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My mum has completely lost control and I can't cope with her
fawltytowers93
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I literally feel Iike I'm the parent and she's the child half the time, she starts rows over the tiniest little things ever, for example I told her my friend is pregnant, and she moaned and ranted and screamed for three whole hours about it saying about how it will "distract me from my revision and I must stop speaking to her" and rubbish like that, when at the end of the day she's the one who's distracting me for keeping on for hours on end about pointless things. I keep begging her to stop shouting and be quiet, but she then accuses me of being argumentative for saying this to her and threatens to call the police on me and tells me I'm going to fail my life.
Then she'll go quiet for about half an hour and she'll be like "I love you, I'm sorry, I promise I'll never do it again" and she makes it really convincing, and then things are okay for a bit, but it's always guaranteed to happen again.
This happens on a regular basis.
It's just me and her living in the house and I'm 18. What advice can you give me? I can't cope with it
Then she'll go quiet for about half an hour and she'll be like "I love you, I'm sorry, I promise I'll never do it again" and she makes it really convincing, and then things are okay for a bit, but it's always guaranteed to happen again.
This happens on a regular basis.
It's just me and her living in the house and I'm 18. What advice can you give me? I can't cope with it
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Seriously, as a Mum, this is what we do and this is what my parents did to me.
Your relationship will improve a lot when you are out of there. So head down for now - roll your eyes in private, rant to your friends and just know it'll soon get better.
I don't think screaming and shouting for hours and then apologising to your child is "what mums do". It certainly wasn't what mine did!
Sounds similar to my mum, except she drank. A lot.
In the end I moved to my dads house. I was only 17 at the time and was honestly one of the best things I did! A huge weight off my shoulders.
Haven't spoke to her since, either.
It was a JOKE!!! Although saying that when my child is 18, I'll be 50 so poor her!!
Daughter?! I'm a guy and I have a girlfriend haha
Well my Mum did.
Hm, I remember your other thread. Is the girlfriend new or is that why you couldn't have who you fancied in that thread? Or, did you get the girl?!
I've already inboxed one person in regards to this :L
You're 18, move out.
Wow I would never do that to my child. and nor they to theirs. So its what you and your mum do but not all mums
Could be early menopause or money problems or a million other things if its not normal for her.
No its not , I would never do it , nor did my MUm nor any of my friends or relatives ,
Good for you but I have already stated it's what my Mum did and it's what I do. We're not all perfect parents.
Again - it's what my Mum did and it's what I do. I wouldn't say I scream for 15 minutes but I do think OP is exaggerating here.
His Mum is obviously concerned about things in his life. I don't see anything wrong in that.
I don't know any of my friends or relatives who haven't shouted at their kids. We're not all perfect.
It was you who said "its what us mums do" I am just putting you right that no not all or even most mums do, just you and your mum .
Apologies for bringing it up and thanks for the explanation.
It sounds like your mother needs help and that you need out of the current situation, fawltytowers93. Do you have any friends or family that you can stay with?
In addition, had you considered contacting your local Citizens Advice Bureau http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/index/getadvice.htm to see what can be done to get you some independent accommodation and some social services support for your mother?
All the best, fawltytowers93.
I knew someone would be along to correct me!
Let's be honest here - a teenager is moaning about his Mum moaning at him. I moan at my kids all the time 'tidy your room, brush your teeth'. Blah, blah. blah.
It's what Mum's do. I don't think there is any underlying problem here. Just a teenager sick of his parents telling him what to do.
I also live next door to someone who has threatened to ring the Police many a time on her child and we have even told her to as her child is very agressive towards her. No point taking the teenagers side - we don't know the mother's point of view and why she feels the need to ring the Police.
Did you actually read the OP? Its not normal mum telling child what to do stuff.
Yes I read it. Can you explain what you find alarming about it?
Of course we must assume this teenager is telling the truth and not exaggerating one bit. I notice he hasn't returned since I pulled him up on his previous thread.
There are a lot of trolls on DS as you know.