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Would you stand by a close family member even if they committed a heinous crime?
Jol44
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Would you stand by a close family member even if they committed a most heinous crime?
Would you stand by a close family member even if they committed a heinous crime? 94 votes
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No
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Ate the cat.
Can you give us some examples of what you believe are heinous crimes jol ?
Well... cold blooded murder.
I would never cover up evidence in a heinous crime and, depending on what the crime was, I might even sever contact with any perpetrator irrespective of whether they are a friend or a relative.
But this depends on how close i was to them prior to this anyway.
My aunt has always said that she would always stand by a member of the family no matter what they did. However if they murdered her grandson who she adores i would have to wonder where she would stand on that one. I doubt she'd sing the same tune then.
Exactly. For most cases for me it would be a yes. Obviously I wouldn't stand by if they abused my kid for example.
What if one day my Uncle killed a man with a single punch because he caught the man raping my Grandmother?
I would be campaigning to keep him out of prison I imagine.
If on the other hand my Uncle was a rapist I would find it very difficult to maintain contact. Much less offer him support.
So I have abstained due to not knowing the answer.
This......need a third option....called "depends"
eg if a burglar broke in and murdered your family and you shot him, thats not a heinous crime its a job well done
^^^ is the correct answer, therefore I cannot vote in the poll.
If the brother I don't have put a bloke in hospital for abusing my imaginary niece, yes I'd support him. If he put my imaginary niece in hospital or was himself the abuser, then no.
fingers crossed not of my relies have pulled a Harris
However, once he was convicted and imprisoned I did not cut him off. I visited him regularly and when he was eventually released kept in contact and showed him the tenderness and love I had always felt about him. As he grew older we talked about his 'crime' and although it was difficult somehow talking about it helped him a great deal and he never offended again in any way.
His probation officer said I was a great support to him. I simply said I loved him and if you love someone you stand by them. That doesn't mean I wasn't horrified at his crime and I faced his criminality head on - which I had to do in order to continue to love and support him.
I would do the same thing again without hesitation. Thankfully, I won't have too for he has now passed away.
Something like rape / child abuse would see be completely turn my back I think but something like murder could have a lot of different factors behind it.
Crappy choice whatever I guess!