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Do you mind your spouse rummaging in your wallet /purse if they needed money?
rfonzo
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I just wondered if you have had a long enough marriage or relationship to allow your other half/partner going through your wallet or purse to help themselves to some money?
I imagine if they did do that, it would be because they maybe needed some loose change for parking/travel fares etc.
Are you part of a couple that would never dream of going through their partners personal belongings?
Is it a stereotype for women to go through their men's wallet for money?
I imagine if they did do that, it would be because they maybe needed some loose change for parking/travel fares etc.
Are you part of a couple that would never dream of going through their partners personal belongings?
Is it a stereotype for women to go through their men's wallet for money?
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I never need it when I'm at work and when we are together it's to hand anyway.
My son, bless his heart, used to (as kids do) ask me for money to go to town/the pictures/get some fast food whilst out with his mates etc, etc. I'd say to him, my purse is there, in my bag, just take some cash out. No - he used to hand my bag to me so I could give him the money myself. He would never DREAM of 'helping himself'.
Respect. That's what it is. Respect the possessions of others. Don't touch what's not yours without permission.
Anyone touches anything of mine without asking me upfront, is risking (at the very least) a smack and, at worst, the inability to ever wear a wrist watch again.
Personally, I do refuse to delve into the missus' handbag simply cos I prefer to respect her "personal stuff".
If, say, she's in bed and she asks me to fetch her reading glasses out of her bag, I'll just get the bag and let her find them for herself.
It's not that I'm worried about what I might find in there (aside from manky bits of ossified wedding cake etc - why do women often seem to have a lump of cake in their bags?) but I just don't want to go rummaging through her junk.
By the same token, the missus doesn't like rummaging through my desk drawers, simply cos she's worried I'll have books with pages marked or little bags full of computer bits sorted into a specific order etc and she doesn't want to risk jumbling anything up.
Same thing really.
I have to regularly take the car keys from the OH's handbag, everything makes it's way in there so it's the first place to check if something goes astray. I used to ask but she just tells you to do it yourself (as do I with her) so I don't bother anymore.
I wouldn't go into her purse without asking, however she does go into my wallet without asking. I don't think she would care if I did though.
got nowt to hide so she can rummage away. At the end of the day its our money, I'll never understand married or long tern partner's with split money and accounts you pay that Bill I'll pay this one ffs, its our bills our house our money, correction her money my bills.
Or rubber.
Crikey.
With general people yes it is rude, but not with my o/h.
What's mine is his, what's his is mine. We decided that on our CP day.
I've been married 40+ years and we've always had a joint account. My wife saves £2 coins, mostly from me from the pub, and keeps them somewhere, I have no idea where.
She tells me how much she has, it stands about £500 at the moment. Paid for the vets bill last year.
Why? It doesn't bother me at all. I wouldn't go into my wifes handbag unless I needed to. We have no secrets.
my first husband used to steal my whole purse.