Flipping nightmare. Having to endure watching drunken office workers porking like hyperactive chimpanzees in the stationary cupboard with their ties slung over their shoulder, kecks round their ankles, and shirt-tails flapping in wind. So glad I don't work in an office.
I do, and yeah, that's what we do every year at Christmas-time...
What ignorant tosh!
OP, it's your own time and your choice how you spend it. But you know that already of course. Don't let anyone draw you into discussing the matter but at the same time, don't sit rolling your eyes. If your colleagues are excited about it and looking forward to it, there's nothing wrong with that. You'd do well to remember these things are different strokes for different folks.
Flipping nightmare. Having to endure watching drunken office workers porking like hyperactive chimpanzees in the stationary cupboard with their ties slung over their shoulder, kecks round their ankles, and shirt-tails flapping in wind. So glad I don't work in an office.
I am going to my husbands 'doo' this year. Its being held in a lovely noodle bar, and I can't wait. I have even bought a new frock. I love going out :-)
My works one will be me, my two bosses and our partners. We tend to go to a posh restaurant and they pay. We leave the office at midday to go for pre dinner drinkies and stay there until about 6pm.
I really don't know why people find it so difficult to say no. Just tell them it's not really your thing and you wont be going. That's all there needs to be said.
I really don't know why people find it so difficult to say no. Just tell them it's not really your thing and you wont be going. That's all there needs to be said.
...it is difficult. Can you imagine being the ONLY one in the office who has said "NO". Its quite embarrassing I think, and so people find themselves having to say YES!
I have a similar situation - an email went round today saying that we have "A Christmas Jumper Day" when we all have to come in wearing silly Xmas jumpers and also give a donation to charity.
1 - I don't own an Xmas jumper and I am NOT gonna go and buy one just for this!
2 - I don't give money to charity - I'm skint enough as it is, without 'donating' as well
I AM gonna feel embarrassed saying "NO - not wearing one" - and its the same thing with these stupid parties!!!
[QUOTE=deans6571;75710613I AM gonna feel embarrassed saying "NO - not wearing one" - and its the same thing with these stupid parties!!![/QUOTE]
No, I wouldn't want to buy a jumper just for this, but how about a Christmas hat or those teeny bopper things with antlers ? You can pick them up really cheap and you will have made an effort.
People like that are truly the stuff of nightmares and are generally the reason why works parties are so unbearable. Best to lock all these crazy, wacky people into one big room and let them compete with each other to be the centre of attention.
How? They are so much fun. I have crazy friends, they can be the centre of attention. They are the ones that create a great atmosphere. But, those that are sane are just boring. They make the time go quick.
Well, Lil'M, I'm taking my employees out the last Saturday before Christmas, and as one is leaving next week, there's a spare place.
We're going to see "Book Of Mormon" in the West End, then to an excellent south Indian restaurant just off TCR.
How does that grab you?
Well, I am up for it, of you are paying. My company have weekly lunches and we all pay. I am broke every week going to these team lunches. It is annoying. I sit there and eat my lunch while they natter on about work. If there is one hour in the working day, that we are free, we have to discuss work. Please, let's talk about something else.
my work cancelled ours as no one likes each other enough to go
Be glad. I reckon my team secretly despises me but won't be man/woman enough to admit it. I wish they did then we can all breathe and I don't have to work in every day with this awkward tension.
If I don't like someone, I outright say it. Truthfully, I am indifferent to everyone.
I would echo every one here who has advised you not to lie and to simply say "I will not be attending thanks".
You do not need to give a reason.
^^ Agree with this 100%.
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This year I'm off out the people I work with on site for the Christmas party and I'm going to the sales staff Christmas party (the gorgeous, young trainee sales lady and her boss invited me and a couple of others along. I tell yis, if I was single....). I'm not going to the office Christmas party though because I'm never there, rarely have dealings with people from the office and thus don't really know anyone from there. The office people think I'm anti-social, but I'd rather not just be a spare part in the corner. I'd rather hang out with people I know and like. I've just told the office people "I won't be attending, thanks" and they can make of that what they will.
Flipping nightmare. Having to endure watching drunken office workers porking like hyperactive chimpanzees in the stationary cupboard with their ties slung over their shoulder, kecks round their ankles, and shirt-tails flapping in wind. So glad I don't work in an office.
This didn't happen, did it? Office parties don't take place in the actual office except in films.
...it is difficult. Can you imagine being the ONLY one in the office who has said "NO". Its quite embarrassing I think, and so people find themselves having to say YES!
I have a similar situation - an email went round today saying that we have "A Christmas Jumper Day" when we all have to come in wearing silly Xmas jumpers and also give a donation to charity.
1 - I don't own an Xmas jumper and I am NOT gonna go and buy one just for this!
2 - I don't give money to charity - I'm skint enough as it is, without 'donating' as well
I AM gonna feel embarrassed saying "NO - not wearing one" - and its the same thing with these stupid parties!!!
You need to front up and grow a pair, otherwise you'll just get trodden on for the rest of your life.
We too are having a jumper day. I have said "no thanks".
We're having a party. I've said "no thanks".
Sorted and not embarrassed at all. In fact, I simply cannot see why anyone would be "embarrassed" by saying "no".
They are off to a Casino, whilst the meal, entertainment is paid for after a couple of drinks it could turn out into an expensive night.
That's the thing isn't it? It's not just giving up your free time to spend it with a load of numpties that you already spend 40 hours a week with and are probably sick of the sight of, but the fact that on top of that it's gonna cost you a small fortune. Unless you are lucky enough to work for an employer who will pay for everything which is unlikely, you'd by lucky to get away without spending a days wages on a 3 course meal and a night out with people you'd rather avoid.
For some of us it's just an expensive pain in the ass chore that we're expected to do endure at our own expense for fear it may look bad on us at work. People feel pressured into going against their will because they're worried about how it will affect their working relationship and reputation with the company boss. It's all about being a team player these days isn't it? None team players and employees that don't tow the line soon get shown the door one way or another or they like to make things awkward for them.
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You do not need to give a reason.
I do, and yeah, that's what we do every year at Christmas-time...
What ignorant tosh!
OP, it's your own time and your choice how you spend it. But you know that already of course. Don't let anyone draw you into discussing the matter but at the same time, don't sit rolling your eyes. If your colleagues are excited about it and looking forward to it, there's nothing wrong with that. You'd do well to remember these things are different strokes for different folks.
Where the hell do you work?
Not in an office. It's just their idea of what they think goes on.
My works one will be me, my two bosses and our partners. We tend to go to a posh restaurant and they pay. We leave the office at midday to go for pre dinner drinkies and stay there until about 6pm.
We're going to see "Book Of Mormon" in the West End, then to an excellent south Indian restaurant just off TCR.
How does that grab you?
...it is difficult. Can you imagine being the ONLY one in the office who has said "NO". Its quite embarrassing I think, and so people find themselves having to say YES!
I have a similar situation - an email went round today saying that we have "A Christmas Jumper Day" when we all have to come in wearing silly Xmas jumpers and also give a donation to charity.
1 - I don't own an Xmas jumper and I am NOT gonna go and buy one just for this!
2 - I don't give money to charity - I'm skint enough as it is, without 'donating' as well
I AM gonna feel embarrassed saying "NO - not wearing one" - and its the same thing with these stupid parties!!!
Boris Johnson's Office?
No, I wouldn't want to buy a jumper just for this, but how about a Christmas hat or those teeny bopper things with antlers ? You can pick them up really cheap and you will have made an effort.
Oh well that explains it then.
How? They are so much fun. I have crazy friends, they can be the centre of attention. They are the ones that create a great atmosphere. But, those that are sane are just boring. They make the time go quick.
Well, I am up for it, of you are paying. My company have weekly lunches and we all pay. I am broke every week going to these team lunches. It is annoying. I sit there and eat my lunch while they natter on about work. If there is one hour in the working day, that we are free, we have to discuss work. Please, let's talk about something else.
Be glad. I reckon my team secretly despises me but won't be man/woman enough to admit it. I wish they did then we can all breathe and I don't have to work in every day with this awkward tension.
If I don't like someone, I outright say it. Truthfully, I am indifferent to everyone.
^^ Agree with this 100%.
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This year I'm off out the people I work with on site for the Christmas party and I'm going to the sales staff Christmas party (the gorgeous, young trainee sales lady and her boss invited me and a couple of others along. I tell yis, if I was single....). I'm not going to the office Christmas party though because I'm never there, rarely have dealings with people from the office and thus don't really know anyone from there. The office people think I'm anti-social, but I'd rather not just be a spare part in the corner. I'd rather hang out with people I know and like. I've just told the office people "I won't be attending, thanks" and they can make of that what they will.
This didn't happen, did it? Office parties don't take place in the actual office except in films.
They are off to a Casino, whilst the meal, entertainment is paid for after a couple of drinks it could turn out into an expensive night.
You need to front up and grow a pair, otherwise you'll just get trodden on for the rest of your life.
We too are having a jumper day. I have said "no thanks".
We're having a party. I've said "no thanks".
Sorted and not embarrassed at all. In fact, I simply cannot see why anyone would be "embarrassed" by saying "no".
That's the thing isn't it? It's not just giving up your free time to spend it with a load of numpties that you already spend 40 hours a week with and are probably sick of the sight of, but the fact that on top of that it's gonna cost you a small fortune. Unless you are lucky enough to work for an employer who will pay for everything which is unlikely, you'd by lucky to get away without spending a days wages on a 3 course meal and a night out with people you'd rather avoid.
For some of us it's just an expensive pain in the ass chore that we're expected to do endure at our own expense for fear it may look bad on us at work. People feel pressured into going against their will because they're worried about how it will affect their working relationship and reputation with the company boss. It's all about being a team player these days isn't it? None team players and employees that don't tow the line soon get shown the door one way or another or they like to make things awkward for them.