He Wants To Meet Me ... Do I ?
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Ok HELP ! I have a small problem and I’m at a loss what to do !!
I met someone through facebook and we really got on well so I gave him my mobile number and we began to text each other every day I really really liked him, and it begin to get a bit on the sexual side which was fine. He then suggested that we should talk over the phone so I agreed and phoned him but as soon I started to talk to him ... well the only way I can describe it is a bad vibe about him. It was nothing that he said to me it was just him.
I tried a few more times chatting over the phone with him but again there is something I can’t put my finger on but I just don’t like talking to him, after that I decided to give him a wide birth, he is still my friend on facebook and he will text me things like “hi how are ?” from time to time, but that has been it for about a month or so.
Now he has been told me that he has cancer and its terminal so he wants to met me my first response was to say yes because I thought I didn’t want him to die without ever meeting him, but now the more I’m thinking about it and the more he is texting me I realise I really really don’t want to meet him as a friend or anything, don’t get me wrong he seems nice enough but I can’t shake this feeling that there is something not quite right about him, I’m also wondering about this whole cancer business is it for real ??
So do I meet up with him feeling the way I do??? How on earth can I tell him that he freaks me out ??? or do I just block him from my life completely ?? help !!
I met someone through facebook and we really got on well so I gave him my mobile number and we began to text each other every day I really really liked him, and it begin to get a bit on the sexual side which was fine. He then suggested that we should talk over the phone so I agreed and phoned him but as soon I started to talk to him ... well the only way I can describe it is a bad vibe about him. It was nothing that he said to me it was just him.
I tried a few more times chatting over the phone with him but again there is something I can’t put my finger on but I just don’t like talking to him, after that I decided to give him a wide birth, he is still my friend on facebook and he will text me things like “hi how are ?” from time to time, but that has been it for about a month or so.
Now he has been told me that he has cancer and its terminal so he wants to met me my first response was to say yes because I thought I didn’t want him to die without ever meeting him, but now the more I’m thinking about it and the more he is texting me I realise I really really don’t want to meet him as a friend or anything, don’t get me wrong he seems nice enough but I can’t shake this feeling that there is something not quite right about him, I’m also wondering about this whole cancer business is it for real ??
So do I meet up with him feeling the way I do??? How on earth can I tell him that he freaks me out ??? or do I just block him from my life completely ?? help !!
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Some people can cope with these situations and some cant. If your getting a 'vibe' that something isnt right then i would go with my instinct. Does anyone else on your facebook/friends know him?
Very weird.
Nothing else matters, even the Cancer.
Why would he want to meet a stranger from the internet as his last wish if he genuinely had cancer? I know someone who pulled all these tricks, although not via the internet, and pleading terminal cancer was one of them. Unvelievably, some people are that twisted that they can lie about something that bad for sympathy and attention.
Sorry if that comes over a bit harsh.
When did it become a place that you meet 'new' people etc, like a dating site?
I second this, trust the little voice within.
Sounds fishy to me.
It's a place for both things. Networking with people you know and with people you don't know (yet).
As others have said, I don't see why having cancer suddenly makes it important he meets you, especially if you've never met before. If you were a long lost ex, you could perhaps understand it. But a stranger? The very fact he has told a stranger such a personal detail in itself is a little odd. I appreciate you know each other online but until you meet, you don't really know someone.
I would go with your instinct and just apologise and say you're not comfortable meeting people off the internet. Cancer or no cancer, you don't feel comfortable with this person and you shouldn't ignore that, whatever his situation is.
I'd say go with your gut instinct; you didn't want to meet him before the mention of cancer, so deciding to meet him because he has mentioned it is not a good reason to override your sense of wrongness. If anything, it would add to it...?
The people have spoken... and I am pleased to report that in this particular situation, the people are 100% correct.
Emotional blackmail is one of the oldest tricks in the book. Surprised that you haven't received an email yet about someone in a life threatening situation, that can only be resolved by sending your paycheck through Western Union to an anonymous P.O. box in Nigeria.
So with that in mind, your OP should be asking..
How do I tell him I'm not going to meet him as ignoring him hasn't worked?
its not worth risking your safety.
So i would agree with all the other posters and avoid him.
I agree remove him from your friends list and forget him
Did you not read about a girl who was killed a few weeks back because she lied to her parents and met up with someone who she met online?
You’re all right though I’m not comfortable with meeting him so I really shouldn’t cancer or no cancer, I think it may be best to block him so he can’t get in touch with me.