I have a bitchy resting face. I am perfectly happy but look like a moody cow. When I am fed up though, boy my face really lets you know about it. I am going off to practice being unscrutable.
- ask him whether it is important to him for you to be happy. (the answer should of course be 'yes').
- tell him that one thing that DOES make you unhappy (even if well intentioned on his part) is when he continually asks 'what's wrong' or says you 'have a tone'.
Explain that if he genuinely does have yours and his best interests at heart he will desist from saying the aforementioned things with immediate effect!
He may make the odd slip, and for that perhaps a little bit of patience should be advised, but not too much. A simple reminder of the above and that should do the trick!
If this fails, we shall have to elevate this to 'stage 2'. ;-)
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I meant inscrutable!!!
What I was thinking...I had a 'friend' who was like this after his wife had an affair.
- ask him whether it is important to him for you to be happy. (the answer should of course be 'yes').
- tell him that one thing that DOES make you unhappy (even if well intentioned on his part) is when he continually asks 'what's wrong' or says you 'have a tone'.
Explain that if he genuinely does have yours and his best interests at heart he will desist from saying the aforementioned things with immediate effect!
He may make the odd slip, and for that perhaps a little bit of patience should be advised, but not too much. A simple reminder of the above and that should do the trick!
If this fails, we shall have to elevate this to 'stage 2'. ;-)
Good luck!
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