Child surname when unmarried.
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I just wandered how many couple on here have had children and are not married, what surname did you give the child.
We gave ours my girlfriends. Acouple of people have asked why, my girlfriend had a private message on facebook asking why as if the baby isn't mine or something.
Is it usually the norm to give the child the fathers name? I didn't think anything of it, and we have reasons for picking the surname.
We gave ours my girlfriends. Acouple of people have asked why, my girlfriend had a private message on facebook asking why as if the baby isn't mine or something.
Is it usually the norm to give the child the fathers name? I didn't think anything of it, and we have reasons for picking the surname.
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i changed my name to that of the father of my youngest two children.
It's only ever going to cause confusion if a young kid doesn't have the same surname as the person who is acting as their guardian, at least until the kid is old enough to explain things for themselves.
Truth be told,this was because he had a major pap when i suggested otherwise before baby No1 was born 14 years ago.
It doesnt bother me too much,but as the very last in the line of my surname,it would of been nice for my name to continue.
Its all down to personal choice though, my elder two used to have a different name, that of the man they saw as their father, but not their biological father , and one of them was double barrelled with my surname, but after we split I changed them by deed poll to just my name
Are you keeping up?lol
My MIL would have had a total conniption if I'd not named them after their father. She told me even if the father won't ever be on the scene they should have his name. She changed her tune a few years later when her granddaughter was a single prior to giving birth ;-)
In these cases, is the father still around on a daily basis?
It's not uncommon to have kids before getting married.
LOL i wish my childs school did this, every time the infant/junior school rang me they asked for Mrs P and every year on the contact form i changed it to Miss C. Now they just ask for T's mom,this is secondary school now though.
It never bothered me,but did have to tell everyone where i worked,that if someone rang asking for Mrs P it was for me! I did miss a few calls over the years when workmates didnt realise
I don't think you should make anything of silly assumptions other people make, though I see the practicality of Si's thinking.
Me too
In my case, yes My father has always been around. My parents have always been together, it's just they don't believe in marriage.
Oh and we are together, just not fussed on getting married.
Doesn't bother me one iota that I have a different name to my child, why should it?
We've been together 22 years btw
In my case yes - we've been together 5 years, lived together for almost 5 years [:o] but have no intention of ever getting married.
Glad I have his surname, his side of the family are more loving and welcoming, unlike my mothers side.:D
There's no hint in the OP that there is one remaining parent or guardian. The question seems to be about a couple raising a child together but not married.
But I certainly wouldn't start doubting paternity if the child took the mother's name - I am quite shocked by that :eek: