Are we dating or not? Confused and not sure how to clarify...
Ive been out with this guy, must be around 6 times now, slept with him, stayed round his a bunch of times, out to dinner, days out etc..However neither of us have actually asked if we are actually properly dating and not had the 'exclusive' chat.
He's quite affectionate when we are together, in bed and while we are out sometimes. However we barely talk via text/phone . Is this odd? With my past exes we had some level of chit chat at some point in the day. Its usually me who initiates it when we do text.
When I'm on whatsapp i obviously sometimes see he's online, so i know he actually uses his phone in the day sometimes lol
Am i wasting my time? I think he likes me because he was the one who approached me first...Should i just ask where is this going? I asked if he wanted to meet up this week and he said yes , so I figure he still wants to see me right??
He's quite affectionate when we are together, in bed and while we are out sometimes. However we barely talk via text/phone . Is this odd? With my past exes we had some level of chit chat at some point in the day. Its usually me who initiates it when we do text.
When I'm on whatsapp i obviously sometimes see he's online, so i know he actually uses his phone in the day sometimes lol
Am i wasting my time? I think he likes me because he was the one who approached me first...Should i just ask where is this going? I asked if he wanted to meet up this week and he said yes , so I figure he still wants to see me right??
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But why not ask him?
Or dry the sex up and see what happens.
If not, then you're just 'seeing' each other.
well do you think i should ask him what were doing then? crank it up a notch?
Yes or else how will you know? We are all just guessing here
I wouldnt worry about the texts thing - I had to explain to my gf in the early weeks of our relationship that I am not a texter and to call me instead. I think this helped settle her mind.
I think that would depend on how much you want to know and whether it's worth the risk to what you actually have now. if you feel you can't continue as you are and need to know where you stand, then ask. If you are happy for such a relationship to develop from where you are at a natural pace, then leave it and enjoy what you have until such point as you really do need to know.
lol whys that
I dont understand this dating lark. Gone are the days where if you are seeing someone and sleeping with them then you just assume you are "together" - now its all about having the chat. I just dont get it!
Yes, it's changed since my day. i remember ending up in a relationshp without even realising it after a drunken night out and a "date" the following night" It didn't need saying, we both just assumed we were then in a relationship. I guess relationshps are a bit looser defined and need that clarification these days.
Think the advice here is easy - ask him what you are to each other.
unless the answer is yes youre not
sorted
I don't think that would work.
The OP is a man lol
lol
Yes, you guys are going out.
But he may be the type that isn't very good with texting/messaging and keeping in the touch. A lot of guys are like that. The more sensitive ones may be more needy but this guy sounds very independent.
Whatever you do, don't ask him! Just see how things go, you don't want it to be awkward. If you want something, then you initiate, if you don't, then walk away. Make up your own mind first about you want and initiate accordingly.
But yes, from what I can see here, you guys are an item.
Also does he scream your name or anything when he climaxes? Because if he does, then he is definitely "yo man".
It can still depend how mizhog is introduced and treated. Is it "This is mizhog my new boyfriend" or "This is mizhog"? Arm round shoulder (maybe more) or just "it's your round now".
Nor do I understand the need to 'chit chat' every single day, but that's just me.
we were both quite tipsy at the time...
doesnt have to be inane chit chat. just at least a text to say hello, hows your day kinda thing..
Yes, I understand that and to me it's unnecessary. It's a bit stalkerish to me.
Oh for the good old days, see each other a couple of times a week and maybe the odd phone call. No need to live in each other's pockets.