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People who suddenly turn against you for no obvious reason
blueblade
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Have you ever come across this from friends, family or colleagues ? Someone you've formerly been on good terms with, suddenly and inexplicably turns against you and becomes either totally indifferent to you, or worse, an outright enemy ~ and you have absolutely no idea why. You search your mind to think if there's anything you've done or said which might have caused this problem, but you come up with nothing.
It seems next to impossible to actually ascertain a reason from the person themselves.
Alternatively, have you yourself ever turned against anyone for reasons which would have been unclear to the person concerned ? If so, why, and did you give the individual a reason.
It seems next to impossible to actually ascertain a reason from the person themselves.
Alternatively, have you yourself ever turned against anyone for reasons which would have been unclear to the person concerned ? If so, why, and did you give the individual a reason.
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Also it's worth considering not everyone is blessed with the same tranquility of mind as yourself, and they might just be in a massive shitty due to some inner turmoil and be accidently misdirecting said angst onto you. In which case they may well feel a bit shit about it later.
Might have been the noise, I couldn't keep her mouth shut.
my colleague acts like a right bitch to me & is constantly slagging me off!!!
ive made the assumption she doesnt like me because i only started there a little while ago & am already doing some of her jobs because i do them quicker & more efficently than her even though she has been there for years !!!
There is, but it's knowing what it is, and whether it would make any logical sense if spoken or written down.
Ask them what their problem is, then you'll know.
Perhaps you are doing too well blueblade.
It wouldn't be so bad if it we could have a decent conversation but it is all about her. She doesn't really want to know about anything else unless it's gossip and hearsay.
When you get a great deal of this it is very tiresome even when you don't want to be uncharitable and I recently muttered, hopefully in her hearing, along the lines of "Oh for goodness sake, get a hobby instead of standing around nattering all day."
I doubt she understands though after all this time and that's an example of someone (me) seeming friendly and then not.
PS I've just realised that that is her hobby!:D
If it's impossible to ascertain why then there isn't much you can do. It's horrible though isn't it?:(
Well its not surprising that she is like that then eh!.... no-one likes a new person coming in and looking like they are 'taking over'..... i would slow down a bit if i were you and then she might be a bit friendlier......;)
In my experience it's happened to me ( I think ) because someone has said something about me which is either untrue or exaggerated. In the other way, I have changed my opinion of someone because of something I've found out about them. Problem is you don't always know who's being honest, but I try and work that out myself.
maybe she needs to cut down on the bitching & up her game :D
What are you on about ? It's not a neighbour, and I haven't had a BBQ this year.
I wish it was a neighbour. You don't have to have anything to do with them.
Easier said than done when someone is pretty much blanking you.
That might be close to the truth. Someone saying something about you behind your back, which is a lie.
yea of course its happend probably to everyone at some point, if they dont explain why i just dont bother with them unless they want to explain why.
I still have a chat to him when I see him out, and he came to my 21st, but I don't go out with him any more.