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Are introverts discriminated against?
Vodka_Drinka
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I consider myself to be an introvert, and there seems to be a misconception that we dislike people and socialising but I'd like to say that's totally untrue. I enjoy meeting new people and going out, but I also really need alone time to recharge my batteries. If I don't get it I feel drained, tired and irritable. I dislike big parties and tend to blend into the background in a large group, however I do enjoy meeting up with people in smaller groups. If you were to meet me you'd probably not even realise I'm introverted, I'm not shy, I'm chatty and good at small talk etc. all of the things that extroverts think we are not.
I feel that we introverts are discriminated against a bit. People make the assumption that we are rude and anti social when it's far from the truth, we may blend into the background and get drowned out by the loud extroverts at parties but we also notice things that they don't. I've lost count of the amount of times I've noticed subtle behaviours and looks that my more extroverted friends and family have completely missed.
Also why is it that so many jobs now have personality tests which are quite obviously designed to screen out introverts? Surely a happy work place would have a balance of extroverts and introverts? Too many of the same personality type would surely cause clashes?
Is it because we wouldn't throw ourselves into the more social side of things? Because that's not true of me, sure I'd have problems if we had socials and team building exercises every single day of the week, but every now and then would be no problems and I'd happily get involved.
Are there any other introverts on here who feel the same way that I do?
I feel that we introverts are discriminated against a bit. People make the assumption that we are rude and anti social when it's far from the truth, we may blend into the background and get drowned out by the loud extroverts at parties but we also notice things that they don't. I've lost count of the amount of times I've noticed subtle behaviours and looks that my more extroverted friends and family have completely missed.
Also why is it that so many jobs now have personality tests which are quite obviously designed to screen out introverts? Surely a happy work place would have a balance of extroverts and introverts? Too many of the same personality type would surely cause clashes?
Is it because we wouldn't throw ourselves into the more social side of things? Because that's not true of me, sure I'd have problems if we had socials and team building exercises every single day of the week, but every now and then would be no problems and I'd happily get involved.Are there any other introverts on here who feel the same way that I do?
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Why do you say this?
If you are being treated as a doormat you can speak up. Being an introvert does not mean you are painfully shy so in that way it is not a true discrimination.
I am an introvert at times, but at other times I can be the reverse. I think most people are a mixture of the two.
I agree, what's wrong with being quiet?
Why should we change though? Why can't extroverts change to be more like us?;-)
stop with the passive aggressive self pity
I think it takes all sorts to make the world turn and i enjoy taking a breather at parties and going to talk to someone sitting quietly, thats usually the introvert and we have a good old natter as I can talk for England once i get going. One of my friends is very quiet, people don't understand why we are friends as we are complete opposite but the thing that struck me about what you said was the bit about noticing things. Kelly often picks upon issues people have with each other that I have missed and she is usually right.
What? thee? Why on earth do you say that?
Agreed. I shake my head at some of the pathetic crap that gets posted by people on this forum.
Socially awkward people maybe, but you get socially awkward extroverts too.
Speak for yourself ;-):D
Awkward extrovert... is that someone who had one too many?
My crap is typically offensive, unfunny, nearly always wrong and often annoying...
...but it's never pathetic.
I think we all know the type, the attention seeker who just says things that make you cringe and are just awkward in social situations.