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EbonyHamster
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About trying to get together with friends
I get they all have kids and a job and stuff but I've been trying to plan a birthday meal and it's just so hard, some can't get there till 9, the place shuts at 10 another doesn't know as she works that day
Aaarrrggghhhh!
Anyone else find this?
I get they all have kids and a job and stuff but I've been trying to plan a birthday meal and it's just so hard, some can't get there till 9, the place shuts at 10 another doesn't know as she works that day
Aaarrrggghhhh!
Anyone else find this?
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I hate meals n shit tbh.
This place is in no way big enough to have everyone here, we only have one settee (well sofa bed) so no room for everyone to sit
Do different things with different friends?
My birthday lasts about a month
We have no garden, tbh I'm not exactly child friendly so I wouldn't want kids there, they are at work/school anyway
I'm not forcing them
There's your first mistake. Chloroform, a mask, bit of rope and some mini sausage rolls. Sorted.
*quietly walks away from vosne*
Good rant. :cool::)
I'm so glad I turned down the invitation to your birthday party.
Are you planning to hold this event in your local library?
First off, read the signs. If you're available for them but they never seem to set aside time for you then they're not being fair. If they're not being fair then they're not being your friends.
Second, accept that some people aren't going to be able to make it.... period. Sometimes even the best friends have commitments that can't be moved.
Third, be yourself and please yourself. That's not in a nasty way. What I'm saying is do something that you want to do (going for as meal) and arrange it for a smaller group. But arrange drinks before and after so that people can drop in. Making a commitment for a big sit down meal might be a problem for some folk, but if you say "We'll be in X bar from 7:00 'til 8;00 for pre dinner drinks, and then back in after the meal at about 9:30" then at least you've left the door open. After that then it's up to them.
Bah...it would have been memorable.
Well, not for you obvs. The drugging and gimp mask would have seen to that
That should read a lot of effort.;-)
I must admit, I do like mini sausage rolls.
Just my opinion obv, albeit one I find increasingly the norm.
Exactly right. It is probably equally as expensive to hire a babysitter as it is to bring the kids with them. Birthday's might be a big thing to the individual, but they aren't to everyone. People with kids won't be that fussed about going out for each friend's birthday as it would cost a small fortune. I tend to think if you bring up an occasion to meet for a celebration and the suggestion isn't met with open arms from the start, then they are too polite to just say "no thanks".
The other places I suggested were too expensive for them and tbh looking at the menus they were right
Tbh the one who can't come till 9 was the one that suggested said place
Actually we do try to get together for birthdays, the last time we got together was for someone's birthday in march
Hardly :-/
Yes because parents never go out without their kids :-/
As said above we always try to get together for each others birthdays
Welcome to the real world.
Most people won't want to deal with you, unless there is something in it for them. That's a good definition of being a human being. If they are married and have kids, and you are single, don't expect them to have much time for you.
Some weird views here. I'm 33 and I've mates aged between 24 and 60 and we always do stuff for birthdays. Every year I have a BBQ and house party for mine, other mates birthdays we do similar or we go out for a meal or sometimes it's just a night out. Birthdays are great, a good excuse to celebrate, don't know where this notion of birthdays being for kids is from, sounds bloody miserable to me. Either that or bitter about birthdays because nobody showed up to your party once.
I've got a baby and I've certainly not changed how I treat my friends. It is possible to have kids and have a life. It's about balance and making time for everyone. Most times we just get a babysitter but if we can't then one of us stays in and the other goes out. This is pretty much the same for everyone of our mates who has kids.
It sounds like you might be unlucky that you've got mates who just become baby obsessed and can't possibly leave the babies side.
If your friends aren't putting in the effort then I'd question how good friends they really are.