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Painful Sex!
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Hello! 
I have a new partner, my first for quite a while. Sometimes, sex can be quite painful - when we are in certain positions which allow for deeper penetration, and when he is thrusting with some enthusiasm...
This is quite painful for me, and I am not sure if this is considered 'normal' - I have no STD's, and I have a regular menstrual cycle - so it would seem there are no problems there. He is not unusually large - certainly enough! lol. But, not freakishly oversized I did wonder if it was just me being 'rusty' and out of practice, but it seems not.
It's been that long since I had a regular shag I cannot even remember if I used to find some positions painful - is this usual? Do other women find this happens to them ever?
Thanks in advance!
I have a new partner, my first for quite a while. Sometimes, sex can be quite painful - when we are in certain positions which allow for deeper penetration, and when he is thrusting with some enthusiasm...
This is quite painful for me, and I am not sure if this is considered 'normal' - I have no STD's, and I have a regular menstrual cycle - so it would seem there are no problems there. He is not unusually large - certainly enough! lol. But, not freakishly oversized I did wonder if it was just me being 'rusty' and out of practice, but it seems not.It's been that long since I had a regular shag I cannot even remember if I used to find some positions painful - is this usual? Do other women find this happens to them ever?
Thanks in advance!
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This, especially if as you say, you havent had sex for a while. Assuming he's turning you on and everythings *ahem* lubricated in the correct places then maybe he's on the large side. Maybe try to stick to positions that aren't so deep untill you become accommodated to his girth you lucky girl
ETA, it's a pain higher up inside, as if my womb is finding it painful, being moved :eek:
To add, I have a Gynefix IUD, could it be something like the IUD being pulled through pressure on the thread??
Mainly when I have both legs on his shoulders and he has me "lifted" off the bed
I am 42 have had 3 children with the same partner (my husband)..we have been together 20 years and I too get pain high up inside after sex sometimes..I have been tempted to g to GP to ask about this as sometimes it is just a bit of a stabbing pain and sometimes it actually takes my breath away..can go to bed..have sex,it may hurt a little in certain positions but can move a bit for it to be Ok..then get up in the morning and almost double up when it is at its worst.
Then some times can really go for it and no pain at all..
I am not wishing this on you Op but am glad to hear someone else feels the same..
But, especially with you saying you have an IUD, it may be worth getting a check up. I had an IUD and I thought it may have been that causing the pain but when I had it removed it was still the same.
I put up with it for a long time - until I became a bit disinterested in sex to be honest - and it seemed to be getting worse. In the end I went to the gynae and found that I had adhesions and the 'deep' sex was causing them to tear and scar, tear and scar, continuously.
If only I'd gone years before I could have got it sorted out so much more easily and avoided all the pain.
It's highly unlikely that this is your problem but if it does get worse then worth one short trip to the docs.
I am exactly the same, afterwards it's a little sore but in the morning I am doubled over
I have an IUD at the moment but I still had the same pain before I had it done
Having said all this..my periods also seem to have got more painful the last few years..and I am in more pain at the time of ovulation too.
Are men allowed in this thread?
It 'might' be IUD related - when Mrs C had one, she used to get discomfort in a few positions, and in some I'd feel it poking me back. Doesn't seem to have had as many problems since its been removed.
The thread issue does make itself apparent but I don't know if such a wee contraption would cause such pain if it was being tugged about
Sadly, I can't answer that one for you as I was on the other end (tugger as opposed to tuggee I suppose);
You could try a good lube and see if that helps any, or even see if alcohol does anything (ie, would a drink relax you a bit more) - failing that, if its only at certain times, it might be best to talk to your partner about it - I'm sure he would rather talk about it and learn what is good and what isn't for you both - the last thing he will be wanting to do is hurt you.
Tha'ts what I'd say. Talk to your partner and explain that you find certain positions painful. For all you know, he might just go "ok then, well we won't do it in those positions any more." Problem solved.
Truth is, if it hurts you, I doubt he'd want to keep doing it. Not if he's a nice guy, anyway.
I agree..feel like you are killing the mood when you say something..but find it all abit hard to relax and let it go if it is hurting..and yes the pain is nothing to do with alcohol or lubricant..it is like a bruised feeling inside..as if you have been battered in a certain area with sometime ssharp stabbing pains..I dont know how else to describe it..
Have been at home relaxing with my hsband and children last few days..Chrsitmas day was last time we did anything..and I still feel tender inside..(have eaten like a horse over the last few days though so that wont help:o)
Got to be worth having a chat with your GP - at the least he or she will have a better understanding of what the 'could be' scenarios are, and ill be able to get you sorted.
Hope you work it all out - in the meantime, just remember the number 69