You don't sit there moping at your desk do you rob?
Every workplace I've been to have had people there who have varied topics of conversations. You normally get conversations about TV, what you've done at the weekend, things you're planning to do and discussions about work. Of course people mention their kids and relationships but not all the time, and only in relation to things they had been doing.
Cheer up and start participating in conversations, or learn to change them to your advantage. No one likes a misery guts.
You don't sit there moping at your desk do you rob?
Every workplace I've been to have had people there who have varied topics of conversations. You normally get conversations about TV, what you've done at the weekend, things you're planning to do and discussions about work. Of course people mention their kids and relationships but not all the time, and only in relation to things they had been doing.
Cheer up and start participating in conversations, or learn to change them to your advantage. No one likes a misery guts.
You don't sit there moping at your desk do you rob?
Every workplace I've been to have had people there who have varied topics of conversations. You normally get conversations about TV, what you've done at the weekend, things you're planning to do and discussions about work. Of course people mention their kids and relationships but not all the time, and only in relation to things they had been doing.
Cheer up and start participating in conversations, or learn to change them to your advantage. No one likes a misery guts.
I've worked in 4 separate office environments longterm, and to be honest it can be difficult at times if you're single - heaven forbid if you're single for an extended period, since the gossipers start to work on you - if you're not part of the married/couple/kids club, you're on the 'outside'.
It can be a subtle exclusion at times, but it's definitely there.
I've worked in 4 separate office environments longterm, and to be honest it can be difficult at times if you're single - heaven forbid if you're single for an extended period, since the gossipers start to work on you - if you're not part of the married/couple/kids club, you're on the 'outside'.
It can be a subtle exclusion at times, but it's definitely there.
I've worked in 4 separate office environments longterm, and to be honest it can be difficult at times if you're single - heaven forbid if you're single for an extended period, since the gossipers start to work on you - if you're not part of the married/couple/kids club, you're on the 'outside'.
It can be a subtle exclusion at times, but it's definitely there.
I don't have much trouble being the long term single where I work (although I share that mantle with another work colleague at present), I think where it becomes noticeable is at outings or socialising where you are the "last one standing", I have been known to be called the "emergency boyfriend" but most of the time I stick out like a sore thumb, everyone else is coupled up and talking about families, babies and children - something I have no experience of! That's awkward. Then you have family members who worry that you've not found anyone and either worry you won't have children (if you don't want children, that's an extra worry) or are still in the closet and are secretly gay. I haven't had the latter suspicions laid on me by family yet - thankfully, although I have been asked out by men on many an occasion. Flattered, but politely refused as I don't see men in that way.
The other problem is with meeting other singles. Numbers drop off in your mid to late 20's from experience. The women I know who are single mostly don't want a relationship or have issues (still in love with an ex, baggage, mental health issues which impact on any potential relationship, etc). When you have been single for as long as I have, people drop the whole setting you up on blind dates thing and just accept you for being single. That's a good thing in one way if you love your independence. Not when you feel like an outsider. Then you get everyone saying "don't look for someone". I'd advocate that purely because you don't want to be looking for someone else, you want to be doing your own thing in life, but then again - if we all stopped looking, dating sites would be out of business!
Then again, from experience, I always got told that I "would make someone else a very special lady someday" every time I was rejected when I did the dating sites or plucked up the courage to do the positive thing and ask someone out. Problem is, no-one wants to be that "someone else"! Being consistently rejected, heartbroken and even having someone attempt to scam me was bringing on a constant stream of negativity and misery. I won't do dating again. Feel all the better for it.
Then again, from experience, I always got told that I "would make someone else a very special lady someday" every time I was rejected when I did the dating sites or plucked up the courage to do the positive thing and ask someone out. Problem is, no-one wants to be that "someone else"! Being consistently rejected, heartbroken and even having someone attempt to scam me was bringing on a constant stream of negativity and misery. I won't do dating again. Feel all the better for it.
Fair play to you, hope you find happiness. A lot of people always phrase the "there's someone out there for everyone" "you'll find someone when you're not looking" and other rather clichiac responses which just aren't true are they?
I'm 21 and single. I've always been single. I've been flirting with a very nice Italian girl, but don't really know whether or not she is interested in me. At the moment, to be honest, I don't really feel that bothered about relationships. I've got enough to do with all my university work and, from my past experience, I see the whole 'dating' malarky as a lot of stress which I currently haven't got the time for. In addition, from what I've read and heard about sex, it doesn't look like anything incredible unless it is with someone amazing. In fact, sex per se actually looks pretty grim.:eek: It looks like one of those things for which you need a really strong affection for the other person.
Fair play to you, hope you find happiness. A lot of people always phrase the "there's someone out there for everyone" "you'll find someone when you're not looking" and other rather clichiac responses which just aren't true are they?
I get that all the time - still (although it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be). I'm not going to judge or dismiss them as untrue, although I can see the point of doing your own thing being more attractive to other people. It just gets tiring when you hear that tired cliche all the time.
Sadly, you can't really talk about the subject of being long term single on this forum, because people just put up a certain three or six letter name beginning with 'Rob'.
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Every workplace I've been to have had people there who have varied topics of conversations. You normally get conversations about TV, what you've done at the weekend, things you're planning to do and discussions about work. Of course people mention their kids and relationships but not all the time, and only in relation to things they had been doing.
Cheer up and start participating in conversations, or learn to change them to your advantage. No one likes a misery guts.
You would be surprised, also relationships bring confidence.
Well they link it in with other things.
Lucky.
I try too.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEHqPCA_lzQ
It can be a subtle exclusion at times, but it's definitely there.
Very true unfortunatly.
The other problem is with meeting other singles. Numbers drop off in your mid to late 20's from experience. The women I know who are single mostly don't want a relationship or have issues (still in love with an ex, baggage, mental health issues which impact on any potential relationship, etc). When you have been single for as long as I have, people drop the whole setting you up on blind dates thing and just accept you for being single. That's a good thing in one way if you love your independence. Not when you feel like an outsider. Then you get everyone saying "don't look for someone". I'd advocate that purely because you don't want to be looking for someone else, you want to be doing your own thing in life, but then again - if we all stopped looking, dating sites would be out of business!
Then again, from experience, I always got told that I "would make someone else a very special lady someday" every time I was rejected when I did the dating sites or plucked up the courage to do the positive thing and ask someone out. Problem is, no-one wants to be that "someone else"! Being consistently rejected, heartbroken and even having someone attempt to scam me was bringing on a constant stream of negativity and misery. I won't do dating again. Feel all the better for it.
Fair play to you, hope you find happiness. A lot of people always phrase the "there's someone out there for everyone" "you'll find someone when you're not looking" and other rather clichiac responses which just aren't true are they?
Haha far from it
So, single and happy with it.:D
Sadly, you can't really talk about the subject of being long term single on this forum, because people just put up a certain three or six letter name beginning with 'Rob'.