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leicslad46
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I have drank since euro 2004 when i used to watch the matches with a pint or two at home. I originally drank lager but moved on to vodka around four years ago. I came home from visiting my dad who was dying from cancer and looked in the drinks cabinet and tried the vodka which was left over from christmas to cope. I liked it and started to move away from lager and drink only vodka. But since the move to vodka there has been a downward spiral that has caused issues. Things came to a head last weekend that led me to say never again regarding the drinking. The resolve has been strong up until yesterday. But with this weekend being a special one with it being easter i have been wanting to have one but easter this year coincides with my dads anniversary falling on monday. I dont want to rock the boat but it is a thoroughly miserable atmosphere. I dont know what to do. Like i have said there has been issues and trust has gone out the window
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Have you spoken to Cruse who offer help to get over grief? www.cruse.org.uk/
If not, do talk to your GP and don't go through this alone.
Then there's your dad's anniversary on Monday. Well, it can be hard to get through an anniversary like that without having a drink, if that's how you need to get past it, but (if you don't mind a suggestion) can you not think of it this way: your family don't like your drinking , and your father is your family, so to respect him and the rest you won't do it? Then on Tuesday you can get to your GP asap and talk about further support.
Only a suggestion, Leicslad, and I'm sorry if you feel I've over-stepped the mark in any way. I do hope you manage to keep (ie maintain) those promises to yourself this weekend. x
That is the reality you face if you don't stop while you have your health intact.
I drank heavily for years - read this book over two years ago and haven't had a drop since. It really, honestly and truly was that easy. If you are serious that you want to stop I really can't recommend this book highly enough.
The man was an absolute genius IMO.
Give it a look, they help u figure out the whole should I, shouldn't I internal debate. Good luck x
What Im trying to say is keep a perspective on things. And keep yourself occupied, go to the cinema instead of drinking or find something to do in the evenings that you enjoy so you're not thinking about having a drink.
please read the book I recommended ^^ - I swear to you it really doesn't have to be complicated and torturous - if you are committed to really wanting to stop that book will seal the deal. You have nothing to lose.
I am not on commission for the sales of this book incidentally:D. Lots of people I know quit smoking with the Allen Carr book - I thought I'd give the alcohol one a go. Believe me I wasn't just a social drinker - I drank a bottle of wine a night every single night - and more at weekends for many years. I couldn't imagine life without alcohol. The trick is in realising that it doesn't have to be hard or a sacrifice ..........it's bloody liberating.
I can feel and understand your yearning for a drink - this book changes your way of thinking - please try it.
Yeah ...............and? Get the book - I'm telling you - you wont look back believe me.
its more about WHY you drink
AA is genuinely worth going to, you should maybe think about giving it a try
My dad is in a home now aged 55. He drank up to a bottle and a half of vodka a day at one point. He shat himself, was abusive towards me, and tried to manipulate me into buying him drink. By the end of his drinking he had lost about half of his body weight. He fell over all the time. broke his hip twice. I had to beg him to let me call the ambulance. once he lay on the sofa for 2 weeks with a broken leg. I just thought he was ill. still to this day he swears he never had a problem with drink. And My grandmother who took him to live with her at the end of it all, says that he wasn't drinking a lot. when by that point he was drinking a half bottle a day. the mind boggles. I mean I know I drink more than I should at times, but I hope I never get to that point.
That's a good idea because the GP would be able to discuss all the treatment options in respect of dealing with alcohol as well.