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    BerBer Posts: 24,562
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    As someone said in the story, instead of creating more upset for the murdered mans family by digging him up, wouldn't it be easier for the womans husband to be moved when the woman dies?
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    TolstoyTolstoy Posts: 3,605
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    The old lady is entitled to her plot as it was all agreed beforehand. As much as I can sympathise with the family of the murder victim wishing him to finally rest in peace and not be exhumed and reburied, it's the right decision in my opinion.
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    butterworthbutterworth Posts: 17,877
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    Could the old lady not be put 'on top of' her husband ? I thought that was pretty standard....
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    MoonyMoony Posts: 15,093
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    johnny_t wrote: »
    Could the old lady not be put 'on top of' her husband ? I thought that was pretty standard....

    I was thinking that too. Certainly seems to be common in my local cemetary - often see two or even 3 names on a headstone.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 26,389
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    What a horrible mistake to make, the Rev must be tormented on what to do. No easy fix because one side is going to be upset whatever happens.
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    rockerchickrockerchick Posts: 9,255
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    I think the body should be moved, although it will be upsetting for the murder victims family, the lady reserved the plot.
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    fainéantfainéant Posts: 2,654
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    There was a mistake and that is what should be rectified not accommodated.
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    adopteradopter Posts: 11,937
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    Leave Daniel Hastelow's body where it is. I'm more concerned about upsetting the living than the dead.
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    nessyfencernessyfencer Posts: 9,195
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    johnny_t wrote: »
    Could the old lady not be put 'on top of' her husband ? I thought that was pretty standard....
    Moony wrote: »
    I was thinking that too. Certainly seems to be common in my local cemetary - often see two or even 3 names on a headstone.

    Depends on the depth he is buried at. The depth he is buried at would have depended on the possible depth at the time.
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    butterworthbutterworth Posts: 17,877
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    adopter wrote: »
    Leave Daniel Hastelow's body where it is. I'm more concerned about upsetting the living than the dead.

    The old lady is still living, though....
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 26,389
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    johnny_t wrote: »
    Could the old lady not be put 'on top of' her husband ? I thought that was pretty standard....

    It says in the article at the bottom that double depth graves are not allowed there due to high water table.
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    MoonyMoony Posts: 15,093
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    nessyfencer wrote: »
    Depends on the depth he is buried at. The depth he is buried at would have depended on the possible depth at the time.

    Actually I just re-read the article and it does say at the bottom that double depth burials arent possible at that site due to the high water table.

    edit: Snap
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    butterworthbutterworth Posts: 17,877
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    johnny_t wrote: »
    Could the old lady not be put 'on top of' her husband ? I thought that was pretty standard....

    Now I've re-read the article, there appears to be some issue with double-depth graves because of the high water table.....:D
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    sidsgirlsidsgirl Posts: 4,425
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    adopter wrote: »
    Leave Daniel Hastelow's body where it is. I'm more concerned about upsetting the living than the dead.

    :confused: Well the widow is still alive and Daniel has been put in plot earmarked for her.
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    BigfeetBigfeet Posts: 14,180
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    sidsgirl wrote: »
    :confused: Well the widow is still alive and Daniel has been put in plot earmarked for her.

    I think adopter means move the widow's husband instead, when she dies, and bury them together.
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    butterworthbutterworth Posts: 17,877
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    Bigfeet wrote: »
    I think adopter means move the widow's husband instead, when she dies, and bury them together.

    But that still has the potential to upset her when she is alive (and presumably any children they may have)....

    It is unfortunate but I'd still go for moving the recent burial...
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    sidsgirlsidsgirl Posts: 4,425
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    johnny_t wrote: »

    It is unfortunate but I'd still go for moving the recent burial...


    I would too.
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    BigfeetBigfeet Posts: 14,180
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    johnny_t wrote: »
    But that still has the potential to upset her when she is alive (and presumably any children they may have)....

    It is unfortunate but I'd still go for moving the recent burial...

    Yes - I agree with you - sad for his family, but it's him who's in the wrong plot (although not his/their fault I know).
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    What name??What name?? Posts: 26,623
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    Ber wrote: »
    As someone said in the story, instead of creating more upset for the murdered mans family by digging him up, wouldn't it be easier for the womans husband to be moved when the woman dies?

    Yes.... cos that wouldn't be upsetting to their 5 children and granchildren nor to the widow whilst she visits his grave which she has arranged and paid for for the next 20 or 30 years and which she knows he would be turfed out of any day....:rolleyes:
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    BigfeetBigfeet Posts: 14,180
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    What name?? wrote: »
    Yes.... cos that wouldn't be upsetting to their 5 children and granchildren nor to the widow whilst she visits his grave which she has arranged and paid for for the next 20 or 30 years and which she knows he would be turfed out of any day....:rolleyes:

    Yes - there is that too, I agree - for the poor widow this would cause her lifelong turmoil, but the other solution - ie move the murdered man - would avoid that situation.
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    TraceyUKTraceyUK Posts: 2,382
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    Tough one this, but at end of day she reserved it and someone messed up so they need to fix it and maybe then mark the spot somehow so the same mistakes not made again.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 9,845
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    She reserved it, it should rightfully be hers. A mistake was made and it is up to the church to rectify it, not expect the widow to accommodate it.
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