I could never go on with the relationship....as many have said the trust has gone and everytime i was not with him i would always be wondering.Also i would probably be on edge and never feel complete in the relationship incase it happerned again.
Would you accept getting an STI from a cheating partner with such equanimity? Or the news that your husband had got another woman pregnant? Would you just shrug it off?
Or maybe, because you yourself cant be faithful, you would accept a partners infidelity?
I've never cheated when i've been in a relationship...
Cheating wouldn't bother me, not using protection however is another matter entirely. Monogamy isn't essential for me, basic intelligence however, is.
Nope. I highlighted the differences between forgiveness and stupidity already.
Re-read my post.
I did read your post....in my opinion, when you forgive someone an act, it's easier to let them back into your life...probably to do it to you again! Okay, I'll give you 'stupidly forgiving' !
I did read your post....in my opinion, when you forgive someone an act, it's easier to let them back into your life...probably to do it to you again! Okay, I'll give you 'stupidly forgiving' !
That's why I say I could forgive somebody no problem.
But carrying on the relationship imo would be stupid. They're only gonna try harder to not get caught again
It all depends on your history together. It all depends on the person who has cheated and how it has affected them too. It all depends on whether you gave thr trust a chance to come back in time or quit straight away.
I recently found out my OH cheated on me. I was absolutely crushed and devastated. I agreed to take him back as I love him. My question is quite simply this....; Could you or would you forgive your partner if they admitted to cheating on you?
Without kids, no. With kids in the picture - I might try to 'work' at it. I'm not a terribly forgiving person & a bit all or nothing, so I'm not sure I'd have the patience. But you never know til you're there...
It also majorly depends on the type of cheating - a ons is one thing - a long term affair is very different.
The problem is, is that is sooo much easier for them to do it a second time, as they have already had a bit of practice! The lies and excuses and deceit come easier, they can recycle the same old lines and excuses!
Ah, but you'll also be more alert than the first time round. You'll probably spot the signs sooner...;)
Without kids, no. With kids in the picture - I might try to 'work' at it. I'm not a terribly forgiving person & a bit all or nothing, so I'm not sure I'd have the patience. But you never know til you're there...
It also majorly depends on the type of cheating - a ons is one thing - a long term affair is very different.
True. With children in the picture, it's a whole other set of circumstances to deal with, not just your own feelings
I recently found out my OH cheated on me. I was absolutely crushed and devastated. I agreed to take him back as I love him. My question is quite simply this....; Could you or would you forgive your partner if they admitted to cheating on you?
No. Trust would be gone. This would change the nature of the relationship forever and since change is what the cheating party wants, then he'd best have it.
I wouldn't forgive they'd be history as soon as I found out about it. I've never cheated and never would despite having numerous opportunities to cheat. If a woman's gone too far or wouldn't take no for an answer I've always told whoever I was with about her and what she was up to.
Relationships are built on trust and after being betrayed I reckon it would be difficult for me to ever completely trust someone again.
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i took my ex-husband back only for him to do it again!!:eek::D
Think there must be a lot to that age old saying...once a cheater, always a cheater...unfortunately
You'd have to be a complete idiot to take someone back who cheated on you. No ifs or but. Regardless of context. A complete idiot.
I could never go on with the relationship....as many have said the trust has gone and everytime i was not with him i would always be wondering.Also i would probably be on edge and never feel complete in the relationship incase it happerned again.
Or just forgiving?
Nope. I highlighted the differences between forgiveness and stupidity already.
Re-read my post.
I've never cheated when i've been in a relationship...
Cheating wouldn't bother me, not using protection however is another matter entirely. Monogamy isn't essential for me, basic intelligence however, is.
I did read your post....in my opinion, when you forgive someone an act, it's easier to let them back into your life...probably to do it to you again! Okay, I'll give you 'stupidly forgiving' !
That's why I say I could forgive somebody no problem.
But carrying on the relationship imo would be stupid. They're only gonna try harder to not get caught again
Talk about a kick in the guts ........
Nope. No way, no how - no second chance.
It also majorly depends on the type of cheating - a ons is one thing - a long term affair is very different.
Ah, but you'll also be more alert than the first time round. You'll probably spot the signs sooner...;)
Result!
Don't tell Stoatie though, he'll be devastated lol
True. With children in the picture, it's a whole other set of circumstances to deal with, not just your own feelings
No. Trust would be gone. This would change the nature of the relationship forever and since change is what the cheating party wants, then he'd best have it.
I wouldn't recommend it, the hurt is not easy to get over.
being nosey now...are you still together?
It would depress me and I wouldn't see them in the same light again.
I would forgive and forget in time, after we'd split up and I'd moved on.
Relationships are built on trust and after being betrayed I reckon it would be difficult for me to ever completely trust someone again.
It would change the relationship and it wouldnt be worth continuing.