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Caught my son...
simonipswich
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I have just had the mother of embarrassing situations... I walked in on my son and his friend in his bedroom engaged in oral sex, both naked on his bed. I knew they were spending a lot of time together and have known each other since secondary school but never realised in a month of Sunday’s that they were this close. His mate saw me, I turned and left closing the door. They are both still up there but I haven’t a clue what the heck I am going to say next. Help! They are both 17 btw.
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Then see how it goes from there. But no doubt he will be pretty embarassed about it as well!
Either way, I'd be even more mortified if my mother questioned me or bought the subject up again. Say nothing and pretend it never happened.
Or, suggest he gets a lock on his bedroom door. Or knock and wait for a reply next time?
Male.
I have to admit I didn't knock as the door was slightly ajar so just walked in assuming they were on his Play Station.
I do believe you owe your son an apology for walking in on him, after all at 17, he is entitled to some privacy, what could be a sensible move, would be to make some kind of joke about it, this would cut the atmosphere, and help build the confidence that may have been broken.
Oh, and I’m so pleased I achieved my 1000th post in this particular thread
edit: I see that the friend was male. Well if you're okay with him being gay then you could just let him know that it's fine and then ignore it.
What kind of relationship do you have with him?
Do you usually knock his door before entering? If not then don't feel bad.
How do you feel about your son doing this under your roof?
I would imagine he is totally mortified but to have a honest relationship with him, I would imagine you have to clear the air.
Good luck.
P.S My son is just turning a teenager, I am dreading when his hormones kick in big style.
If your son is gay, your wife will probably already know, mothers usually do
Why?
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1000th
We have a very good relationship and I have no problem with him being gay, my concern is that he is happy. I don't have a problem him doing this under my roof, it's his roof too.
Usually if his door is closed, then I knock but if it's ajar he's cool about me walking in and has never said anything.
I don't know who was more shocked, me or his friend with my son's thing in his mouth. :cool:
I guess I am going to have to say something to him, we have always been open in the past, perhaps "here's a lock for the door and some KY"!
Opps, I got carried away with the excitment
Mind you, after reading this thread, my 4 year old is grounded until he's at least 25
Do you have teenagers?:)
No wife, his mother left him when he was baby so with help I've brought him up, my girlfriend is out at a party tonight, hen night.
What's that got to do with it?
I'm very careful what information I disclose online.
Did you know he was gay?
I'm asking because it might just be that he's confused, and needs someone to explain it all to. I know I had a similar situation when I was his age, and it was confusing for me and I had no-one to talk too.
He might also be more willing to bring it up if you start the convo in the first place and by saying that you are ok with it whichever he prefers. If he doesn't want to talk about it straight away tell him that you'll be there if he ever wants to chat about it.
Or i guess you could just say sorry and buy him a lock for his door....
Just say the things you have just posted here. I think he is very lucky to have a dad like you. I don't think you have a thing to worry about.:) Still it puzzles me why he would do this with the door ajar
I can remember kissing my boyfriend on my bed and my dad went ape and kicked him out.:mad:
What on earth for
Ok, let me put it this way. When you were growing up did you not try to rebel, my son is a lovely person but I think he thinks I am from a different planet sometimes.
Let his friend go, and perhaps let your son know in some subtle way you are cool with things. He might be worried you will be shocked or disappointed!
Try telling my dad that, he was a bit on the strict side.
Let me make this clear, I’m not here to have a go at you; just trying to understand you, re your comment above, it may well be how your views come across to your son.
Children / teenagers these days are not as innocent as they once were.
See, in a previous post, you said you dad kicked your bf out for kissing you, now, if you got the impression from that experience that kissing is wrong, how can you translate kissing is perfectly acceptable over to your son.