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Don't know how to react to (homophobic?) comment?
I've been staying with my uncle and his wife for the past two weeks or so and things have been going well. Until today, I was watching Alan Carr and it got to the part with Olly from X factor and they were playing gay chicken. My uncle walked into the room and shouted "disgusting" at the TV and walked out, I sat in shock. 
He's a nice guy and we get along well but after that, I'm not really sure how to react to that. I'm 19 and gay but it's not something I really talk about, I wouldn't lie about my sexuality though, if that makes any sense.
He's a nice guy and we get along well but after that, I'm not really sure how to react to that. I'm 19 and gay but it's not something I really talk about, I wouldn't lie about my sexuality though, if that makes any sense. 0
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Does he know you're gay?
:rolleyes:
If someone implies that your relationship is 'disguisting' it's hard not to be slightly offended ...
I'd say referring to two guys kissing as 'disguisting' pretty much implies he assumes any two guys kissing is disguisting ...
Are you mickmars' security guy?
He's not talking about the OP. He's quite happy to sit and spend friendly time with his nephew. The comment was directed at the TV not him.
Well, we'll have to agree to disagree and leave it there. Don't want a derailed thread like the one yesterday now do we.
Lets not get the fact that uncle thinks a lot of his nephew and treats him really well get in the way of an "outraged opinion" eh
nah mate thats the wrong answer. you say no if you aren't lol
What is gay chicken?
For a for weeks but I have the choice to leave earlier.
He doesn't know (to the best of my knowledge) that I'm gay.
Alan Carr can be very upfront about stuff, have you tried watching something like John Barrowman's saturday night show on BBC1 to see if he has a problem with him or that (I have a problem with it, which is that it is dire, but that is not the issue here
You've got to make that judgement call, and the latter option carries the largest risk or reward: at worst you may be rejected so you should have contingency plans for that including where to stay for at least the first night (being rejected at first does not mean they don't love you, it is usually just too great a shock which they need time to come to terms with); alternatively because you have been honest with them about yourself, you may change their views about gay people perhaps not there and then, but quite quickly, and your friendship becomes that much closer.
Whatever you do, I wish you the very best.
He will know, how could he not?
Is'nt your sphincter the muscles that stop acid reflux at the entrance to the stomach??? lol
He doesn't know he is gay and if he did, calling his lifestyle disgusting his hardly treating him well is it?
Hates Carr
OK with Barrowman
Query Barbra Streisand.
It's a bit like the Spy-In-The-Cab, isn't it?
This is what comes of not being open with people and it isn't a pretty picture of you - you accept someone's hospitality, accept his affection for you, then sit and pick over attitudes, condemn, and get on the internet to have a big discussion about it.
This is your uncle. He doesn't like Alan Carr. Neither do I - he grates on me. In my defence, however, Julian Clary used to make me laugh my head off. What does that tell you? Not a lot really.
I really think it's time to get over yourself. Don't sit there eating the man's food and sleeping in his house, being friendly and nice to his face while mentally accusing him of unfashionable thinking and a questionable taste in comedians.
Either ship out and find someone whose every thought meets your approval or man up and tell your family you're gay.
OP, I can understand you wondering about the comment, albeit being only one word. However, it's unfair to judge your uncle just on the basis of that - it's not as if he used one of the many other nasty words that have been used to describe gay men in the past or went into a long rant about homosexuals, so you don't know he was talking about the sexuality of the people involved. If he's made homophobic comments in the past, that's different, but I doubt that as you've said you get on well and things have been going fine while you've been there.
If you feel up to having the debate, bring up the subject with him (I'm not saying come out to him) and see how it goes. If you don't particularly fancy starting that conversation (fair enough, it could have all sorts of repercussions), then treat your stay with them as nothing more than a holiday with family. This was a comment that you don't appear to have heard before, so there's probably not much chance of hearing it again. Enjoy your break.
This is what the OP implied from his post, and as that is all we have to go on, that was what my comment was based on. nice to know your views on Alan Carr though.:)