proper, equal relationship next time.

Good luck.

[Erythroleukos]

You should hook up with 5340robert