The school bully...what would you do?
egghead1
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To those who were bullied at school and are now adults(30 somethings) Say the bully had been particularly awful(head down toilet rather than a kick up the ass)what would you do if you saw the bully now?
Do you believe what hapens as a child is not the same person?Or would you /have you exacted revenge?
Do you believe what hapens as a child is not the same person?Or would you /have you exacted revenge?
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Would totally ignore now-adult bully if seen in passing. Would not stoop to revenge or say anything unpleasant. If stuck with that person for longer, I would be civil.
As awful that person was, they may well have changed but we still remember what they did and carry the after effects of the bullying. However, you don't have to let the unpleasantness rule your life or dictate how you react as an adult.
I was never popular at school and missed out on a lot of stuff... to those who weren't nice to me... I now ignore and be polite to basically.
Life moves on and High School was years ago. Moving forward is hard but is a must.
Luckily, for both of us, I have never seen the hideous waste of skin in as many years.
Upon leaving university I had a four month break before starting my first graduate job. During this time I worked in a pub and on something like the second shift the previously unpleasant guy from school came in. The reverse effect occurred and without thinking I actually greeted him as a friend. About two weeks later, whilst I was having a beer with him, he confessed that he always looked back on his time at school as embarrassing, and wished he'd not bullied others. He had been genuinely surprised with my reaction upon seeing him again, because most people from school that he saw around didn't want to know him.
The thing is, he'd done a lot of growing up once he'd got out into the world of work, had found himself, and regretted his past actions. I think this is possibly quite common amongst school bullies after they become adults. So I would recommend that any of you who accidentally bump into someone keep an open mind.
Also, "revenge is a dish that is best served cold".
Hence, don't announce your plans on a forum, in case said ex-bully is a member.
At my school head flushing and being thrown into the school pond was a regular occurence for victims of th school bullys.
I was never bullied at school. They were afraid of my vicious temper and unwillingness to forget anything ~ I was a bit of a psycho when pushed, to be honest. Nobody ever picked on me.
But I did see bullies in action. One in particular I remember who tried to make the life of one lad, pretty bad. When he friend requested me on facebook, I ignored the request.
I've heard others say that when they met old school bullies, post school, they were suddenly as nice as pie, and acted as though nothing had happened.
I was a precocious little shyte looking back, and probably deserved bullying. Thankfully, as well as being clever and a bit of a geek, I was also blessed with a fair amount of confidence. I'm quite aware that most bullying situations can't be solved by my method! Perhaps I was just bullied by particularly inept bullies.
Hopefully he's dead now so I won't run into him.
Anyway, I wouldn't ignore him in the street if I saw him. All the experience made ma stronger person.