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"One Hit and OUT!" Campaign
koantemplation
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It should be taught from an early age that if a partner or even a friend ever hits you, then that should be it and the relationship should be ended.
Of course no one should ever hit another person, but this is about making sure that any potential victims understand that they do not have to forgive or try to understand the other person, and that it really should be as simple as 'One hit and OUT!".
Of course no one should ever hit another person, but this is about making sure that any potential victims understand that they do not have to forgive or try to understand the other person, and that it really should be as simple as 'One hit and OUT!".
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Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviour where one abuses the other and it's entirely possible for a couple to, for example, get drunk and have a fight that they're both involved in. That's not domestic abuse, it's just a shitty relationship and it doen't make either of them an abusive partner.
Is the campaign to stop abuse of NHS staff, black and white?
Is the idea of zero tolerance wrong for someone you are supposed to love, but OK for someone who works with the public?
It really does need to be this black and white.
Also having a shitty relationship is not a good reason to allow someone to hit you just because they are drunk, if anything it is the reason for leaving someone.
Often where people have had accidents and suffered brain damage, they can become violent.
Agreed 100%. However, that's kind of what tends to happen here...
Sorry but that's too simplistic.
No one should hit another person just because 'they are behaving like a total idiot'.
If you apply the 'One hit' rule then yes the marriage should end as the person has hit them.
It requires proof - how easy would it be for a partner to get married - give themselves a black eye - get the other person put of the house and have a house easily and cheaply.
I know a man who has been on the receiving end - he left the house - and even after it was shown he had a) not hit her and b) she'd been abusing him he is still lodging with a friend...luckily, the marriage was so short there'll be no financial loss to him and he has come out of it with his head held high and her digging more holes for herself than a Council workman.
Is zero tolerance against violence against NHS staff, simplistic?
Or would you argue against that idea as well?
It must be a nice life in fairy land
la la la la....
The rule is for the person who has been hit, not for the law.
If everyone said to themselves, "The first time someone hits me, is the last time." then hopefully things would never get worse.
As people say, it is a pattern, and the best way to stop a pattern, is not to start one.
Ask any domestic violence worker if its as black and white as you see it. And because i know someone who works in this field i can tell you its not.
So we don't do anything?
It is just a guideline to live by, not something people have to do.
Like most guidelines, it is about defining a border. Whether people cross that border is up to them but at least they know it is there.
Like the 'No means No' campaign.
You said the first time someone hits you you should cut them out. The point is there is hitting someone every single day because you're abusive and then there's hitting someone once for any number of reasons. It's not right to hit someone but sometimes it happens, there are reasons it can happen. If we all lived by a 'one strike and you're out' rule the whole world would be cutting each other out
And what do you do if the person being abused does not want to leave the abuser.
Their moto "Stay safe, stay OUT".
Are they being too black and white?
LOL what are you smoking? can i have some?